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Old 01-17-2009, 04:25 PM   #81
 
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.


Um...considering that the demographics of the posters on this board are about 99% female...you're kinda "associating" with them now. Just sayin...
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.


Um...considering that the demographics of the posters on this board are about 99% female...you're kinda "associating" with them now. Just sayin...
Posting on a board about hair and such is most certainly not the same as having to interact with females in person everyday. Also, I don't come here everyday.
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.
Wow, that's a sweeping generalization. One might even say a stereotype.

I'm glad I don't dislike my own kind. That would suck.
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.
Wow, that's a sweeping generalization. One might even say a stereotype.

I'm glad I don't dislike my own kind. That would suck.
I blame it on high school. Being called names constantly by other girls leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Being backstabbed by girl 'friends' will also do the same.
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No one takes it seriously, not even the dude who probably wrote it! It's not meant to be taken seriously, it's a joke!
Unfortunately, there's an industry of self-help books that present those comments as the truth. If people didn't take it seriously, then it wouldn't be a problem, and I wouldn't have a problem with it. I mean, maybe the "athletes are dumb" stereotype results in some athletes getting their feelings hurt, but it's not a sign of a bigger problem.

You brought up a subject that I'm interested in, so I wrote my opinion of it, knowing that it's the internet and anyone can ignore me or call me a b*tch if that's what they feel like doing. It's not a high-stakes or angry discussion, from my point of view. And it wasn't intended as a personal attack, or even an attempt to change your mind.

And unfortunately, I wasn't being sarcastic about this thread being extraordinarily civil by the standards of this message board. I once got bashed for noting that, while people need to consume about 8 cups of water each day, you get a lot of that water from the food you eat!

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Old 01-17-2009, 05:29 PM   #86
 
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I blame it on high school. Being called names constantly by other girls leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Being backstabbed by girl 'friends' will also do the same.
I had the same HS experience and it took me years to get over it. I went through all of college having almost exclusively male friends. Even when I tried to give them a chance, I found other young single women to be petty and untrustworthy. Now that I have a kid and most of the women I associate with are also mothers of young children, I find their company and friendship invaluable. I think it's a matter of finding ones you have something in common with. I just didn't have much in common with the women around me until recently.
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Are we done yet? Seriously...I know it was meant as a joke, but it wasn't funny. And it does seem like if a woman rolls her eyes and thinks something isn't funny, then she is considered angry.
Wait a minute. I think something is being overlooked here, and it has absolutely nothing to do with females. It has everything to do with just being kind. If someone doesn't like the joke, why not just say nothing? Why make it a point to make sure everyone knows how unfunny you think the joke is? Would you all do this at a face-to-face social gathering? If you were in a room full of people, and someone told a bad joke, would you stand up in front of everyone to express how unfunny and stupid it was? I hope not, and neither should anyone be doing it here. Has it occurred to any of you that you may be causing someone some embarrassment? Do you like to be embarrassed publicly? This is ridiculous.

It's crap like this that gives women a bad name, not some chain email that we've all seen 100 times.
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.
50% of the population? That's a rather large sect to avoid. That must take a lot of discipline - kudos to you for your perseverance!!
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It's crap like this that gives women a bad name...
I've seen this from a few posters. I cannot figure out how a message board discussion is to blame for misogyny.

And no, I don't phrase things the same way when I'm posting on the internet as I do when I'm talking to acquaintances at a social gathering. I don't phrase things the same way when I'm writing research papers as I do when I'm talking to my brother, either.
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It's crap like this that gives women a bad name...
I've seen this from a few posters. I cannot figure out how a message board discussion is to blame for misogyny.
This has nothing to do with misogyny and everything to do with how we women conduct ourselves.

Decency and kindness have nothing to do with our sex. It has everything to do with being a human being. We should all remember that.
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.
50% of the population? That's a rather large sect to avoid. That must take a lot of discipline - kudos to you for your perseverance!!
Interpretations like this crack me up. Did I say "I avoid all females, at all times"? No, I did not. I just rarely choose to be friends with females.
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Has it occurred to any of you that you may be causing someone some embarrassment? Do you like to be embarrassed publicly? This is ridiculous.
I very much doubt the OP is embarrassed given that her thread has turned into quite the interesting discussion.
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Has it occurred to any of you that you may be causing someone some embarrassment? Do you like to be embarrassed publicly? This is ridiculous.
I very much doubt the OP is embarrassed given that her thread has turned into quite the interesting discussion.
I hope not.

