Questions for the Curlies about my wife. - Page 2

WileE-Dead · 03-07-2009, 03:07 PM

misspam · 03-07-2009, 03:10 PM

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So I've noticed my wife does something that at least I think is weird. I would say this happens at least 80% of the time.

We live in a two story house our bedroom is upstairs and so is "my bathroom" she has her own. Anyway, any time I go up stairs to take a shower the minute or so I get out she is either coming up stairs or already in our adjacent bedroom. Again this happens 80% of the time. I've asked her about it and she says she doesn't realize she's doing it.

It happened today. We are going to met some friends for dinner so I decided to jump in the shower. I get out and she's sitting on our bed talking to her sister on the phone. She never goes up stairs to talk on the phone.

So what am I missing here?

I guess I'm the one who is missing something here.

You say when you use the bathroom(yours) which is adjacent to your shared bedroom, and you think it's odd that she goes into your shared bedroom to talk on the phone.

When she talks on the phone she goes into the living room. today when I went to go take a shower she was in the family room watching TV. When I get out she is in our bedroom. So there I am getting dress and head back down to the family room. she comes down 2 minutes later.

Do you two ever talk about your desire to have more privacy then? Is this just one of those quirky things your wife does or does this really bother you?

Many times my husband will come looking for me and inevitably, it's when I'm in the bathroom or shower. Maybe he thinks he can corner me and I have no alternate exit.

Married folk generally like to be around each other. I would take it as a compliment and be thankful that she isn't avoiding you instead.

FieryCurls · 03-07-2009, 03:13 PM

Maybe you should ask your wife.

DEL2C · 03-07-2009, 03:34 PM

At first I thought the complaint was that she's always on the phone while following him around the house. It doesn't sound this way though...She just likes being around you! I'm not sure you could ASK her why she's doing this without hurting her feelings. How long have you 2 been married? Are you away a lot?

rudeechick · 03-07-2009, 05:02 PM

My boyfriend tends to be like this - he'd rather be nearer than further. It doesnt bother me, I consider myself lucky cause my ex was always running to some hobby or other.

The only time times it bugs me: Dont watch me brush my teeth and dont watch me put product in

Other than that, I'm cool with it.

bushyhead · 03-07-2009, 08:26 PM

Do you take a shower around the same time every day? If so, maybe it's just part of the routine. My husband showers at night before bed, so quite often, he'll get in the shower and I'll come into the bathroom a few minutes later and start washing my face/brushing my teeth. Not weird at all for us.

godot_curl · 03-07-2009, 09:26 PM

My guess is she is hiding a dead body somewhere in the bedroom and is afraid you will find it.

Well, that's why I do it anyway....

bushyhead · 03-07-2009, 09:55 PM

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My guess is she is hiding a dead body somewhere in the bedroom and is afraid you will find it.

battinlash · 03-07-2009, 09:56 PM

Ha, I always follow my husband around when he's about to take a shower. I also like to have him around when I'm taking one so I'll have someone to chat with

. I have no idea why. Maybe it's a psychological thing?

M2LR · 03-07-2009, 10:03 PM

So, I do this to my husband. He told me a few months back that when ever he's in the shower, it seems I find a need to be in the bathroom; doing my hair, doing my make up, brush my teeth, or just come in to talk.

I read him your post and he said, "I just figure that my wife wants to see me nekkid. I'd be more worried if she avoided me when I was nekkid."

If she doesn't notice that she's doing this, then it's probably just subconsciously wanting to be near you.

I actually didn't notice that I did it to my husband until he said something about it.

Lotsawaves · 03-07-2009, 11:45 PM

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So, I do this to my husband. He told me a few months back that when ever he's in the shower, it seems I find a need to be in the bathroom; doing my hair, doing my make up, brush my teeth, or just come in to talk.

I read him your post and he said, "I just figure that my wife wants to see me nekkid. I'd be more worried if she avoided me when I was nekkid."

If she doesn't notice that she's doing this, then it's probably just subconsciously wanting to be near you.

I actually didn't notice that I did it to my husband until he said something about it.

Is it your personal space you are missing? I don't like people always around me. If I am in the bathroom getting ready, taking a shower, or whatever, I like my space. I can understand that it is bothering you. Just talk to her. I, also, find it weird that she will stop what she is doing when you are in the shower, so she can be close by. Does she not trust you?

sew and sew · 03-08-2009, 12:06 AM

Ok this is a longshot, but my mom has a tendency to check on people when they're in the shower. She's generally more worried about safety hazards than the average person. Could your wife be...and since it's a two story house, if she's not up there she won't hear if you fall or need help...

For half a year I lived in a two story house with my mom and she came upstairs more often if I was showering up there.

Outside of that, the subconscious desire to just be around you as you get ready for something is my best guess as to what drives it.

