Go Back   CurlTalk > Life > Non-hair discussion

Like Tree454Likes

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 10-18-2012, 01:17 PM   #1941
 
Join Date: Aug 2001
Posts: 2,160
Default

Wow. I just got a message from the girlfriend of a guy I was communicating with. It was the guy who seemed to be giving me the brushoff (but of course was the one I was most into). Apparently he was cheating on her with women from the site and she wanted to warn me about him.

I've gotten so jaded and suspicious. Not to sound corny, but are there really no good men out there? In this case it doesn't really matter, because it wasn't going anywhere. But I'd be really upset if I had gone out with him and started liking him and then this happened.

Have you ever gotten a message from a woman warning you about a man? I actually appreciated that she would take the time to do that, but I also know that it wasn't only out of the goodness of her heart. I'm sure part of it was driven by bitterness and wanting to blow up his spot, so to speak. She said he was a pathological liar. I could tell she was hurting badly just by the way she wrote about the situation.

In happier dating news, I'm still seeing the long-distance guy and I really like him. Just wish he lived closer! I also went on a first date with someone yesterday who seems really nice and is easy to talk to. He asked me out again, but I'm not sure what I want to do. He's OK looking but I'm not sure about the level of attraction.

Both of these guys seem really nice but, like I said, I'm so suspicious now!
__________________
In search of a lost signature...
ursula is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-19-2012, 06:19 PM   #1942
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

So the bloke asked me to meet him at a pub near my job for drinks tonight too....plus he still wants to hang tomorrow
envgirl likes this.
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 08:44 AM   #1943
 
anonymous_103081's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 454
Default

Woohoooo how did it go goddess???
__________________
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
anonymous_103081 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 10:42 AM   #1944
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

Lol....guess! As I suspected...he got tired way before I got off..which is 12:30 am...so the evening never worked out.

We should still be on for tonight...lets see if that works
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 04:17 PM   #1945
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

Alas....it is 6:15....I'm still home. The bloke and I had plans at 7pm....haven't heard from him since like 10 this morning. Being stood up again....
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 05:58 PM   #1946
 
anonymous_103081's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 454
Default

Have you heard from him???
__________________
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
anonymous_103081 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 06:06 PM   #1947
 
anonymous_103081's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 454
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by ursula View Post
Wow. I just got a message from the girlfriend of a guy I was communicating with. It was the guy who seemed to be giving me the brushoff (but of course was the one I was most into). Apparently he was cheating on her with women from the site and she wanted to warn me about him.

I've gotten so jaded and suspicious. Not to sound corny, but are there really no good men out there? In this case it doesn't really matter, because it wasn't going anywhere. But I'd be really upset if I had gone out with him and started liking him and then this happened.

Have you ever gotten a message from a woman warning you about a man? I actually appreciated that she would take the time to do that, but I also know that it wasn't only out of the goodness of her heart. I'm sure part of it was driven by bitterness and wanting to blow up his spot, so to speak. She said he was a pathological liar. I could tell she was hurting badly just by the way she wrote about the situation.

In happier dating news, I'm still seeing the long-distance guy and I really like him. Just wish he lived closer! I also went on a first date with someone yesterday who seems really nice and is easy to talk to. He asked me out again, but I'm not sure what I want to do. He's OK looking but I'm not sure about the level of attraction.

Both of these guys seem really nice but, like I said, I'm so suspicious now!
How are things on the Ursula front?? In reference to the cheater, don't let him cloud your judgment of other guys. Unfortunately there's always a cheater somewhere, but I've recently learned that if I'm constantly on defense about a guy, I kind of ruin it for myself by going through the suspect mentality- what if______? or what if ______?? I'm learning to take things literally one day at a time and it's so much easier that way. We have a tendency to want to plan every move the guy will make because we've been let down so many times. I've slipped up twice already with the guy I'm talking to, making generalized statements and assuming he's just like the rest and both times he's proved me wrong. I'm rambling. but my point is, get rid of the suspect mentality or it'll keep getting in the way.
__________________
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
anonymous_103081 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 06:36 PM   #1948
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks View Post
Have you heard from him???
Nope. another one bites the dust. It's obviously me. What else do these guys have in common...
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 06:39 PM   #1949
 
anonymous_103081's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 454
Default

