Questions for the Curlies about my wife.

She loves you and is drawn to you and unconsciously moves to wherever you are without realizing it. I tend to do the same to my honey lol I just like being near him!
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My first guess is that she's doing this and doesn't even realize it. She just likes being around you, I guess.

My second guess would be that she feels like she has to "take care of you." So, she's there if you need her.

If it bothers you, point it out to her. Be careful how you word this, as it might hurt her feelings.
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I'm going to dinner lets have this figured out by the time I get back.

K thanks!
Originally Posted by Cdub100
Well, "lets"
I just responded, but I almost didn't do so because of this.
It's almost like "well, you women know how women are...I just don't have the time to figure all this out, so do this for me. If I add "k thanks" then it might make the first part of the request not sound as much like a demand."

It's 2 days later, and you got a lot of responses...maybe it wasn't "by the time you get back" from dinner, but is it resolved enough for you?

I'm starting to think she feels like she has to take care of you, but that's my hunch.
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She loves you and is drawn to you and unconsciously moves to wherever you are without realizing it. I tend to do the same to my honey lol I just like being near him!
Originally Posted by empressri
Yup. When I was in engaged, whenever SO would go in the shower, I'd be in the room.....just waiting, or doing whatever required me to be in the room, until he came out. Wherever he was in the house, I'd generally follow behind him. It wasn't something I thought about.....just did it. I didn't realize I did it until reading through these posts. LOL!

I guess I'm just trying to figure out why it's weird to you. She wants to be near you.....that's a GOOD thing.
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I'm going to dinner lets have this figured out by the time I get back.

K thanks!
Originally Posted by Cdub100
Well, "lets"
I just responded, but I almost didn't do so because of this.
It's almost like "well, you women know how women are...I just don't have the time to figure all this out, so do this for me. If I add "k thanks" then it might make the first part of the request not sound as much like a demand."

It's 2 days later, and you got a lot of responses...maybe it wasn't "by the time you get back" from dinner, but is it resolved enough for you?

I'm starting to think she feels like she has to take care of you, but that's my hunch.
Originally Posted by Boomygrrl
I thought the OP was making a joke, and I thought it was a funny one.

I'm going to dinner lets have this figured out by the time I get back.

K thanks!
Originally Posted by Cdub100
Well, "lets"
I just responded, but I almost didn't do so because of this.
It's almost like "well, you women know how women are...I just don't have the time to figure all this out, so do this for me. If I add "k thanks" then it might make the first part of the request not sound as much like a demand."

It's 2 days later, and you got a lot of responses...maybe it wasn't "by the time you get back" from dinner, but is it resolved enough for you?

I'm starting to think she feels like she has to take care of you, but that's my hunch.
Originally Posted by Boomygrrl
I thought the OP was making a joke, and I thought it was a funny one.

Originally Posted by wild~hair

LOL, yea it was.
The fact that you're annoyed by this and the fact that you said it was "doubtful" she wanted to have sex with you, make me think that maybe there are some areas of your marriage that aren't great. Maybe she suspects you're cheating on her and wants to see you naked to see if there are any unusal marks (like a hickey or fingernail marks or something).
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I would find it annoying too, but not overly so unless DH was coming in the bathroom with me. He knows that showers are my private time... I've got hot water running on my head and I can't hear you even if I wanted to (which I don't). Unless it's an emergency, you do not interrupt my showers. But I think it's normal to want to be near your spouse or at least know where they are. If I'm doing something in the bedroom, DH will often come to ask what I'm doing. I do the same if he's in the office for a while.
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Well, "lets"
I just responded, but I almost didn't do so because of this.
It's almost like "well, you women know how women are...I just don't have the time to figure all this out, so do this for me. If I add "k thanks" then it might make the first part of the request not sound as much like a demand."

It's 2 days later, and you got a lot of responses...maybe it wasn't "by the time you get back" from dinner, but is it resolved enough for you?

I'm starting to think she feels like she has to take care of you, but that's my hunch.
Originally Posted by Boomygrrl
I thought the OP was making a joke, and I thought it was a funny one.

Originally Posted by wild~hair

LOL, yea it was.
Originally Posted by Josephine
Ha! That joke went right over my head. I read it as he was taking his wife out to dinner to discuss the issue and he'd have it figured out by that night.

I'm such a dummy.
The fact that you're annoyed by this and the fact that you said it was "doubtful" she wanted to have sex with you, make me think that maybe there are some areas of your marriage that aren't great. Maybe she suspects you're cheating on her and wants to see you naked to see if there are any unusal marks (like a hickey or fingernail marks or something).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Maybe they're not very intimate and she wants to know if he's taking care of himself in the shower?

I'm reaching here, I know.

Well, "lets"
I just responded, but I almost didn't do so because of this.
It's almost like "well, you women know how women are...I just don't have the time to figure all this out, so do this for me. If I add "k thanks" then it might make the first part of the request not sound as much like a demand."

It's 2 days later, and you got a lot of responses...maybe it wasn't "by the time you get back" from dinner, but is it resolved enough for you?

I'm starting to think she feels like she has to take care of you, but that's my hunch.
Originally Posted by Boomygrrl
I thought the OP was making a joke, and I thought it was a funny one.

