Restraining Order

I feel like I can't pretend like I'm not home or ignore that he's there because my front door has a big piece of decorative glass right in the middle. He can see me if I'm in the living room.

He has in the past also taken to looking into the windows when I didn't come to the door right away. He would knock softly and then look in the windows.
Originally Posted by alisons79
Can you not put blinds or some type of covering to block his view?

Also, can you block his texts, phone calls and e-mails?
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I do have blinds on the windows. I didn't realize until that time, that he was looking in the windows. I didn't know that it was even an option for him. I mean really, what sane person thinks that it's okay to just look into someone's windows in the dark?

I have made sure since then that all the blinds are pulled all the way down and kept closed at all times.
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I had to get one to get rid of my abusive ex husband.
I went thru the local domestic violence office to arrange one.
You go to the courthouse and explain to the judge what the problem is. He will ask you a few questions and give you a temporary restraining order. The police came to the house and they give him an hour to leave the house. We lived together at the time ( we were married).
A week later you need to show up in court and the judge determines if its temporary or its longer.
You need to show the court:
1) That you are afraid
2) That there is a history of domestic violence and
3) There needs to be an recent incident - that puts you in danger.

If you have no concrete evidence its a matter of having the judge believe you. Most judges are not going to risk having on their back you getting killed because they didn't give you an order, so they will probably grant it. They can also treat YOU like you are making it up. Be prepared for that. Just try to sound clear and that your story makes sense.

I agree with RCW that its just a piece of paper and only a law abiding person will follow it anyway. My ex didn't bother me physically after that. It was the extra pressure he needed to stop harrassing me. You SHOULD get one because he is a bit nuts coming to your house. And you don't need to go outside for anything. Please don't go outside to talk to him. He is NEVER going to leave you alone otherwise.
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I had to get one to get rid of my abusive ex husband.
I went thru the local domestic violence office to arrange one.
You go to the courthouse and explain to the judge what the problem is. He will ask you a few questions and give you a temporary restraining order. The police came to the house and they give him an hour to leave the house. We lived together at the time ( we were married).
A week later you need to show up in court and the judge determines if its temporary or its longer.
You need to show the court:
1) That you are afraid
2) That there is a history of domestic violence and
3) There needs to be an recent incident - that puts you in danger.

If you have no concrete evidence its a matter of having the judge believe you. Most judges are not going to risk having on their back you getting killed because they didn't give you an order, so they will probably grant it. They can also treat YOU like you are making it up. Be prepared for that. Just try to sound clear and that your story makes sense.

I agree with RCW that its just a piece of paper and only a law abiding person will follow it anyway. My ex didn't bother me physically after that. It was the extra pressure he needed to stop harrassing me. You SHOULD get one because he is a bit nuts coming to your house. And you don't need to go outside for anything. Please don't go outside to talk to him. He is NEVER going to leave you alone otherwise.
Originally Posted by violets
Also, an Ex Parte will take care of what you need. I'm not sure if that is available in your state, but I believe it is worth checking out g/l & stay safe...
But to me it sounds like this guy isn't going to go away easy. It's good you have a dog, I would also talk to your neighbors.
Originally Posted by curlygirlyme
I agree. If you have neighbors you are friendly with tell them. No need to go into all the details but ask them to please call the police if they see him lurking around your house.

I also agree with not going outside to talk to him. you are safer indoors. Tell him through the door to leave or you will call the police. Do it if he doesn't leave immediately.


Here we go to the courthouse. Once you tell them what you're there for you go through all sorts of security and are taken to a more secure area. There are many DV workers there who help you fill out all the forms. Like RCW said the judge may not believe you. The lady who helped me told me to make sure I was very detailed. First there is a 15 day emergency order. Once you see the judge again he'll decide if there is cause to extend it or drop it.


Good luck. Stay safe.
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