Dating & different schedules

When my fiance' and I first started dating, he worked from 6:00 P.M. to 6:00 A.M. for two days straight, and then he'd have one day off and every other weekend off. At the time, I was working 8:30 to 5:00, Monday through Friday. We hung out on his one off day and off weekend. It wasn't ideal, but it worked out in the end.
I was dating a guy for a couple of months and then out of nowhere he dropped off the face of the earth and stopped talking to me for over a month. Well, tonight he tried to get me to come over and blamed being busy with work and school for not calling me. I told him it was not going to happen because he hurt me too much...Part of me wants to forgive him because I really liked him and I think I still do... I just feel like crap right now.
Originally Posted by FloatyTheFish
This might sound harsh, and it absolutely isn't meant that way. It's just something I could never get into my own hard head until something someone said finally clicked. BELIEVE ME, i've been where you are and i let it go on for YEARS before i finally realized I deserved better than to have someone playing "Watch me disappear" every few months.

If he was into you.... if he was truly interested in the way that you deserve to have someone interested in you, he would have found a way to call or see you. There's not really any other way around it. If he wanted to bad enough (and let's face it, you're worth someone REALLY wanting to get in touch with you), he would have done it. I'll even go so far as to say that even if there was some kind of ridiculous emergency, he STILL would have found a way to get in touch.

A couple of months is plenty of time to get to know someone, and no matter what was going on in his life, if he was as into you as he was making you think, he would have wanted you to be a part of it.

So don't fall for that crap. He was either too lazy or too undecided to care about your feelings before. Don't make the mistake of thinking that's changed now. Go find tyourself someone who thinks the sun shines out of your a$$ and wants you to know about it all the time. You don't deserve anything less
Originally Posted by MimsTX
Trust me I already realized everything you just said and that is why I feel so stupid.
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I was dating a guy for a couple of months and then out of nowhere he dropped off the face of the earth and stopped talking to me for over a month. Well, tonight he tried to get me to come over and blamed being busy with work and school for not calling me. I told him it was not going to happen because he hurt me too much...Part of me wants to forgive him because I really liked him and I think I still do... I just feel like crap right now.
Originally Posted by FloatyTheFish
This might sound harsh, and it absolutely isn't meant that way. It's just something I could never get into my own hard head until something someone said finally clicked. BELIEVE ME, i've been where you are and i let it go on for YEARS before i finally realized I deserved better than to have someone playing "Watch me disappear" every few months.

If he was into you.... if he was truly interested in the way that you deserve to have someone interested in you, he would have found a way to call or see you. There's not really any other way around it. If he wanted to bad enough (and let's face it, you're worth someone REALLY wanting to get in touch with you), he would have done it. I'll even go so far as to say that even if there was some kind of ridiculous emergency, he STILL would have found a way to get in touch.

A couple of months is plenty of time to get to know someone, and no matter what was going on in his life, if he was as into you as he was making you think, he would have wanted you to be a part of it.

So don't fall for that crap. He was either too lazy or too undecided to care about your feelings before. Don't make the mistake of thinking that's changed now. Go find tyourself someone who thinks the sun shines out of your a$$ and wants you to know about it all the time. You don't deserve anything less
Originally Posted by MimsTX
Trust me I already realized everything you just said and that is why I feel so stupid.
Originally Posted by FloatyTheFish
Don't feel stupid, about two months ago I had one of those "he treated me like crap and played me but for some sick reason I still like him" things. You aren't stupid. Just make up your mind you are moving on and before you know it you will be. No need to beat yourself up, you gave someone a chance and the benefit of the doubt and he didn't live up to it. The problem is him not you.
TOTALLY don't feel stupid. I think just about everyone's been there (heck, I've been there more than once. How dumb am I?)

Get PISSED! It's hardly your fault it happened. HE did it to you!

I'm all for getting mad and doing something about it lol. Don't feel stupid for something that isn't your fault.
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What successful people do is, they move on.

Give yourself a little time to lick your wounds, floaty, then do that.

What successful people do is, they move on.

Give yourself a little time to lick your wounds, floaty, then do that.

Originally Posted by wild~hair
I know as corny as this sounds, my song regarding my "love life" is "Cowgirls Don't Cry" by Brooks and Dunn (I know that sounds super hokey) but the chorus says

Cowgirls don't cry
Ride, baby, ride
Lessons in life are going to show you in time
Soon enough you're gonna know why
It's gonna hurt every now and then
If you fall get back on again
Cowgirls don't cry
And that's what I do. Just go on. It's been good for me to have as something to say to myself.
Thanks guys I appreciate everything you said. I think the reason I was even more mad was because of all the days to try to talk to me again it was the day before I had a date with another guy. But I just got back from that and it went great so I feel so much better.
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