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Old 12-26-2008, 05:10 AM   #1
 
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Why do some guys cross their legs? I'm not talking about the perpendicular cross with foot shooting out into space (the "guy" method). I'm talking about the traditionally lady-like leg crossing, one leg over the other, both feet aiming down.

Is there really a gender norm, or have I just been around too many macho people (the kind of men who would say crossing legs is "gay")? Is it a European thing? A comfort thing? I don't like crossing my own for too long, because it makes my legs fall asleep, and I don't even have...stuff...that would get smushed.
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to me, it seems like men that are around my age (25) and a little older, and a little younger, cross their legs the guy way.

men that are over 30 seem to cross the other way.


this is just what i've noticed in my own experience, so i'm sure there are a lot of exceptions.

maybe it's just more comfortable to sit fully crossed for some guys.
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I've never noticed a pattern of who has said this, but I've heard many people say things to the effect of showing the bottom of your foot like that is rude/uncouth. I've also always thought either sitting spread-eagled or with one leg crossed, somewhat spread-eagled is kind of... crude. It's like "here, check out my junk!"
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I'll take a man who crosses his legs over one of the rude, inconsiderate jerks who sit with their legs as open ad possible as if their boys will suffocate if they don't. I can't tell you how many times I have been on the train squeezed against the end of a seat because the idiot sitting next to me gets to feel comfortable with his legs spread as much as humanly possible while sitting down.
And I actually can't think of any young guys who cross their legs in either fashion. Only older men seem to.
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It used to annoy me on family trips. I have two older brothers who would sit with their legs wide open. I had to sit in the middle, because I was the youngest. We rode in a sedan...not in an SUV (this was in the time before SUV's existed). Let's just say, I find sitting wide, especially in limited space is rude.
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I'll take a man who crosses his legs over one of the rude, inconsiderate jerks who sit with their legs as open ad possible as if their boys will suffocate if they don't. I can't tell you how many times I have been on the train squeezed against the end of a seat because the idiot sitting next to me gets to feel comfortable with his legs spread as much as humanly possible while sitting down.
I COMPLETELY agree! I find it extremely rude when men sit like this as well, ESPECIALLY when someone has to sit next to them while they do it.
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im not sure who does it or why, but i know its hard for me to cross my legs the lady way. well maybe its not hard, but i find it uncomfortable. i cant imagine how not fun it would be if i had junk in between my legs...
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Men crossing their legs "lady style" is unattractive to me. Way too feminine for me. I prefer the way Bush is sitting compared to Obama. That's the only thing I prefer about Bush.
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It doesn't look feminine to me if there's no feminine body language around it - it just looks polite. Sitting with your legs wide open and your foot up in the air is just, to me, unacceptable when you're anywhere important. It looks to me like the man who's doing it wants people to think he's too cool for this and he's just gonna chill.
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package. If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them. I agree the wide leg thing in a crowded bus, etc is rude. Same goes for a woman. Hopefully, women don't sit like this...Ever....
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package. If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them. I agree the wide leg thing in a crowded bus, etc is rude. Same goes for a woman. Hopefully, women don't sit like this...Ever....

I once had a boyfriend who often sat with his legs crossed like a woman, and he had ample package...trust me!
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Maybe so, but it just creeps me out. I guess I just like more of a macho man. If he crosses his legs like I do, then it bothers me.
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package. If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them....
I associate it with not having enough muscle mass in the thigh area. If they can comfortably cross their legs, they're a little too skinny for my taste.



plus it just looks... prissy.
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I think it's common among taller men (though not limited to them). Maybe it's more comfortable for some men to sit that way. Both Bush and Obama are tall, so it doesn't surprise me to see them sitting that way. Funny, it also seems common for men to sit that way when they wear professional attire.....
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package.

Um...not true, in my experience. I've noticed that really tall or lanky guys are the only ones able to sit fully crossed in comfort. The tall guys often have big junk.

I own a tall man who sits full crossed...this is how I know.
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This doesn't bother me as much as seeing all the young guys around here wearing skinny jeans. I feel like something is wrong if there is a remote possibly that I could wear my guy's jeans...
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Men crossing their legs "lady style" is unattractive to me. Way too feminine for me. I prefer the way Bush is sitting compared to Obama. That's the only thing I prefer about Bush.
Agreed. It makes me so uncomfortable that I can barely look at a man who sits like that - I don't know why, it's just one of my "things." Maybe I am just used to seeing men sit the more "manly" way because that is how all my uncles, male cousins, brother and bro-in-laws sit.

As far as the train goes, that to me is a completely different animal - I never sat next to a man who crossed his legs in ANY way on a crowded subway (in the over 15 years I took the train) but I have sat next to them when they spread there legs so far apart (with both feet still on the floor) that is squished me. That is just a douchebag move, IMO, I mean, COME ON!
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