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Old 03-06-2009, 06:44 AM   #1
 
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Ok so last week around Wednesday or Thursday I get a text message from the Dentist You remember him right he was asking me out and all, but I never wanted to go so I was avoiding his messages for awhile until I thought he gave up.. So he catches me off gurad and asks so I was like what the heck I will go, so anyway he tells me will confirm during the week for tonight Friday.. So today is Friday 9 am and I have not heard from him yet.. Do you think I am in the clear?? Do you think he should have contacted me sooner? I mean if he contcts me today isnt it kind of late already to be confirming??? As you can see i dont want to go....
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Ok so last week around Wednesday or Thursday I get a text message from the Dentist You remember him right he was asking me out and all, but I never wanted to go so I was avoiding his messages for awhile until I thought he gave up.. So he catches me off gurad and asks so I was like what the heck I will go, so anyway he tells me will confirm during the week for tonight Friday.. So today is Friday 9 am and I have not heard from him yet.. Do you think I am in the clear?? Do you think he should have contacted me sooner? I mean if he contcts me today isnt it kind of late already to be confirming??? As you can see i dont want to go....

He asked you on a first date via text message?
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If you don't want to go, just don't go.
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Ok so last week around Wednesday or Thursday I get a text message from the Dentist You remember him right he was asking me out and all, but I never wanted to go so I was avoiding his messages for awhile until I thought he gave up.. So he catches me off gurad and asks so I was like what the heck I will go, so anyway he tells me will confirm during the week for tonight Friday.. So today is Friday 9 am and I have not heard from him yet.. Do you think I am in the clear?? Do you think he should have contacted me sooner? I mean if he contcts me today isnt it kind of late already to be confirming??? As you can see i dont want to go....

He asked you on a first date via text message?
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Old 03-06-2009, 07:09 AM   #5
 
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What are you asking...when you say are you in the clear? If he doesn't call, you're good. You won't have to go out with him. If he does call, you can say it's a bit late and you don't appreciate it so you changed your mind. I don't see a problem if you don't like him.

However, my take is that he sensed your reluctance and either changed his mind or just isn't going to put as much effort as he would with someone who's interested.
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Yep he asked me on a date thru text...

So do you think if I should happen to get a text today I should ignore it??
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Old 03-06-2009, 07:13 AM   #7
 
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I would not ignore it but tell him you had made other plans since you had not heard back.
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I would not ignore it but tell him you had made other plans since you had not heard back.
So then it wouldnt be rude if I should hear from him today.. and tell him I made other plans.. Being he said he would confirm during the week and being today it is already Friday...and he never confirmed
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Just tell him you're not interested.
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With all the texting, IMing, chat rooms, Facebooking, etc., it seems to me that people are losing the ability to communicate effectively.

I would be insulted to be asked out on a date in a text, period. And if he texts again to confirm, I would respectfully decline the date.

To the OP - Did you exchange phone numbers at all? It sounds like you don't really want to go on a date with him anyway, so why put yourself through all the game playing. Just my $.02.
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Tell Dr. Vogel you're not interested.
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Just tell him you're not interested.

And add the above to what I said.
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Why don't you want to go out with him? I must of missed your post about him.
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Did you break up with your boyfriend?

If you don't want to go, say you're not interested. if you're curious, go. If you don't want to go, wait till he contacts you and if he doesn't there's no problem.

I use texts and Facebook and IM etc. as much as any other young person but I think it is rude to use them for first dates and I would have to REALLY like someone to accept a first date request by text, if at all. If you've been together for a while that's different but I think people should be putting their best foot forward at the beginning.
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We're all adults here, right? Just tell him you're not interested. Saves you from not having to lie, or having to feign interest. Seems pretty simple to me.
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