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Old 02-23-2009, 10:05 AM   #21
 
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Moody guys exist, for sure. I have a friend who blocks people on Facebook when he feels slighted and then adds them back. He's even done it to his own sister. He's high maintanence but he's never, ever been rude to me. He might just disappear for awhile but when we do hang out with our daughters, he's very easy-going. I'd put the kibosh on a friendship that makes me feel badly all the time.

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Old 02-23-2009, 10:06 AM   #22
 
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Not sure exactly what the OP's situation was but I know what she means about friends who bring down the mood. I've had a couple of friends that were upset about something else and would be *****y the whole night instead of trying to make the best of the situation. Or they'd be rude to you if they dont like something and not say anything directly about it. They'll be catty and have an attitude for days. They don't express what they're feeling, they just act like biatch. I'm slowly cutting two friends out of my life that do this, this is not the main reason, there were other bigger issues that came up. I've never had guy friends act like this.

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I sure have. I guarantee you, this is not a female thing. This is a human being thing. Some people are better at reeling it in than others, but trust me, both genders are just as apt to be whiny and moody and sour as one another.
LOL yeah as a married woman I can definitely attest to this. My husband definitely has his “days”, and I have learned to give him his space and/or try to get him to open up a bit if I can tell that something is really bothering him. In fact, you could argue that some men may be more prone to this kind of thing than women because men are expected to suck it up and tough it out, whereas women are more apt to talk through their issues and then get on with their lives.
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Old 02-23-2009, 12:05 PM   #23
 
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And to the original poster, I would just say -- your friend's actions sound mean-spirited and disrespectful. I consider those kinds of insults to be abuse, and I don't take them from anyone. So if you're looking for permission not to put up with it... you've got mine!
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And to the original poster, I would just say -- your friend's actions sound mean-spirited and disrespectful. I consider those kinds of insults to be abuse, and I don't take them from anyone. So if you're looking for permission not to put up with it... you've got mine!
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No one needs "friends" like that.
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Old 02-23-2009, 05:53 PM   #25
 
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We all have our bad days, both male and female. And I know moody males and females too, by the way.
It's okay to complain about the day, feel cranky...but it's another to take it out on your friends, especially several times in the day. I think if I were to say something rude...I would be able to acknowledge it, apologize, and stop doing so for the rest of the day.
You say she's sometimes cool but then you say she's narcissistic. Is she cool only when she gets her way? Can she compromise? Is she able to listen to you when you have a bad day? If you were to confront her about being rude to you, would she make an effort to stop that behavior or would she get defensive?
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