If someone classified you average looking

I don't think people should be offended to be called average, because it's no less subjective than being called ugly or beautiful.
As an example, I find plenty of supposedly beautiful celebrities to be average or downright ugly. And I'm sure there are others who agree. Yet, I'm sure it makes no difference to these celebrities and their perception of themselves if some people consider them ugly.

When I was in high school, I wasn't exactly a great-looking girl. I didn't dress that well, I had braces for a while, I brushed out my curly hair (yes, I know), and I was nowhere near fat, but I hadn't quite finished shaping out. It wasn't until my last year or so that I started to look better. There was this guy that a friend liked, but she told him I did for some reason. He said he wasn't interested and that I was ugly. I didn't care, but it stung nonetheless to be called ugly. He left our school.
One day, I was on the train during my senior year. I saw a guy that I knew, but couldn't really place. He approached me and reminded me of who he was. Heh, he told me how "cute" I was and tried to ask me out! I had actually forgotten about all that stuff, but I turned him down because I had a boyfriend, and frankly, I wasn't interested.
So, not only can perception of beauty change from one person to another, but even from just one person depending on the day.
I wouldn't be offended. It just means they don't know the whole you.
I fall in love with a person's personality. If they are kind and unselfish they beam beauty to me.
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didnt anyone else watch the office last night? :P
lol, i am average looking. so it's not offensive to me. i suppose if i thought i was above average i guess i'd be offended. i'm pretty plain looking. that's okay with me!
i think it were to depend on who said it and what their intentions were.

if my sister said i was average looking, then big deal. if my SO said i was average looking there would be problems.
I'd be upset. Period.

I once dated a man who none of my friends or family thought was attractive at all. He was losing his hair, was overweight & had bad teeth. I found him to be the sexiest man I had ever dated. He had charisma. My friends thought I had lost my mind, but when he would walk into the room, my knees would go weak.

I also had a male friend who when I first met him thought his looks were below average. He was a chick magnet. I even found myself drawn to him after I was around him more. One day we went to lunch & he told me that women are attracted to men who are sexy & confident. Men are attracted to women who have these same qualities. He said a woman can be overweight & not that attractive, but it's the way she carries herself & in her actions. Men also like a woman who can laugh & has a positive attitude.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I hear Diego Rivera (the late painter) was a chic magnet too, and he was stunningly ugly.
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I'd be upset. Period.

I once dated a man who none of my friends or family thought was attractive at all. He was losing his hair, was overweight & had bad teeth. I found him to be the sexiest man I had ever dated. He had charisma. My friends thought I had lost my mind, but when he would walk into the room, my knees would go weak.

I also had a male friend who when I first met him thought his looks were below average. He was a chick magnet. I even found myself drawn to him after I was around him more. One day we went to lunch & he told me that women are attracted to men who are sexy & confident. Men are attracted to women who have these same qualities. He said a woman can be overweight & not that attractive, but it's the way she carries herself & in her actions. Men also like a woman who can laugh & has a positive attitude.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I hear Diego Rivera (the late painter) was a chic magnet too, and he was stunningly ugly.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
I love the term "stunningly ugly." I think men can get away with this more then women, unfortunately.
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didnt anyone else watch the office last night? :P
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Oh gosh! I didn't even think of that until now! Haha.
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Being average isn't bad in any stretch of the word. But I'd be more concerned with someone spending so much time contemplating my looks - especially if I didn't ask them for an honest appraisal.
I'd be upset. Period.

I once dated a man who none of my friends or family thought was attractive at all. He was losing his hair, was overweight & had bad teeth. I found him to be the sexiest man I had ever dated. He had charisma. My friends thought I had lost my mind, but when he would walk into the room, my knees would go weak.

I also had a male friend who when I first met him thought his looks were below average. He was a chick magnet. I even found myself drawn to him after I was around him more. One day we went to lunch & he told me that women are attracted to men who are sexy & confident. Men are attracted to women who have these same qualities. He said a woman can be overweight & not that attractive, but it's the way she carries herself & in her actions. Men also like a woman who can laugh & has a positive attitude.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I hear Diego Rivera (the late painter) was a chic magnet too, and he was stunningly ugly.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
I love the term "stunningly ugly." I think men can get away with this more then women, unfortunately.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
that gives me a lot of hope.
^^^sweetie, you aren't even CLOSE to ugly.... way opposite, in fact!

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Aside from being slim, a lot of the Miss America contestants are average looking.
I dunno if people have seen this(it's soo 2005), but mouseover the picture...good example of average person digitally enhanced. We can't all be model-gorgeous. Not even all models are model-gorgeous.
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Honestly, I would take that as a compliment.

But, I guess if you said you were a knock-out before, it is like a step down for you. There's worse things to be, though.
I don't care what people say about me, have better things to worry about. Not self absorbed enough to worry about my vanity.
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From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
^^^sweetie, you aren't even CLOSE to ugly.... way opposite, in fact!

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I think it would depend on how and why they said it, and who they were to me, to determine my reaction.

I agree with the poster who said that for women in this society, good looks are associated with wealth, power, success and tied up with so many other things. So to say that a woman is average looking is to deny a fundamental aspect of her that is important to her life and goes far beyond how her features appear in a mirror. There are billion-dollar industries based upon helping women "make the most of what they have" to be attractive, so no one wants to hear that that has apparently failed, unless they are deliberately opting out. However, the acceptable range of what is attractive is so narrow and deliberately excludes so many people... forcing them to spend more time and money trying to fit in. It's all so subjective, and I think for most people, looks tie in with personality, character etc. so telling someone they are average-looking is like saying they also don't have any kind of personality to set them apart, and that would sting.

More and more in life, I am beginning to realize that there is so much more to a woman, and so much more to aspire to, and take pride in, and be noticed for, than looks. Everyone likes to feel good about themself and be complimented, but it's not the most important thing. For example, if you take Michelle Obama, just based on looks in photos, I would say she is "average looking." When people say she is beautiful, I see why - they're responding to her smile, her intelligence, her class, her strength, her symbolic role... but to me at least (and I know opinions vary) she is average looking, and I don't at all mean that in a bad way - I really admire her. Who cares if she is not Miss America or a pinup queen or a supermodel or a bombshell, and who says they are all that anyway? Why does she have to aspire to that? Why aren't her intelligence and her achievement and all her other strengths pointed to, and why is she primarily getting praise, or criticism, based on her looks and her clothes? If I had all of what she had, I don't think I would really even care what anyone thought I looked like. I think looks mean more when you don't have much else to you, and being in that position would bother me more than what someone else thought I looked like.
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I was in a book discussion group and we were discussing a character and a woman described her as having it all--beauty, personalty and brains. To me it sounded like if a woman didn't have all three she missed out somewhere. Where does average looking fit in here?

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