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Old 02-24-2009, 07:28 PM   #1
 
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My boyfriend of 2 and a half years has just walked out and left me after a huge argument that resulted in him putting his hands around my throat. It's 2.30 in the morning here so all my friends and family are asleep and I really need some help. I can't breathe.
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lock the doors and make a cup of tea and come back. calm down. can you call your mom or another woman in your family? im sure they wont mind.
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Old 02-24-2009, 07:30 PM   #3
 
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oh my god.
Are you safe now?
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I'm so sorry to bother you all but I didn't know what else to do. I can't think straight, he's just text to say he's got to his mum's ok but I'm a mess.

My mum doesn't even know we're together and i have no other women I can turn to at this time of night.
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well we are here, so why dont you tell us what happened?
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Call the police and fill out a report. I don't know if you have protection orders in your country, but you should have a record of this.
Do you have a friend whom you can call at any time? Call her and stay there for the night.
You need to be safe, first and foremost.
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You have us.
I'm sorry you're dealing w/ this ish...(((hugs))) stay safe...
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Old 02-24-2009, 07:37 PM   #8
 
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Thank you all so much.

I just can't fill out a police report on him, I work for the Police so believe me I know I should but I feel like I provoked him and he was so upset with himself for doing it that he left.

I don't have anyone I can call, I've tried a few but no one is answering because it's so late.
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wtf not? file a report...
don't fall for that ish...
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what were you fighting about and how did it escalate to him putting his hands on you? is this the first time he has handled you like this?
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Because I can't do that to him, it would mess up his life and I'm just a bit bruised, I'm more upset that he's gone. And I now how pathetic and ridiculous I sound.
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Oh NO! This is just the beginning. We are all here for you.

Take a deep breath, make some hot chocolate, and sit down. Tell us whats going on
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somehow I double-posted. sorry.
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you dont sound pathatic you sound shaken and thats understandable.
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He suffers badly with depression and whilst we've had a great year or so the last one together I wanted to talk to him about him moving in and the future and I obviously handled it so badly that we ended up screaming at each other, so that's how it started. He went to hit my once about a year and a half ago but he managed to stop himself. His main fear is that he'll become his abusive father and I'm scared this will be a catalyst for him hurting himself.
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Thank you all so much.

I just can't fill out a police report on him, I work for the Police so believe me I know I should but I feel like I provoked him and he was so upset with himself for doing it that he left.

I don't have anyone I can call, I've tried a few but no one is answering because it's so late.
That's why it's called self-control. Whether or not you 'provoked" him does not give him or anyone else the right to assault you. Please look out for yourself. Call the police and please don't worry about disturbing someone's sleep in times of emergency. Believe me, they will be more upset after the fact to discover that they could have helped you had they only known... Please take of yourself. {{{hugs}}}
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Please do not make excuses for him.
Please do not blame yourself.
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red flags and danger signs are all over this situation. you need to worry about keeping yourself. You cant fix a broken man with love and affection, he needs professional help and you arent qualified to give it to him. In fact you may be enabling this behavior to continue. Making decisions based on whether or not he is going to hurt himself is not healthy for either of you.
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I'm so scared
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It's taking every last bit of self controlI have not to drive to him right now
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