Wow that really makes me mad. Maybe it's just a freak occurrence and something is keeping him from calling. How did your conversation end with him yesterday?
__________________
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
anonymous_103081 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 06:42 PM   #1950
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

I have a friend that's been cheated on a few times and she suspects every guy she dates
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 06:46 PM   #1951
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks View Post
Wow that really makes me mad. Maybe it's just a freak occurrence and something is keeping him from calling. How did your conversation end with him yesterday?
Well...he asked me out for a drink yesterday...but text he was falling asleep around 11 and said cam we just meet tomorrow. I said ok...we decided on 7. I text good morning sleepy head...around 10....and he said good morning....that was it
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 08:31 PM   #1952
 
anonymous_103081's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 454
Default

I'm sorry goddess... I know it sucks. I really don't understand the freaking blow off mentality... at least have the decency to let me know upfront if you've made the decision to pursue other options. I wanna know why he just straight up chose not to contact you at all.
texascurly likes this.
__________________
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
anonymous_103081 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 10:26 PM   #1953
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

So what I've decided is that I am not supposed to be happy....in anything that I do....when I try...I inevitably get disappointed and feel worse than before. I need to just accept that...stop trying...I am pretty comfy on my couch with my kindle..remote..and cat...so that is where I'll stay
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 10:44 PM   #1954
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

So I went to the bar with my girlfriend and listened to her decidedly better date. Even gave her advice. Ironic..huh?
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 11:15 PM   #1955
 
CanItBeChristine's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2000
Posts: 8,461
Default

I'm talking to this guy on OKCupid, and his name is Anthony, so I made a Billy Joel reference (because I sing "Movin' Out" to my nephew Anthony ALL the time...have been since he was two days old! "Anthony works at the grocery store...saving his pennies for some day...") and he shot back about how his friends would always tease him about working too hard and "saving his penny's for some day."

And, two more times, he mentioned "penny's."

LOVE LOVE LOVE a guy who can quote Billy Joel with me.

But penny's=pennies...no!

Ugh.

I feel like a snob. I really do. What if Anthony is The One?
CanItBeChristine is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-20-2012, 11:25 PM   #1956
 
GoddessCurls's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,609
Send a message via Yahoo to GoddessCurls
Default

Lol....I know what u mean...certain grammar and spelling issues drive me nuts. Maybe this is just one thing....maybe all his other grammar stuff will be fine. And no one is perfect
__________________
________________________
http://public.fotki.com/curlygirl1978/

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
GoddessCurls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-21-2012, 03:12 AM   #1957
 
Narnia's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 1,735
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks View Post
Wow that really makes me mad. Maybe it's just a freak occurrence and something is keeping him from calling. How did your conversation end with him yesterday?
Well...he asked me out for a drink yesterday...but text he was falling asleep around 11 and said cam we just meet tomorrow. I said ok...we decided on 7. I text good morning sleepy head...around 10....and he said good morning....that was it
Wow what a move! I'm sorry I don't understand the brush off at all. I was just talking to my guy friend about this and telling him "you'd be amazed at the positive response you'd get just by saying 'hey, I'm not that into this but it was great to meet you'". At least there's an element of respect involved with that.

