help--can i wear this to a memorial service?

I would like to wear a cream dress to a memorial service. Is that appropriate? It's a fancier dress, knee-length, sleeveless, a-line and flowy, simple, and plain cream.
It sounds okay since it's summer, and apt to be hot in the church/at the cemetary...but I would wear a darker-colored sweater or wrap with it. Sleeveless does not seem appropriate to me.
Color guidelines for these types of things arent as strict as they used to be. The color sounds OK but it doesn't sound like the right style IMO: flowy, sleeveless...
No, I don't think it's appropriate. Good manners still call for somber colors for funeral and memorial services...black, brown, navy blue.
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http://www.jcrew.com/AST/Browse/Wome...6454/96454.jsp

it looks like this dress almost exactly (i got it from j.crew a few years ago)...except it's cream

good idea about the sweater...i only have a black sweater though...not sure that would look ok.

i'll be wearing flats or a VERY low heel with it if i do
I wouldn't.
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I think it'd be OK with a sweater, even a black one.
I think it depends on the person that the memorial is for. I had a friend die years ago and she had always said that she wouldn't want others to mourn her loss, but celebrate her life. Most everyone wore light colors and the service was very touching.

When our daughter died I wore a cream colored dress because I didn't want the service to seem so "deathly".

I completely agree that convention calls for dark colors, but I also feel that it depends on whom we are mourning and the wishes of that person and/or their family.

Just my .02

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http://www.jcrew.com/AST/Browse/Wome...6454/96454.jsp

it looks like this dress almost exactly (i got it from j.crew a few years ago)...except it's cream

good idea about the sweater...i only have a black sweater though...not sure that would look ok.

i'll be wearing flats or a VERY low heel with it if i do
Originally Posted by Sunny22

Oh, definitely not.
I would feel uncomfortable wearing that dress to a funeral. Twirlacurl makes some good points; but, in most circumstances I would go with something conservative and conventional.
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I don't think it's just the colour that is inappropriate. The style of the dress is not conservative enough for a memorial service in my opinion. It's a pretty dress, just not appropriate for this situation.
Looks like I shouldn't wear it...thanks for your help

I'm just worried about being hot (it will be 90 degrees or higher).

I've also never been to a memorial service before--only funerals--and I wasn't sure if they were a little less "basic black attire"

but i will go with something darker and more formal and hope i don't roast
I try to err on the side of caution when it comes to fashion. I'd go with black or a dark color with a funeral.
I would NOT wear a light colour like cream to someone's funeral - dark colours only.
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yeah, Sunny... it's good that you're going to go with something else.
Think conservative and don't show a lot of skin.
As far as color, just make it a dark subdued tone.
Nothing bright, flashy, red, etc. Dark blue, dark green, brown, black, all these colors are perfectly fine.
Basically, you do not want to stand out from the crowd.
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I think the fact that it is cream is fine. But the cut and style of the dress isn't really. Its a little short in the leg, and you never used to be able to go sleeveless in church, so a lot of people tale offense at that.

I don't agree with just wearing dark colours to a funeral. Obviously you don't turn up in a lurid multi-coloured outfit or a football shirt (unless they requested it!), but I see nothing wrong with colour, as long as you aren't showing a lot of flesh. Funerals are for mourning yes, but they are also a celebration of that persons life. I guess it depends on how you view things and what kind of person they were. For my great grandfathers funeral I wore black trousers and a long sleeved purple shirt.

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