physical objects are so daunting

Physical objects are so daunting to me for some reason. Does anyone else feel the same way?
Mailing stuff, changing the kitty litter, weeding the garden, doing laundry - oh my god, these are HUGE daunting tasks to me. I feel exhausted after I do it.

Mailing stuff is the worst. I have such a hard time knowing the locations of physical objects - and mailing something requires me to coordinate having a lot of different objects in the same place at the same time - keys, pen, stamps, envelopes, the object that I want to mail, etc., etc - while I look for one I accidentally lose track of what I already have assembled - it's so hard!!

But I can spend hours and hours doing "digital" work ... writing software or budgeting - no problem! effortless!

If I made more money I would hire someone to do all of my physical-object chores!

Anyway, just wanted to vent because I just put my laundry in the dryer and then cleaned up cat poop from my cat wiping her ass on the carpet after some new food disagreed with her. And yesterday I mailed 2 package AND got an oil change. Those 4 things wiped me out so much more than the 50-hour work week that preceded them.
Wow - I could have written this. Are you ADD? I go through the exact same thing with tasks I don't enjoy, I'm absolutely wrung out afterwards. But my work (graphic designer) is a whole different thing. I hyper-focus to the point of ignoring basic urges, like peeing and eating!
Wow - I could have written this. Are you ADD? I go through the exact same thing with tasks I don't enjoy, I'm absolutely wrung out afterwards. But my work (graphic designer) is a whole different thing. I hyper-focus to the point of ignoring basic urges, like peeing and eating!
Originally Posted by meryn
oh yeah I do the hyper-focusing thing too. putting off going to the bathroom for hours and hours because I'm in the middle of a thought. sometimes I get home and realize I totally forgot to eat all day.
Is it possible to have ADD and still find it really easy to concentrate on certain tasks? I didn't know that. at work my supervisor thinks I'm the most organized programmer in the world, but that's because it's all digital stuff and I can save a list in notepad.

Too bad I can't save my keys in notepad or write a C# program to change my kitty litter!! I would be all set!
Is it possible to have ADD and still find it really easy to concentrate on certain tasks?
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
Absolutely - it's actually one of the "signs" of ADD.

My doctor explained to me that "attention deficit" is actually misleading... there's not a deficit at all. It's more of an attention inconsistency.
Is it possible to have ADD and still find it really easy to concentrate on certain tasks?
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
Absolutely - it's actually one of the "signs" of ADD.

My doctor explained to me that "attention deficit" is actually misleading... there's not a deficit at all. It's more of an attention inconsistency.
Originally Posted by meryn
That's interesting ... I really didn't know that! I definitely do find certain things easier to pay attention to than others. I always thought that was because certain things are more boring than others. hehe.

My boyfriend makes fun of me because I can pay attention to sci-fi and fantasy movies really easily, but any movie involving everyday people doing everyday things really baffles me and I can't follow the plot to save my life!! Now I wonder if that's part of the same thing.
You should get evaluated for ADHD - I definitely share some of these symptoms (and more). Hyperfocus is one of them. Am currently trying out different meds. The first one helped a LOT but had a high co-pay. These last 2 I've tried -- mehh! Really depends on your chemistry.

Two really good books that helped me identify this:

ADD-Friendly ways to organize your life (Kohlberg)
Delivered from Distraction (Hallowell)
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hmmm ... drugs are scary to me though ... luckily my programming job is one of the "fascinating" things that's easy to concentrate on, so if I do have ADD then it's only affecting my personal life, not my work. and I have somehow trained myself to put my keys and cell phone in the "bunny bucket" (yeah stupid name, but I have a goofy bunny picture that helps me remember to put stuff in there otherwise I would never remember)

I wonder if I should just put in a few extra hours at work and use the extra money to outsource more of the boring stuff!!

I already outsource part of it - I have a cleaning service that comes twice a month to clean my house ... oh god, that's a lifesaver ... if I ever lose my job I would probably give up groceries before I would give up the cleaning service. before I had the cleaning service I could literally spend 8 hours cleaning and it would look so terrible and half-done. now they come and 4 people clean the whole house in half an hour and it looks perfect.

I think I just need to admit that I suck at certain tasks, and hire people to do them for me. it would help the economy right??
hmmm ... drugs are scary to me though ... luckily my programming job is one of the "fascinating" things that's easy to concentrate on, so if I do have ADD then it's only affecting my personal life, not my work. and I have somehow trained myself to put my keys and cell phone in the "bunny bucket" (yeah stupid name, but I have a goofy bunny picture that helps me remember to put stuff in there otherwise I would never remember)

I wonder if I should just put in a few extra hours at work and use the extra money to outsource more of the boring stuff!!

I already outsource part of it - I have a cleaning service that comes twice a month to clean my house ... oh god, that's a lifesaver ... if I ever lose my job I would probably give up groceries before I would give up the cleaning service. before I had the cleaning service I could literally spend 8 hours cleaning and it would look so terrible and half-done. now they come and 4 people clean the whole house in half an hour and it looks perfect.

I think I just need to admit that I suck at certain tasks, and hire people to do them for me. it would help the economy right??
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
Thing I liked about "Delivered from Distraction" is that they recommend non-drug related strategies first. Medication is last on the list.