NEXT
ursula and texascurly like this.
__________________
"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.
Narnia is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-21-2012, 06:12 AM   #1958
 
anonymous_103081's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 454
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls View Post
So what I've decided is that I am not supposed to be happy....in anything that I do....when I try...I inevitably get disappointed and feel worse than before. I need to just accept that...stop trying...I am pretty comfy on my couch with my kindle..remote..and cat...so that is where I'll stay
I really don't think your assumption is correct. I think because of how jacked up the world is, some of us have to kiss 11000000000093348902348 frogs to reach the prince (you and I being two of those people). I know exactly how you feel though. I've already found myself getting stressed out over Steve- we're at the few weeks mark when the guy either shows his true colors or just drops me for no reason, so I'm sitting here basically waiting for the other shoe to drop even though that's a crappy way to live. And honestly, if things don't work out with him, I'll probably have a nervous breakdown and just quit looking and expecting altogether. I honestly don't have enough heart left to start over with someone else...period.
__________________
25", hennahead, CO, goal: hip
anonymous_103081 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-21-2012, 06:55 AM   #1959
 
Join Date: Aug 2001
Posts: 2,160
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks View Post
Quote:
Originally Posted by GoddessCurls View Post
So what I've decided is that I am not supposed to be happy....in anything that I do....when I try...I inevitably get disappointed and feel worse than before. I need to just accept that...stop trying...I am pretty comfy on my couch with my kindle..remote..and cat...so that is where I'll stay
I really don't think your assumption is correct. I think because of how jacked up the world is, some of us have to kiss 11000000000093348902348 frogs to reach the prince (you and I being two of those people). I know exactly how you feel though. I've already found myself getting stressed out over Steve- we're at the few weeks mark when the guy either shows his true colors or just drops me for no reason, so I'm sitting here basically waiting for the other shoe to drop even though that's a crappy way to live. And honestly, if things don't work out with him, I'll probably have a nervous breakdown and just quit looking and expecting altogether. I honestly don't have enough heart left to start over with someone else...period.
Yeah, I don't know that the solution is. I agree with CoCo about the frog thing but I also agree that it can be so exhausting and upsetting.

Goddess: you are supposed to be happy! I do believe the right guy will come along for you but it sucks that there are always so many wrong ones in the way!

CoCo, I will be crossing my fingers for you and Steve. But it worries me that you have so much invested in him so soon. It might be too early to know if he's a frog or a prince, so I really hope you won't have a nervous breakdown if things don't work out. But I do hope it works out.
__________________
In search of a lost signature...
ursula is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-21-2012, 07:11 AM   #1960
 
Join Date: Aug 2001
Posts: 2,160
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by CoCoLoCks View Post
How are things on the Ursula front?? In reference to the cheater, don't let him cloud your judgment of other guys. Unfortunately there's always a cheater somewhere, but I've recently learned that if I'm constantly on defense about a guy, I kind of ruin it for myself by going through the suspect mentality- what if______? or what if ______?? I'm learning to take things literally one day at a time and it's so much easier that way. We have a tendency to want to plan every move the guy will make because we've been let down so many times. I've slipped up twice already with the guy I'm talking to, making generalized statements and assuming he's just like the rest and both times he's proved me wrong. I'm rambling. but my point is, get rid of the suspect mentality or it'll keep getting in the way.
Things are good on the Ursula front! I went on a date last night with a nice guy but it was really just one date. Even though it was a good date, I don't think we'll do it again, because 1) he was younger and I have a hard time taking younger men seriously, 2) he was really good looking but for some reason I wasn't really that attracted, 3) he was slightly awkward and nervous, etc.

I have to stop going out with these young men. There was another younger guy I went out with once, and it was fun, but I just kept feeling so old next to him. I don't know why. He was mature, I'm immature, I look young for my age--there was no obvious reason why I should have had such a hard time with the age difference, but I did. And he's been texting me a lot. I don't know what to say to him.

I still have the 2 very good prospects I mentioned above. One long distance one I like very much. We've been out 3 times and we're going out again next weekend. And then a local one I've been out with once but we also have plans to go out again. Like I said above, neither one is physically what I would normally consider really attractive, but the attraction is definitely there for the long distance one and maybe for the other. I probably won't know until I kiss him! But since the idea of kissing him isn't unappealing, I think that's a good sign!
__________________
In search of a lost signature...
ursula is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Trending Topics[-]hide

Thread Tools
Display Modes



Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -6. The time now is 04:47 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Copyright 2011 NaturallyCurly.com