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Old 08-16-2008, 08:29 AM   #21
 
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I'm so incredibly sorry, ninja..
I'm not trying to take up for him, (believe me, I'm not) but do you think it could be due to his depression? Do you think maybe he's having some sort of serious issues going on in his head that he needs help? sounds like he's running away... and that's not good. I'm really sorry this is happening. I'm just wondering about the depression thing... depression can make people act all sorts of irrational. ((( hugs )))
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Old 08-16-2008, 08:31 AM   #22
 
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I am sorry.

And I agree with what violets wrote.
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Old 08-16-2008, 08:41 AM   #23
 
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I'm so sorry, Ninja. I can't imagine how shocked you must be feeling right now. I do agree with RCW though. It shouldn't be that much work. Certainly not while you're dating/engaged.

I am very sorry your hurting now, but I can't help but think that you're probably better off. It sounds like his issues have more to do with him that you. I know that doesn't help now. I hope you find some peace. We're all here for you. ((HUGS))
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Old 08-16-2008, 08:49 AM   #24
 
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I'm sorry
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Old 08-16-2008, 09:18 AM   #25
 
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I am so sorry. I also agree with RCW and also Lolo. My thoughts are with you.
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It sounds like his issues have more to do with him that you. I know that doesn't help now. I hope you find some peace. We're all here for you. ((HUGS))
ITA.
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Old 08-16-2008, 09:32 AM   #27
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Oh, man, that really stinks. What a crass and graceless way to break up.

You're better off without a guy like that, though it might be a while before you feel that way.
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Reading your posts, it's kind of a good thing that he did this now than when you two were actually married. It seems that whatever issues he's having would make him the type to walk out on you in a marriage and things could have ended with a nasty divorce.

I'm sorry. What a terrible way to end things.
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Old 08-16-2008, 09:47 AM   #29
 
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He gave me a bunch of money from our down payment account, money that was from his family.

I feel broken.
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Old 08-16-2008, 10:02 AM   #30
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UGH, that's sucky. I hope you don't take him back if he changes his mind again. He sounds shady and just plain weird. You're better off without that.
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Old 08-16-2008, 10:05 AM   #31
 
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I'm so sorry. How heartbreaking.

I had a broken engagement 9 years ago and I still remember the heartbreak. It's not just losing the relationship, but the future you thought you'd have. You will get through it and be a stronger, better person for it, but it's going to take some time.
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Reading your posts, it's kind of a good thing that he did this now than when you two were actually married. It seems that whatever issues he's having would make him the type to walk out on you in a marriage and things could have ended with a nasty divorce.

I'm sorry. What a terrible way to end things.
Which is what my bro is going thru right now. Trust me...you do not want that....I'm sorry......
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(((ninja dog))) I'm so sorry.
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Ugh, what a pile of suck. I'm so sorry.
Yes, me too {{{hugs}} and my thoughts and encouragement through a very tough situation.

And how dare!! he remove the ring from your finger!!!
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Wow I am so sorry....
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. Everything happens for a reason, though....maybe this will be the beginning of something new (and better) for both of you. However, because you still care for him, I know it's tough to deal with. Keep us posted, and know that your curly sisters are here for you.
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It hurts so much.......
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He was stunned when I refused his offer to remain friends.

Good on you. Cleans breaks are best and help you heal faster. I don't know how he could think you could go from wanting to spend your life together to "oh wait....never mind let's just be buddies" in a single day. Moron.

I second what another poster said and be selfish. Give your self time to heal.
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Old 08-16-2008, 01:13 PM   #39
 
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I'm so sorry, ninja. Having been there, it doesn't seem like it now, but time really and truly does heal. Hang in there.
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Old 08-16-2008, 01:27 PM   #40
 
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Edited due to a cyberstalker. Sorry, guys.

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