It’s the Economy, Girlfriend

iara · 01-29-2009, 08:35 AM

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“Next time you are stressing over some finance guy, remember that he is just a math-club nerd,” one woman wrote after recounting a breakup. “This recession just bought everyone an extra two years of the single life.”

If anyone deserves to be single, it is shallow, selfish people like them.

cympreni · 01-29-2009, 08:42 AM

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Once it was seen as a blessing in certain circles to have a wealthy, powerful partner who would leave you alone with the credit card while he was busy brokering deals. Now, many Wall Street wives, girlfriends and, increasingly, exes, are living the curse of cutbacks in nanny hours and reservations at Masa or Megu. And that credit card? Canceled.
Raoul Felder, the Manhattan divorce lawyer, said that cases involving financiers always stack up as the economy starts to slip, because layoffs and shrinking bonuses place stress on relationships — and, he said, because “there aren’t funds or time for mistresses any more.”
(One such mistress wrote on the blog that when she pouted about not having been taken on a trip lately, her married man explained that with money so tight, his wife had taken to checking up on his accounts.)

I feel so bad for them. . .really.

MoppyT · 01-29-2009, 08:50 AM

Gross.

What awful people.

scrills · 01-29-2009, 09:02 AM

Hilarious!!!!

Jaguar Paw · 01-29-2009, 09:14 AM

Oh wow.

newcurly · 01-29-2009, 09:30 AM

If you guys ONLY knew how "real" this type of woman is in NYC. Ugh.

I swore off dating bankers after the second one I dated. Ugh.

curly66 · 01-29-2009, 09:32 AM

I used to work in investment banking. I knew many women who would come to work in investment banking specifically just to meet & marry an investment banker. How sad

BB · 01-29-2009, 09:34 AM

This may or may not be a joke - and I tend to think people wouldn't allow their real names to be used - but there are actual people like this.

Cynaminbear · 01-29-2009, 09:38 AM

Apparently traditional marriage vows mean squat in those circles. For better or worse, richer or poorer only means for better and richer.

Saria · 01-29-2009, 09:51 AM

Wow, just wow. I actually checked out the blog, and among the many pearls of wisdom, found this:

Not Livin’ the DABA dream: 1) living in the suburbs 2) wearing Ann Taylor 3) eating at non-Zagat reviewed restaurants 4) single at 40 or married to mediocrity 5) having to wear sensible shoes 6) living in a home with wall-to-wall carpeting 7) having to do laundry 8 ) missing out 9) forced to live sans access to Sally Hershberger 10) taking life too seriously.

ETA: Reading a little more of the blog, it's definitely satire. I'm surprised The New York Times didn't do more research.

nadina · 01-30-2009, 10:32 AM

have you guys read the blog? http://dabagirls.wordpress.com/

it's truly awful. it's supposed to be tongue in cheek i guess, but it just sounds shallow and self absorbed. ah, just saw sairis' post. i don't know, i think they really are complaining about their new less extravagant lifestyle.

my question is, why don't they have these aspirations themselves? what's stopping THEM from being the one to make the money?

CurlyinColorado · 01-30-2009, 02:05 PM

OMG, that blog is hilarious!

mrspoppers · 01-30-2009, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Sairis

ETA: Reading a little more of the blog, it's definitely satire. I'm surprised The New York Times didn't do more research.

The site says it's tongue-in-cheek, not satire. They said they add their humor to the stories, but the stories are basically real.

~GypsyCurls~ · 01-30-2009, 03:15 PM

Geez that's awful, but I'm not surprised! I've already had opportunities to be with men that have money, but I'd rather be with someone for love. Call me crazy.

Saria · 01-30-2009, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by mrspoppers

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Originally Posted by Sairis

ETA: Reading a little more of the blog, it's definitely satire. I'm surprised The New York Times didn't do more research.

The site says it's tongue-in-cheek, not satire. They said they add their humor to the stories, but the stories are basically real.

I think these women are probably dating bankers and other financial types, but I do think the actual stories they're telling are more satirical than anything, meant to garner a book deal (which they got).
My point was more about how NYT reported the story as if their anecdotes and viewpoints were serious, which I don't think they are after reading the blog.

And I will say that these women aren't exactly sponging off these men. They are professional women, so I wouldn't say they don't have aspirations themselves. They just look to date a certain type (not that I agree with that necessarily).

LisaF1163 · 01-30-2009, 05:16 PM

I'm an admin assistant on Wall St., and it's not just these women. You just wouldn't believe how a lot of these banking guys don't understand that we have to cut back majorly in our company. For example, the company is asking them to take cabs instead of the Lincoln town car service, and to fly coach and make connecting flights to business trips instead of business class and direct flights. Well, my god, you'd think we were asking them to chop off their own right arms or something! These guys don't know how to do without, or how to cut back. Then we (the admins) have to be the "bad guys" and tell them, "I can't book you on a direct flight - you have to take a connection. Nope sorry, you can't use the car service. Take a yellow cab. It's company policy now." It's like they just don't get it - there are entire companies that are just gone now. We had some lay-offs during the crash, and probably more to come, and they still don't understand. They think that just because our company is still standing that we can just crap money or something. It's scary trying to explain this stuff to grown men who refuse to see it.

love yourself first · 02-01-2009, 11:58 AM

The article is really funny but I haven't checked out the blog yet. Finance guys tend to be hot, but kind of politically and sometimes socially conservative (though I am sure there are exceptions). I was hoping that it was more satire than not but the pictures and use of full names in the NYT article made it seem more *real* And I guess there are certain types of women who want nothing more than to be an accessory to a finance guy like this. I can see certain attractions to it, but wouldn't be my choice.

Koukla72 · 02-01-2009, 12:41 PM

Edited due to a cyberstalker. Sorry, guys.

SpunkyCurls · 02-01-2009, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Sairis

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Originally Posted by mrspoppers

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Originally Posted by Sairis

ETA: Reading a little more of the blog, it's definitely satire. I'm surprised The New York Times didn't do more research.

The site says it's tongue-in-cheek, not satire. They said they add their humor to the stories, but the stories are basically real.

I think these women are probably dating bankers and other financial types, but I do think the actual stories they're telling are more satirical than anything, meant to garner a book deal (which they got).
My point was more about how NYT reported the story as if their anecdotes and viewpoints were serious, which I don't think they are after reading the blog.

And I will say that these women aren't exactly sponging off these men. They are professional women, so I wouldn't say they don't have aspirations themselves. They just look to date a certain type (not that I agree with that necessarily).

I didn't get the idea from the times article that they were that serious.

In fact one of the paragraphs says

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“We do make light of everything on the blog and it’s very tongue in cheek,” said Laney Crowell, 27, who parted ways with a corporate real estate investor last month after a tumultuous relationship. “But it all stems out of really serious and heartfelt situations.”

It's a human interest piece and a publicity deal for their upcoming book deal.

wavycurly40+ · 02-01-2009, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Sairis

Wow, just wow. I actually checked out the blog, and among the many pearls of wisdom, found this:

Not Livin’ the DABA dream: 1) living in the suburbs 2) wearing Ann Taylor 3) eating at non-Zagat reviewed restaurants 4) single at 40 or married to mediocrity 5) having to wear sensible shoes 6) living in a home with wall-to-wall carpeting 7) having to do laundry 8 ) missing out 9) forced to live sans access to Sally Hershberger 10) taking life too seriously.

ETA: Reading a little more of the blog, it's definitely satire. I'm surprised The New York Times didn't do more research.

Well, I'm laughing, because I qualify for 6 out of the 10. Well, maybe 7 ...... but I can really only afford Ann Taylor as an occasional splurge....