Are you uncomfortable with wearing a bathing suit in public?

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It's a shame how many people feel bad about the way their bodies look. I didn't start this thread to make people feel bad about theirselves. My son was invited to a poolparty and I decided not to go in the water due to being uncomfortable exposing so much skin. I was curious how other people felt. Makes me sad.
I'd like to be more toned before I wore a one-piece, but more so I feel weird about wearing a bikini that covers less than most bras and panties. It's just odd to me because it's inappropriate to show that much skin and I don't want everyone knowing that much about me. LOL.
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I think a lot of those modest suits would bring a lot more attention then a "normal" bathing suit, not matter what your body type.
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Shorts and a tshirt are good for the beach but some pools will only let you wear bathing suits because other clothes could have loose threads that clog the filters. That's why I usually just stay home.
I'm actually quite happy with my body for the most part...I'm a fairly athletic gal. BUT even though I'm comfortable with how I look, it doesn't mean that I feel comfortable standing around in front of everyone in next to nothing. I don't know...I don't like the attention be it positive or negative. It's all negative to me I suppose - when I feel like people are checking out the bod...I feel really violated and uncomfortable. If I wear a bikini I'm always tugging at it to make sure things are not popping out all over the place. They also tend to emphasize my chest too much for my liking (something that I'm usually trying to downplay). Ugh...point is: I dislike bikinis...I feel like I'm giving away a free show. I'm more of a scandalous one piece/tankini girl.
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I think a lot of those modest suits would bring a lot more attention then a "normal" bathing suit, not matter what your body type.
Originally Posted by legends
It is not about drawing attention. It is about how comfortable I am with showing skin. I like me as I am, but this doesn't mean I want to show all of me in public. If I had my own private pool, I would wear a traditional suit, but I don't. And until I find a suit that meets my modesty requirements, I stay home.

I also don't wear too tight clothing, show any type of cleavage or wear short skirts.
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I'm actually quite happy with my body for the most part...I'm a fairly athletic gal. BUT even though I'm comfortable with how I look, it doesn't mean that I feel comfortable standing around in front of everyone in next to nothing. I don't know...I don't like the attention be it positive or negative. It's all negative to me I suppose - when I feel like people are checking out the bod...I feel really violated and uncomfortable.
Originally Posted by fskatergirl

Very well said, and this is how I feel.
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cute...




another cute one:











Life shrinks or expands according to one's courage. Anais Nin
This is such a good topic. In my 40's I wore a strapless, bikini. I didn't have a problem with this. I was newly divorced & ready to have a good time. My body is still good, but I also feel uncomfortable with showing so much skin. It's like wearing my underwear in public. I guess it's an age thing. Usually, when I am swimming I am at my daughter's house. My SIL is there & I don't feel comfortable parading around in front of him with next to nothing on. It would creep me out & him too as well. I don't wear shorts & a t-shirt, but I wear a halter top bathing suit with a skirt. If I was swimming with a SO alone, I'd definitely put on a bikini. For his eyes, only.
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cute...

This is really cute. I would wear that...for hanging around the beach or pool. But, when I'm lap swimming, that would be way too much fabric to drag around. So, I wear fitness suits mostly...they're fairly modest, once-piece, no low-cut top, and many come with a bra built in, and if you buy them in polyester fabric instead of lycra, they last virtually forever.







A water unitard works for modesty and lap swimming too, and you don't have to wear them as tight as the Olympic swimmers do:


A water unitard works for modesty and lap swimming too, and you don't have to wear them as tight as the Olympic swimmers do:


Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
I like this one.
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See, the weird part with me is that I don't mind wearing swimsuits. Sometimes I do feel really exposed, but other times... It just doesn't bother me. Actually, I prefer bikinis over one pieces or tankinis. They cling to my body in ways that I am NOT comfortable with. I'd rather show skin...
I used to be on a swim team, and I always hated the one pieces that we had to wear, because they were cut so high in the bottom half! I mean, my hip bones used to stick out them. It was kind of ridiculous, really...

But, anyway, the thing that makes it weird is that I'm generally pretty modest otherwise. I refuse to wear shorts that are anywhere above my knee, I hate clothes that are too tight, and I avoid cleavage at all costs... Which, I mean, I think teenagers should anyway. But most don't.

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Not really... Sometimes if I'm feeling chunky, but I was a year-round swimmer for 10 years so you kind of get used to it. I just wish I appreciated being able to eat anything I wanted to back then. *sigh*
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I'm comfortable. I don't really think anything of it and no, I'm not thin or in shape (well, I'm in a pear shape ).

Now, when I go buy one I buy one that looks as flattering as I can and then after that I forget about it. Once in a while I'll see a picture of myself in a suit and think "ICK!" but in the moment I don't give it a second thought.

My kids LOOOOVE the pool and playing with them very quickly makes me forget what I look like because I see myself through their eyes.
I've never been happy with my body, hair, anything...but, after having 2 kids, still pre-school, and being 44 years old, I go to the beach wearing a juniors size 7 bikini, and my husband still whistles. I'm far,oh so far from having a perfectly toned body, but I'm learning that it's what I think that's important...admittedly, a very slow process...

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