I too am very cautious about meds, but at my age, less so. What I loved about the first med -- it was like putting on prescription glasses after years of not seeing. Better simile is putting on noise-canceling headphones. The noise/chatter in my head just -- stopped. It was wonderful. My focus sharpened. My anxiety (for which I was taking medication) diminished so much that I didn't need medication.
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that is interesting ... what are some of the non-medication strategies?

I guess my fear with drugs is that I wouldn't feel like "me" anymore ... my scatterbrainedness is still part of my personality even if it is frustrating sometimes.

for a month I had a cheezy picture taped to my stairs, of a chubby bunny putting keys in a bucket with "Good Bunnies Put Keys In The Bunny Bucket" written under the picture (my own lovely work of art, haha). It's not there any more but I still think about it when I see my keys so that was one thing that helped me a little.

Having a clean house helps me too. I can remember where stuff is a lot more easily if it's not cluttered. so the cleaning service helps a lot. every other Friday is my most relaxing and mentally clear day because that's when the house is suddenly clean. When they're done then I usually go in and do some organizing of my own because it doesn't look so overwhelming any more.

Getting rid of stuff helps me a lot too. When I feel like there's too much laundry to do, I donate most of it and wash the rest, keeping my favorite stuff and getting rid of anything that seems like too much effort to wash. then it feels a little less overwhelming.
hmm that reminds me - I wonder what my boyfriend would think if I donated all of our dishes.
when I was single and living alone I owned one bowl, one plate, one knife, one fork, one spoon, one glass, one mug, one pot. (I put all of my other dishes on the curb and someone took them away.) It worked great for me - I never felt overwhelmed by a sink full of dishes because I didnt have enough dishes to fill the sink.
that is interesting ... what are some of the non-medication strategies?

I guess my fear with drugs is that I wouldn't feel like "me" anymore ... my scatterbrainedness is still part of my personality even if it is frustrating sometimes.
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
A lot of ADHD meds are metabolized in 8 or 12 hours. You could try them, just to see if you'd prefer it. Even if it sucked, it wouldn't last very long.
that is interesting ... what are some of the non-medication strategies?

I guess my fear with drugs is that I wouldn't feel like "me" anymore ... my scatterbrainedness is still part of my personality even if it is frustrating sometimes.
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
A lot of ADHD meds are metabolized in 8 or 12 hours. You could try them, just to see if you'd prefer it. Even if it sucked, it wouldn't last very long.
Originally Posted by Eilonwy
true but then the diagnosis also becomes part of your medical record and anything that goes on that record makes it more expensive to get health insurance later ... which isn't noticeable to most people because they get insurance through their employer, but I'm an independent contractor and I pay for my own insurance so it's something I keep in the back of my mind.
true but then the diagnosis also becomes part of your medical record and anything that goes on that record makes it more expensive to get health insurance later
Originally Posted by tmmy_cat
God, that sucks
I got a question about ADD/ADHD meds if you any of you don't mind answering.

If you're prescribed meds for it, are you supposed to be on it all the time, or do you just take it as needed?
Wow - I could have written this. Are you ADD? I go through the exact same thing with tasks I don't enjoy, I'm absolutely wrung out afterwards. But my work (graphic designer) is a whole different thing. I hyper-focus to the point of ignoring basic urges, like peeing and eating!
Originally Posted by meryn
I could have written this as well. I'm pretty sure I don't have ADD though. Every time I read a description of executive function disorder, I think, "I think I have that!".
I got a question about ADD/ADHD meds if you any of you don't mind answering.

If you're prescribed meds for it, are you supposed to be on it all the time, or do you just take it as needed?
Originally Posted by cympreni

I just take as needed.
what is executive function disorder?

I once took a "do you have autism?" test and scored pretty darn high on it ... lol. but I try not to trust too many tests that I take on the internet.
I got a question about ADD/ADHD meds if you any of you don't mind answering.

If you're prescribed meds for it, are you supposed to be on it all the time, or do you just take it as needed?
Originally Posted by cympreni

I just take as needed.
Originally Posted by meryn
Well, I guess I mean to say, are you supposed to take breaks from it?

I guess I need to tell the story.

I knew some people who got in an argument over a child who had ADHD. He was rather . . . unruly to put it politely. Someone had asked if he took his meds that day. A few people insisted that he wasn't supposed to take it unless he was in school. That his mind needed "to rest" from his meds.

I was just curious if that was true.
It's basically the ability to organize cognitive processes.

A description of executive function disorder:

http://www.ncld.org/content/view/865/391/



A questionnaire

http://healthcalls.com/Questionnaire.htm
thanks!

I have another question about ADD (or maybe a question about people who don't have ADD). sorry if this is ignorant. Would a non-ADD person find it easy to concentrate on something boring? I'm having trouble picturing that ... lol.

Aren't some tasks just inherently more boring than others? And wouldn't anyone lose focus if they're doing something that's totally boring to them? how is it a medical issue to be completely bored by something boring? ...

I know there's more to it but I'm reading all these "do you have ADD?" quizzes where it asks "Do you have trouble concentrating on things that aren't interesting to you?" and a "Yes" answer to that is supposed to bump your score in favor of ADD. I just can't picture how anyone would answer No to that question though! Are there really people out there who find it easy to concentrate on boring things?

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