Is this weird?

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Originally Posted by Phoenix
I do not believe this.
Originally Posted by iara
OK, for you they're not.
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It could be creepy only if it's substantiated by other actions. Or it could be totally innocent and subconscious. What fantasies go on in our minds to bring us to sexual fulfillment is totally okay....as long as it's in our minds.
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
What if someone has a sexual fantasy of mutilating babies? (the most horrible thing I could think of popped into my mind). ITA with the first two sentences there, but if he hypothetically had a sexual fantasy involving his daughter, it shouldn't be seen as totally okay. In effect everything will be okay if it stays in his mind and if his daughter can't sense the way he thinks, but just allowing the mental entertainment of it increases temptation. When action does come, it's always on the heels of persuasive temptation.
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Last edited by westcoastcurls; 02-01-2009 at 05:09 PM.
that is hilarious!!! I don't think it is necessarily creepy though.

I accidentally called my boyfriend my brother's name once. And I am NOT attracted to my brother at all. I weirded myself out when that happened! lol.

I mix up names all the time when the names are the same "color" (yeah, I'm weird ... I have synesthesia and words have colors). Maybe this guy has some similar mental circuitry that makes him mix up the names.
I mix up names all the time when the names are the same "color" (yeah, I'm weird ... I have synesthesia and words have colors).
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
LOL...I sometimes mix up Tuesdays and Fridays for the same reason


Honestly I don't think that saying his daughter's name necessarily has anything to do with incestuous impulses. If it happens again, then maybe I'd be concerned.
Good guys are too hard to find.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
I do not believe this.
Originally Posted by iara
OK, for you they're not.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
FWIW, I totally agree with your Phoenix. A hard man is good....no, I mean A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND!

If the OP has some endless fountain of "good men" would she care to share the location of said fountain while she's unable to use said source!?!
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It could be creepy only if it's substantiated by other actions. Or it could be totally innocent and subconscious. What fantasies go on in our minds to bring us to sexual fulfillment is totally okay....as long as it's in our minds.
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
What if someone has a sexual fantasy of mutilating babies? (the most horrible thing I could think of popped into my mind). ITA with the first two sentences there, but if he hypothetically had a sexual fantasy involving his daughter, it shouldn't be seen as totally okay. In effect everything will be okay if it stays in his mind and if his daughter can't sense the way he thinks, but just allowing the mental entertainment of it increases temptation. When action does come, it's always on the heels of persuasive temptation.
Originally Posted by westcoastcurls
And you would know that, how? How does one be another's mental police? I truly believe if someones mental landscape is so polluted, their external life will show it.

just allowing the mental entertainment of it increases temptation. When action does come, it's always on the heels of persuasive temptation.
I tend to disagree. It's the person totally not having fantasies that I'm worried about, because they are so dissociated from their actual thoughts, there is more chance of those unacknowledged needs becoming actions. Action often comes on the heels of total denial and deprivation.
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It could be creepy only if it's substantiated by other actions. Or it could be totally innocent and subconscious. What fantasies go on in our minds to bring us to sexual fulfillment is totally okay....as long as it's in our minds.
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
What if someone has a sexual fantasy of mutilating babies? (the most horrible thing I could think of popped into my mind). ITA with the first two sentences there, but if he hypothetically had a sexual fantasy involving his daughter, it shouldn't be seen as totally okay. In effect everything will be okay if it stays in his mind and if his daughter can't sense the way he thinks, but just allowing the mental entertainment of it increases temptation. When action does come, it's always on the heels of persuasive temptation.
Originally Posted by westcoastcurls
Largely, I agree. All thoughts are not OK.

I do not believe this.
Originally Posted by iara
OK, for you they're not.
Originally Posted by Phoenix
FWIW, I totally agree with your Phoenix. A hard man is good....no, I mean A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND!

If the OP has some endless fountain of "good men" would she care to share the location of said fountain while she's unable to use said source!?!
Originally Posted by newcurly
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It could be creepy only if it's substantiated by other actions. Or it could be totally innocent and subconscious. What fantasies go on in our minds to bring us to sexual fulfillment is totally okay....as long as it's in our minds.
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
What if someone has a sexual fantasy of mutilating babies? (the most horrible thing I could think of popped into my mind). ITA with the first two sentences there, but if he hypothetically had a sexual fantasy involving his daughter, it shouldn't be seen as totally okay. In effect everything will be okay if it stays in his mind and if his daughter can't sense the way he thinks, but just allowing the mental entertainment of it increases temptation. When action does come, it's always on the heels of persuasive temptation.
Originally Posted by westcoastcurls
And you would know that, how? How does one be another's mental police? I truly believe if someones mental landscape is so polluted, their external life will show it.

just allowing the mental entertainment of it increases temptation. When action does come, it's always on the heels of persuasive temptation.
I tend to disagree. It's the person totally not having fantasies that I'm worried about, because they are so dissociated from their actual thoughts, there is more chance of those unacknowledged needs becoming actions. Action often comes on the heels of total denial and deprivation.
Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
You can't be someone's thought police. Most likely only if they let on themselves, or they shared they fantasized about it after the thought.

Fantasy leading to actions basically seems like a facet of human nature. They don't have to of course, but when something serious is on the table and that dynamic is real, it's hard to be neutral to someone having destructive fantasies. Child molesters who are into kiddie porn...that's why it's very common to hear it was uncovered in their homes after they were taken into custody. Ted Bundy admitted he became addicted to pornography. I'm just guessing that if these people are attracted to the visual stimulation, it rests in their thoughts too. They don't just see a picture and then act, but there's thinking and fantasizing between point A and B. That's aside from the testimony of serial killers and such who say they fantasized about what they wound up doing.

Some people who have committed heinous acts apparently didn't lead lives that tipped others off about their inner thoughts.

The person totally not having fantasies is an interesting thought. I'm not going to disagree with that because I have no idea if there's something to it. I would guess that most people who actually do something like take advantage of their own daughter give it some forethought/play over fulfilling their desires mentally. But maybe not all and maybe for some they just flip a switch the moment stuff goes down.
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I have to admit this would weird me out & I would have to talk to him about it. Saying an ex's name is definitely different then saying a child's name during sex. It's the whole "during sex" that would weird me out. I can see getting children/grandchildren's names mixed up, but not during sex.
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They were just making out, I think.
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