Gemini13 · 03-08-2009, 08:37 AM

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If she doesn't notice that she's doing this, then it's probably just subconsciously wanting to be near you.

This is what I was thinking. If it's bugging you and you really just want some private time- let her know. We can't read minds.

frau · 03-08-2009, 08:48 AM

do you have children? this is a longshot, but when you have small children if there is a long silence you go to where they are to be sure they're not getting in to trouble.

could it be that your normal being around the house making noise alerts her to where you are. whatever you're doing allows her the comfort of staying where she is. however, the silence of you being in the shower forces her to seek you out. once she finds you in the shower, her mind is settled but she remains near, talking on the phone or piddling around until you're out of the shower?

subbrock · 03-08-2009, 11:44 AM

i follow my SO, particularly when hes getting ready (taking a shower, getting dressed, etc). as a matter of fact, when its time for him to get ready to go somewhere, i usually stop what im doing and hover. im the one who noticed i did it and i asked myself "what the hell is wrong with you? why do you do this?" and then i realized he always needs something. so subconsiously, i stop what im doing because i know hes going to interrupt it anyway to either ask me a question, tell me a story, ask for the conditioner, find his shoes, the list goes on...

M2LR · 03-08-2009, 11:59 AM

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So, I do this to my husband. He told me a few months back that when ever he's in the shower, it seems I find a need to be in the bathroom; doing my hair, doing my make up, brush my teeth, or just come in to talk.

I read him your post and he said, "I just figure that my wife wants to see me nekkid. I'd be more worried if she avoided me when I was nekkid."

If she doesn't notice that she's doing this, then it's probably just subconsciously wanting to be near you.

I actually didn't notice that I did it to my husband until he said something about it.

Is it your personal space you are missing? I don't like people always around me. If I am in the bathroom getting ready, taking a shower, or whatever, I like my space. I can understand that it is bothering you. Just talk to her. I, also, find it weird that she will stop what she is doing when you are in the shower, so she can be close by. Does she not trust you?

I am not sure why you quoted me???

Hubby was in the shower and I talked to him this morning...of course, I said first, "Hey, you're in the shower, so I needed to come in and talk to you really quick..." he made a joke about me just wanting to see him nekkid again, I asked my question, then went out of the room.

medussa · 03-08-2009, 01:36 PM

I'm curious whether or not the OP had another talk with his wife last night.

Lotsawaves · 03-08-2009, 09:38 PM

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So, I do this to my husband. He told me a few months back that when ever he's in the shower, it seems I find a need to be in the bathroom; doing my hair, doing my make up, brush my teeth, or just come in to talk.

I read him your post and he said, "I just figure that my wife wants to see me nekkid. I'd be more worried if she avoided me when I was nekkid."

If she doesn't notice that she's doing this, then it's probably just subconsciously wanting to be near you.

I actually didn't notice that I did it to my husband until he said something about it.

Is it your personal space you are missing? I don't like people always around me. If I am in the bathroom getting ready, taking a shower, or whatever, I like my space. I can understand that it is bothering you. Just talk to her. I, also, find it weird that she will stop what she is doing when you are in the shower, so she can be close by. Does she not trust you?

I am not sure why you quoted me???

Hubby was in the shower and I talked to him this morning...of course, I said first, "Hey, you're in the shower, so I needed to come in and talk to you really quick..." he made a joke about me just wanting to see him nekkid again, I asked my question, then went out of the room.

I'm not sure why I quoted you, either.

I was really responding just to the OP. Sorry.

DEL2C · 03-08-2009, 10:16 PM

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i follow my SO, particularly when hes getting ready (taking a shower, getting dressed, etc). as a matter of fact, when its time for him to get ready to go somewhere, i usually stop what im doing and hover. im the one who noticed i did it and i asked myself "what the hell is wrong with you? why do you do this?" and then i realized he always needs something. so subconsiously, i stop what im doing because i know hes going to interrupt it anyway to either ask me a question, tell me a story, ask for the conditioner, find his shoes, the list goes on...

I'm quoting you because I think this is funny

I find myself doing the same thing....

Josephine · 03-08-2009, 10:39 PM

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I wouldn't find it weird at all if my spouse was "following" me around the house, and actually, it doesn't sound like she's even following you! Before you get in the shower do you ask her to please leave you alone? THEN I would find it weird, but otherwise... I don't understand what you are conceiving to be the problem.

We live in a pretty big house around 2500sf You wouldn't find it weird if you went to a completly different area of the house to lets say use the bathroom and when you walk out your husband is right there 80% of the time?

Yea I find it wierd, and honestly sorta annoying. My bf does this when I'm getting ready to go somewhere, when he's done, he's sorta following me or coming where I am for no reason to do something or the other. I think it's because they want to be close to you.