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Old 08-18-2008, 12:08 PM   #1
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Default Closing Cycles (inspiration)

it seems like lots of us here are going through a period of loss and/or sadness. i guess that's life. anyway, a friend sent me this and it really helped me put things into perspective in my own life so i wanted to share. today it's raining pretty heavy here. i feel that's God's way of cleansing. i've had 3 different friends tell me the more or less the same thing at different times over the last few days "there has got to be sunshine after dark clouds" that gives me hope...three is my favorite number and my daddy always told me when you hear something three times that is divine intervention making sure you get the message.

anyway, for those that are struggling right now....be encouraged, be blessed....

Closing Cycles
by Paulo Coelho
Author of The Alchemist

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment. Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable. A habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

In the end, only three things matter, how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.
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Old 08-18-2008, 12:46 PM   #2
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Oooh, I love that. So true.

Thanks for posting.
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Old 08-18-2008, 09:47 PM   #3
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Love it.
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Old 08-18-2008, 10:33 PM   #4
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this is perfect. thank you.
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Old 08-19-2008, 05:46 AM   #5
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Originally Posted by luvmylocs View Post
"there has got to be sunshine after dark clouds"
I have a friend going through a very difficult time, and last night another friend said to her "Without the rain we really can't appreciate the sun".

So simple, but it just makes so much sense and kinda puts things into perspective. Big Hugs to everyone who needs them right now!
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Old 08-19-2008, 11:48 AM   #6
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Thank you for this! Great timing.
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