It's my party.....

and I'll cry if I want to. Ugh. So okay my bday is coming up in a few weeks. A married couple I am friends with is coming in town to visit me and wanted to do a whole night on the town thing, and said invite all your friends there. So I did, I invited everyone, I said no pressure, we'll go eat and then go out somewhere, but the plans aren't finalized except for the night. I told everyone this on the 9th of January. One of the girls I am friends with said she'd have to see if she already had other plans, I said fine, but you're invited, if you want to bring someone along, the more the merrier. Well today she starts texting me demanding to know what restaurant we'll be eating at, what time, and where we will be going. I told her I still hadn't made that call yet, but I was pretty certain we'd be ending up at this really fun nightclub. She and a few other friends prefer to go to sit down bars instead of nightclubs (this one is primarily country music). But for my birthday I would really like to go there, and she's already griping trying to get me to change it to a sit down place. The thing is, this is my birthday party.......is it selfish to say that these are the plans that have been made, and if she'd rather not attend that's her thing? I don't feel like I'm being out of line by not accomodating her wishes. And I don't feel like I'm being rude by not changing. It's not that I don't care about their feelings, I do, I just think for one night it's kind of my night to call the shots......
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Oh yeah..it's your birthday and she is an invited guest. Definitely just tell her what the plan is. If she doesn't like it, she can make other plans for that night.

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I do agree. It's your birthday, so you should be able to plan to do what you want. If she doesn't like those plans, she doesn't need to attend.
Yep, I"m in agreement with what's been said so far.
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Absolutely!! You shouldn't have to change your plans for anyone on your birthday unless you want to.

My friends routinely do stuff I'm not really into on their birthday. I suck it up and go because I'm their friend and really I'm there to celebrate them. I usually end up having at the very least an entertaining evening.

It's one thing if she wants details if she does have a commitment but still wants to attend some part of your night. But she gets no say in where you go.
It's YOUR birthday, do what you want. If she doesn't like it then oh well it isn't the end of the world, personally I think she is very very rude for her to act the way she did.

Like I said it's your day, do what makes you happy that's what matters the most.
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Since she's not the one planning the party or footing the bill, she really doesn't get a say, does she?
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Hey Amanda, good to see you back!

I agree with everyone else here and have a happy birthday.
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I can't believe you know this song. This is so old, that I remember singing it as a child.

It's your b'day, so do what you want. If anyone has a problem, then they shouldn't come. I think it's very rude for an invited guest to try to change your plans. Tell her this is the agenda. She can come if she wants or not. This would really piss me off.
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Firstly, is funny that you post, I was just thinking earlier today that it'd been a while since I'd 'seen' you. Welcome back.

Secondly, I suspect this will be another round of "You need to rethink your friends, sweetie." On one hand, you told her you hadn't finalized plans yet, so perhaps she thought you might not have considered this other plan, and was trying to be helpful in bringing it up. However, if it went any further than, "Hey have you considered doing XYZ instead? That can be pretty fun." Then they're just being whiny ******es about it. I vote for thanking her for the suggestion, but you've already decided that you want to go to this place.

I only say that because I tend to prefer to assume people I call my friends are trying to be helpful, even when the end result isn't. If you pretend she was trying to be helpful, though, and she just keeps *****ing about how the plans for YOUR birthday aren't panning out the way SE wants to, you should really just tell her you'll understand if she doesn't want to come.
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I can't believe you know this song. This is so old, that I remember singing it as a child.

It's your b'day, so do what you want. If anyone has a problem, then they shouldn't come. I think it's very rude for an invited guest to try to change your plans. Tell her this is the agenda. She can come if she wants or not. This would really piss me off.
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I remember hearing the song on commercials for oldie's albums.
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I can't believe you know this song. This is so old, that I remember singing it as a child.

It's your b'day, so do what you want. If anyone has a problem, then they shouldn't come. I think it's very rude for an invited guest to try to change your plans. Tell her this is the agenda. She can come if she wants or not. This would really piss me off.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I remember hearing the song on commercials for oldie's albums.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
I was just a wee lass when this song was high in it's heyday. I'm so square.

Amanda, it's your party and you call the shots. She can go and play nice or stay home and pout.
I can't believe you know this song. This is so old, that I remember singing it as a child.

It's your b'day, so do what you want. If anyone has a problem, then they shouldn't come. I think it's very rude for an invited guest to try to change your plans. Tell her this is the agenda. She can come if she wants or not. This would really piss me off.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
I remember hearing the song on commercials for oldie's albums.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
i know that song. my mom listened to it when i was a kid.

amanda, i agree with you. i think your friend is being over the top. go out and have fun at YOUR birthday party. do what YOU want to do!!
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Thanks guys, I already knew the answer, but just didn't want to be doing something that was out of line. So far she hasn't said anything else, so maybe she's realized it's a dead issue. Everyone else is fine going there, so it should be fun. I'm not jazzed about being 27, but I'll live! lol
Oh 27 is a great age--you're still considered young, but you're old enough to be taken seriously. Plan what you want and have fun!

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