Sex Ed in School - Rated G

Last week I told my 13 year old son the facts of life (he's a bit of a late bloomer). It went really well; thats not why I'm posting.

In the course of the discussion it became clear that the topic has never been broached in school! In fact, he said last year when they studied Biology the teacher completely skipped the Chapters that covered the reproductive system - WTH?? Its not up to the school to do a parents job, but even from an educational perspective, shouldnt they cover this??

FYI my kids go to private religious school, but it is coed and contemporary and the secular education is strong. AND includes S.A.F.E. which teaches them about strangers, drugs and alcohol, bullying etc. I asked him if that class ever covered safe sex/condoms etc; he said no.

I'm surprised and dismayed; am I wrong here?
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From what my friends who went to parochial school tell me, that's not too far from what they experienced as well.

In public school, we had actual sex ed, aside from class for a 2 weeks each year, starting in 3rd grade.
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I was in the public school system all through high school... we didn't have a specific 'sex ed' class, but we DID cover STDs and such things in a Health class that was required in about 9th grade I think (so right about the age of your son... ish).

I think most everyone's parents had talked to them about sex and condoms/pregnancy/STDs and such before we had to take the class, but it WAS nice to learn about everything without the awkwardness that comes from talking about such things with you parents. lol, there's definitely something to be said about taking the 'educational' approach on those things.

Could you maybe make an appointment and speak to the principal, counselor, or teacher? Express your concern. Maybe they can tell when such things will be covered, or will take your thoughts into account when reevaluating the curriculum next time if such a course isn't currently offered.
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I know that when I was in public school I had sex-ed -- I think fifth grade, seventh grade, and tenth grade.

Though I did have friends growing up that attended private religious schools and they never had any type of sex-ed, though I would think that they were taught about the reproductive system.
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Originally Posted by Poodlehead
Last week I told my 13 year old son the facts of life (he's a bit of a late bloomer). It went really well; thats not why I'm posting.

In the course of the discussion it became clear that the topic has never been broached in school! In fact, he said last year when they studied Biology the teacher completely skipped the Chapters that covered the reproductive system - WTH?? Its not up to the school to do a parents job, but even from an educational perspective, shouldnt they cover this??

FYI my kids go to private religious school, but it is coed and contemporary and the secular education is strong. AND includes S.A.F.E. which teaches them about strangers, drugs and alcohol, bullying etc. I asked him if that class ever covered safe sex/condoms etc; he said no.

I'm surprised and dismayed; am I wrong here?
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I went to Catholic school for 12 years and we always had some form of sex-ed in addition to the actual biology of everything. Of course, the sex-ed part was all about how pre-marital sex and birth control were dangerous and wrong, but we were taught about them and everything was discussed in frank terms. And every aspect of reproduction was covered in both biology and sex ed classes. I have many issues with my catholic education, but I will always be grateful that my teachers always aimed to educate rather than leave us ignorant.

I'm really flabbergasted that teaching the facts behind reproduction is neglected, especially in a public school. Holy crap.
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I went to Catholic school and we did have sex ed including the reproductive system...in fact,I think that's ALL it was about.

This was in the late 60's though
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I went to a public school. We had sex ed in 5th and 10th grade.

My daughter had them in 6th 7th and now in 10th grade. While she was in elementary school, I had to sign a permission slip in order for her to have the class.
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I was in the public school system all through high school... we didn't have a specific 'sex ed' class, but we DID cover STDs and such things in a Health class that was required in about 9th grade I think (so right about the age of your son... ish).
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Originally Posted by MimsTX
Just a quick aside here: That's so funny because my public school also did the anti-STD fear-mongering in 9th grade, with no actual sex ed until the 11th. WTH?

Of course, this was back in the dark ages. I agree -- talk to the principal. Do you know any other parents who you could get on your side?
I was in the public school system all through high school... we didn't have a specific 'sex ed' class, but we DID cover STDs and such things in a Health class that was required in about 9th grade I think (so right about the age of your son... ish).
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Originally Posted by MimsTX
Just a quick aside here: That's so funny because my public school also did the anti-STD fear-mongering in 9th grade, with no actual sex ed until the 11th. WTH?

