#1: Joking around
Okay, so today at work one of the guys who moved up who used to be in our department came over and said hi to everyone. Something was said about our boss going over to a location on the South Side of town (which is the nicer side of town) and they joked that he was going to get "drugs". Something was said about the north side of town being the "rougher neighborhoods" (which is true) and I said that when I first got a car at 16, I was not allowed to drive at night, past N1st and go on the North Side of town. (The North side of town is where all the drug deals take place). The guy I work with (who has said the things about me smoking weed, etc) said "Well that's because Amanda is racist." I said "no I'm not" and the guy who came to visit said "So you voted for McCain then?". It really offended me, and the guys acted like it was nothing. Later they kept bugging me about why I was mad, so I wrote them an email letting them know it had offended me. The jerk guy wrote me back and said that it was just a joke. I told him I wasn't trying to be rude, but that sometimes certain things upset people, no matter the intent. He wrote back a huffy email saying "fine, I'll never joke around with you again, you won't have to worry about being offended". Why do people do that? Why don't they just apologize and say "hey, I'm sorry, I didn't mean anything other than a joke, but I'm sorry"? Why do they try to act like you are the one with the problem?