Guys who cross their legs

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Why do some guys cross their legs? I'm not talking about the perpendicular cross with foot shooting out into space (the "guy" method). I'm talking about the traditionally lady-like leg crossing, one leg over the other, both feet aiming down.

Is there really a gender norm, or have I just been around too many macho people (the kind of men who would say crossing legs is "gay")? Is it a European thing? A comfort thing? I don't like crossing my own for too long, because it makes my legs fall asleep, and I don't even have...stuff...that would get smushed.
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to me, it seems like men that are around my age (25) and a little older, and a little younger, cross their legs the guy way.

men that are over 30 seem to cross the other way.


this is just what i've noticed in my own experience, so i'm sure there are a lot of exceptions.

maybe it's just more comfortable to sit fully crossed for some guys.
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I've never noticed a pattern of who has said this, but I've heard many people say things to the effect of showing the bottom of your foot like that is rude/uncouth. I've also always thought either sitting spread-eagled or with one leg crossed, somewhat spread-eagled is kind of... crude. It's like "here, check out my junk!"
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I'll take a man who crosses his legs over one of the rude, inconsiderate jerks who sit with their legs as open ad possible as if their boys will suffocate if they don't. I can't tell you how many times I have been on the train squeezed against the end of a seat because the idiot sitting next to me gets to feel comfortable with his legs spread as much as humanly possible while sitting down.
And I actually can't think of any young guys who cross their legs in either fashion. Only older men seem to.
It used to annoy me on family trips. I have two older brothers who would sit with their legs wide open. I had to sit in the middle, because I was the youngest. We rode in a sedan...not in an SUV (this was in the time before SUV's existed). Let's just say, I find sitting wide, especially in limited space is rude.
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I'll take a man who crosses his legs over one of the rude, inconsiderate jerks who sit with their legs as open ad possible as if their boys will suffocate if they don't. I can't tell you how many times I have been on the train squeezed against the end of a seat because the idiot sitting next to me gets to feel comfortable with his legs spread as much as humanly possible while sitting down.
Originally Posted by Sairis
I COMPLETELY agree! I find it extremely rude when men sit like this as well, ESPECIALLY when someone has to sit next to them while they do it.
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im not sure who does it or why, but i know its hard for me to cross my legs the lady way. well maybe its not hard, but i find it uncomfortable. i cant imagine how not fun it would be if i had junk in between my legs...
Men crossing their legs "lady style" is unattractive to me. Way too feminine for me. I prefer the way Bush is sitting compared to Obama. That's the only thing I prefer about Bush.
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It doesn't look feminine to me if there's no feminine body language around it - it just looks polite. Sitting with your legs wide open and your foot up in the air is just, to me, unacceptable when you're anywhere important. It looks to me like the man who's doing it wants people to think he's too cool for this and he's just gonna chill.
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package. If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them. I agree the wide leg thing in a crowded bus, etc is rude. Same goes for a woman. Hopefully, women don't sit like this...Ever....
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package. If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them. I agree the wide leg thing in a crowded bus, etc is rude. Same goes for a woman. Hopefully, women don't sit like this...Ever....
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves

I once had a boyfriend who often sat with his legs crossed like a woman, and he had ample package...trust me!


Maybe so, but it just creeps me out. I guess I just like more of a macho man. If he crosses his legs like I do, then it bothers me.
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I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package. If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them....
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I associate it with not having enough muscle mass in the thigh area. If they can comfortably cross their legs, they're a little too skinny for my taste.



plus it just looks... prissy.
I think it's common among taller men (though not limited to them). Maybe it's more comfortable for some men to sit that way. Both Bush and Obama are tall, so it doesn't surprise me to see them sitting that way. Funny, it also seems common for men to sit that way when they wear professional attire.....
I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves

Um...not true, in my experience. I've noticed that really tall or lanky guys are the only ones able to sit fully crossed in comfort. The tall guys often have big junk.

I own a tall man who sits full crossed...this is how I know.
This doesn't bother me as much as seeing all the young guys around here wearing skinny jeans. I feel like something is wrong if there is a remote possibly that I could wear my guy's jeans...
Men crossing their legs "lady style" is unattractive to me. Way too feminine for me. I prefer the way Bush is sitting compared to Obama. That's the only thing I prefer about Bush.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
Agreed. It makes me so uncomfortable that I can barely look at a man who sits like that - I don't know why, it's just one of my "things." Maybe I am just used to seeing men sit the more "manly" way because that is how all my uncles, male cousins, brother and bro-in-laws sit.

As far as the train goes, that to me is a completely different animal - I never sat next to a man who crossed his legs in ANY way on a crowded subway (in the over 15 years I took the train) but I have sat next to them when they spread there legs so far apart (with both feet still on the floor) that is squished me. That is just a douchebag move, IMO, I mean, COME ON!
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So I think I got an answer for you. don't know if it helps. but my son sits that way. So I asked him why. My son is 36 years old, has 6 children and has been married to his wife for 16 years. He has a large frame stands 5'9" 200 pounds, athletic build. More than sure they have had their ups and down in their younger years. needless to say they are happy now in their older years...LOL. My son is very intelligent. He's a very funny guy. He does anything for his family. He can cook, build homes, rebuild cars, play instruments, take care of children, sew, bake, crochet, very good carpenter, he does masonry, works on electronic, plumbing, electrical, also was a marine for over a decade and, much more but than blowns me way because he believes in plural marriage and that woman are the true powers of the world....weird. sometimes I wonder if he's even mine...JK. at times it just amazes me, how he is so divers but extra good hearted at his core. Any-who-dee point is, when asked. he said it does get tight down there. but is has tricks to lift them prior to seating. he says when he doesn't seat like that even with whitey tighties on it feels like his whole package is dangling in the wind. He said it feel better pulling them up and using the thighs to support his package vise just hanging. he also said men who are young and "balls haven't dropped" can't sit that way because their package is to small to maneuver that distance and will get crushed. It was a funny conversion. but makes sense. he also stated just because some men especially older and wiser men sit that way doesn't mean their gay. but be careful not to get confused but watch for the flamboyancy. the hand gestors, palm up talking, and high pitch voice because those are usually dead give away of the confused gender...LOL. his words. he also stated he has nothing to prove to no one because he done enough for this country and could careless what people say about how he sits. but don't get any liquid courage, or wild hairs, because he has no problem shoving a spoon into a person heart right through the gaps of their rib cage. I take it mainly people have asked him that question to many times. P.S. he did add showing the bottom of the sole is very disrespectful and dirty. My 2 cents. hope it helps

Last edited by Bill.Siggy; 01-28-2016 at 01:59 AM. Reason: left parts out
I don't think it makes them gay, but the thought would cross my mind. I think it can be a cultural thing too. Among the heterosexual, I think you'd see far more of it in the UK, France, Italy, etc than you would the US. Our perception of masculine is somewhat different.

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