Of course, this was back in the dark ages. I agree -- talk to the principal. Do you know any other parents who you could get on your side?
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lol, at least you GOT sex ed! I'm in the south... where it's all "Abstinence is best!", I guess, so the STD section of the health book is all I ever got.

And this was only 12 years ago or so.
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I was in South Texas for my middle school years and freshman year of high school. In 6th, 7th, and 8th grades (maybe 5th too, now that I think about it), the girls were taken to a room and they went over everything pretty thoroughly. In 9th grade we did a whole unit on it in Biology and may have touched on it in Health. In Biology it was all about ways to prevent pregnancy and stay safe. We watched "The Miracle of Life" (and subsequently became scarred). And all this happened in a Southern town that was predominately Baptist, which I think is interesting.
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I went to school in Maine, we do not do abstinence only programs. I had a sex ed class in fifth grade which covered things about puberty. In seventh grade we had sex ed yet again which explained sex and pregnancy. Then freshman and sophomore year we had health class which covered protection yet again, along with projects about STIs.

Overall, I would say my school was excellent when it came to sex ed.
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Public school educated and had one class, one hour on one day, that covered the basics in 5th or 6th grade. Had the full information in 10th grade, as required by law.

My kids are late bloomers, too, but I've made sure they've had sex ed while they grow up. It's never been all in one big talk. They ask questions when they come up, and we talk about it. If there's something I think they're ready to know then we talk while driving somewhere on Mom-time. That way it's private, they don't have to look at me, and they're more receptive to the information. The morality of sex is taught along with the mechanics.
The same has been true with smoking, drugs, drinking, and other adult vices I know they'll be exposed to before long.
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I remember having sex education with a mixed class of boys and girls. I thought it was so embarrassing. Not sure why they didn't split it.
Thank you all so much for responding. A few follow up thoughts:

Apparently thisall might be related to the fact that its a private/religious school. I am not uncomfortable questioning the Principal; it is what it is.

I, too, didnt give the info all at once to my son; I feed my kids info at age appropriate intervals (erections, periods, body parts etc)- I'm not big into dumbing down to them, plus I figure if its out there in the open they will be desensitized and HOPEFULLY less uncomfortable regarding such topics, and IN PARTICULAR discussing them with me! I want their attitude towards sex to be that it is natural normal pleasurable etc along with understanding the responsibilty of it.

My boys have no Dad to speak of (he is a child himself); I am both mom and dad, so I wanted to offcially have the talk, linking the bits and pieces I had given him all along... I also wanted to explain the difference between having sex and making love - pretty sure school won't be covering that topic! It was actually a very comfortable convo (he only cringed once) and it was really the beginning of what I hope to be an ongoing dialogue between us....

Anyway, will check with the Admin at school for sure - in the very least to find out why they avoided the mere SCIENCE of the topic. Thank you all again
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I went to a small Christian school and waiting until marriage was stressed, no mention of condoms or bc, and our sex ed was basically dividing the girls from the boys and the girls were told how to keep themselves clean during their monthly cycles. That's about it.
Catholic school with sex ed. Good discussion of condoms, OCPs, the charting method, etc. followed by a talk on the Catholic church's position on contraception.
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Last edited by newcurly; 02-23-2009 at 07:26 PM.
Public school, got it in 6th grade. We have another one about STDs & safe sex next year, ninth grade. My parents haven't even talked about it, except to tell me that having sex before I'm married is not acceptable, excusable, or even a remote possibility.

I've picked up the basics on the streets.
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I went to public school. In the 5th grade we had 1 class where we learned about puberty. We learned about STD's in 8th grade, it was short segment in a semester long health class.
I went to Catholic school in the 70s and 80s and we had sex ed in 7th, 10th and 11th grades. The last one focused more on NFP.

I know sex ed is required in public schools here. My nephew had it in 5th grade. I remember this because my stupid sister told him that if he had any questions and she wasn't there, he could call one of his aunts. Umm...no; he can ask his dad. I have no brothers and no kids. What am I going to be able to tell a 10 year old boy?

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