Originally Posted by wild~hair

LOL, yea it was.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I thought so too and I snickered when I read it.
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The fact that you're annoyed by this and the fact that you said it was "doubtful" she wanted to have sex with you, make me think that maybe there are some areas of your marriage that aren't great. Maybe she suspects you're cheating on her and wants to see you naked to see if there are any unusal marks (like a hickey or fingernail marks or something).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Maybe they're not very intimate and she wants to know if he's taking care of himself in the shower?

I'm reaching here, I know.
Originally Posted by medussa
Medussa: that is what I'm thinking. But-why would she care? I mean, if they aren't having sex (assuming), is he not "allowed" to ...relieve himself in private? Hmm- CDub: Is this the situation?
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Last edited by shellibean; 03-09-2009 at 02:22 PM.
The fact that you're annoyed by this and the fact that you said it was "doubtful" she wanted to have sex with you, make me think that maybe there are some areas of your marriage that aren't great. Maybe she suspects you're cheating on her and wants to see you naked to see if there are any unusal marks (like a hickey or fingernail marks or something).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Maybe they're not very intimate and she wants to know if he's taking care of himself in the shower?

I'm reaching here, I know.
Originally Posted by medussa
Medussa: that si what I'm thinking. But-why would she care? I mean, if they aren't having sex (assuming), is he not "allowed" to ...relieve himself in private? Hmm- CDub: Is this the situation?
Originally Posted by shellibean
If that were the case (she was checking to see if he was 'taking care' of himself in the shower) and she had shut him off - I would be annoyed by her too.
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The fact that you're annoyed by this and the fact that you said it was "doubtful" she wanted to have sex with you, make me think that maybe there are some areas of your marriage that aren't great. Maybe she suspects you're cheating on her and wants to see you naked to see if there are any unusal marks (like a hickey or fingernail marks or something).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Maybe they're not very intimate and she wants to know if he's taking care of himself in the shower?

I'm reaching here, I know.
Originally Posted by medussa
I was going to make a comment about reach arounds here, but I think I'll just skip it as too obvious.
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Maybe they're not very intimate and she wants to know if he's taking care of himself in the shower?

I'm reaching here, I know.
Originally Posted by medussa
Medussa: that si what I'm thinking. But-why would she care? I mean, if they aren't having sex (assuming), is he not "allowed" to ...relieve himself in private? Hmm- CDub: Is this the situation?
Originally Posted by shellibean
If that were the case (she was checking to see if he was 'taking care' of himself in the shower) and she had shut him off - I would be annoyed by her too.
Originally Posted by xcptnl


Unless...the reason they aren't having sex is because he's a porn-masturbation-addict and doesn't have anything left for the wife and she's trying to get him to stop so they can have a normal sex life again, and he has promised to stop, but suddenly he's "showering" 10 times a day, so she's suspecting he's back to his old tricks, so she's checking on him...

How's that for assumptions?
Hey, if he's going to pose the question then disappear, we can make whatever assumptions we want.
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The fact that you're annoyed by this and the fact that you said it was "doubtful" she wanted to have sex with you, make me think that maybe there are some areas of your marriage that aren't great. Maybe she suspects you're cheating on her and wants to see you naked to see if there are any unusal marks (like a hickey or fingernail marks or something).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Maybe they're not very intimate and she wants to know if he's taking care of himself in the shower?

I'm reaching here, I know.
Originally Posted by medussa
But-why would she care? I mean, if they aren't having sex (assuming), is he not "allowed" to ...relieve himself in private?
Originally Posted by shellibean
If they weren't having sex because he didn't want to, I could see the above scenario being of concern to her.
I took it as SHE wasn't interested in having sex b/c of him saying "doubtful" earlier. Unless that was a ploy for us to believe he is the victim of no sex instead of his wife....eaither way- they are both missing out.
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i follow my SO, particularly when hes getting ready (taking a shower, getting dressed, etc). as a matter of fact, when its time for him to get ready to go somewhere, i usually stop what im doing and hover. im the one who noticed i did it and i asked myself "what the hell is wrong with you? why do you do this?" and then i realized he always needs something. so subconsiously, i stop what im doing because i know hes going to interrupt it anyway to either ask me a question, tell me a story, ask for the conditioner, find his shoes, the list goes on...
Originally Posted by subbrock


I'm quoting you because I think this is funny

I find myself doing the same thing....
Originally Posted by DEL2C
Yup, I think Subbrock hit the nail on the head. Sounds just like most of the men I know! She's probably just trying to save herself some trouble, LOL.
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Medussa: that si what I'm thinking. But-why would she care? I mean, if they aren't having sex (assuming), is he not "allowed" to ...relieve himself in private? Hmm- CDub: Is this the situation?
Originally Posted by shellibean
If that were the case (she was checking to see if he was 'taking care' of himself in the shower) and she had shut him off - I would be annoyed by her too.
Originally Posted by xcptnl
Unless...the reason they aren't having sex is because he's a porn-masturbation-addict and doesn't have anything left for the wife and she's trying to get him to stop so they can have a normal sex life again, and he has promised to stop, but suddenly he's "showering" 10 times a day, so she's suspecting he's back to his old tricks, so she's checking on him...

How's that for assumptions?
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
These are some pretty good theories.

Hey, if he's going to pose the question then disappear, we can make whatever assumptions we want.
Originally Posted by PartyHair
Yep. And he did tell us to have this all figured out by the time he checked in again. We're only trying to help him.

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