I remember a few times when I was still new to the whole message boards thing, and I got jumped on for some things that I thought were innocuous. I was mortified! lol.
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.
50% of the population? That's a rather large sect to avoid. That must take a lot of discipline - kudos to you for your perseverance!!
Interpretations like this crack me up. Did I say "I avoid all females, at all times"? No, I did not. I just rarely choose to be friends with females.

Sweeping generalizations make me LOL, so yeah, glad we got a mutual laugh.
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Again, yawn ... I'm going to go get a cookie.
Don't you see, Wildhair, that a mere 3 pages ago, YOU perpetuated the stereotype that women displace anger, sadness and other "unsafe" emotions by seeking the comfort of food???? Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers marched in the streets to free us women from these hurtful, Ben & Jerry's/Oreos-based stereotypes.

And yes, I AM joking. Joking, everyone! Ha ha ha (nervous laughter....)
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The more I read the posts, the more aggravated I get with females. I begin to realize why I don't really associate them. They are far too uptight for my tastes.
Wow, that's a sweeping generalization. One might even say a stereotype.

I'm glad I don't dislike my own kind. That would suck.
I blame it on high school. Being called names constantly by other girls leaves a bad taste in your mouth. Being backstabbed by girl 'friends' will also do the same.


I've been both victim and perpetuator in this situation. It's tough to deal with. But, I also dated a man who was TERRIBLE about speaking his mind, and ruined our relationship as a result. And I have a lot of female friends who saw me through the heartbreak I felt when this happened. So....imo, it's more a matter of personality and circumstance than gender, at least once we're grown-ups.

And honestly.....I do some of things listed in the original post. I try to make a joke out of it, but I still do it. (picture embarrassed face icon here)

But I still think the originally posted message is funny. Seems to me the guy writing it reads his partner's "language" loud and clear.
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Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers marched in the streets to free us women from these hurtful, Ben & Jerry's/Oreos-based stereotypes.
The difference is that it's not a hurtful stereotype. The "two cultures" thing (men are direct and competitive, women are indirect and collaborative) is really messed up. It justifies/perpetuates a lot of problems for both genders, while placing a greater burden on women.

For instance, women who are raped by someone they know (the most common kind of rape) frequently don't say, "No, stop!" Often, they say something more like, "Please, not right now," because they're afraid of enraging their attacker. The myth that men can't understand indirect communication encourages and excuses the belief that these women weren't actually raped, because "the man just misunderstood."

And yes, men are also raped and some rapists are women, but I don't know if this applies to those situations.

And I get that you're joking, what with the disclaimer and all

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If you were in a room full of people, and someone told a bad joke, would you stand up in front of everyone to express how unfunny and stupid it was?
No, but I hope I would say something if the joke was offensive.
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Wow! I give women a bad name for disagreeing with this. Wow! She or he posted how we are so difficult. I guess I'm to go along with the stereotype suggested in the OP and just giggle, not expressing what I really mean.
Come on, I am not being "*****y" by finding some of this humor offensive. She or he has a right to post this and we have a right to say what we feel...this is a "discussion" board, now isn't it?
If a friend of mine (or someone I know well) said something to me, I'd say something. And yes, I have rolled my eyes and sexist jokes before. Oh, the humanity. I must be a total *****!
Oh well, I can live with it.
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I guess women are supposed to be "civil" in these kinds of discussions. We give ourselves a bad name. Got it?
I'm difficult if I speak my mind, and I'm difficult if I say "nothing" when someone asks what's wrong. I think I will just stay in the corner and not speak.

I just don't get it. I really don't.
I have a sense of humor, but really, I guess not always. i have my limits too. But women aren't supposed to have boundaries, right? We are supposed to take it like "men," right? LOL
We are supposed to be "tough," and yet if we are, then we are *****es. We are supposed to be "soft," and yet if we are, we are "difficult."
Got it!
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