I didn't ask him to. I did ask him to consider how he would feel if it was expected to suddenly give up his name. The way I look at it his name is his business, and it no way reflects his actual feelings for me. So I don't care if he changes it or not. My name is my business, on the other hand. And I did what I was comfortable doing.Oh, for the record, I hyphenated. I would have preferred to keep my name but my husband tends to be a traditionalist at least on paper (though inside he has the squishy center of a feminist freak), so I compromised.
Did he hyphenate as well or did you think of asking him to? My current bf and I got into an argument, he was a bit offended at first that I wouldn't change my name (if we would get there) and said is sorta traditional on some of these things too but liberal at the same time. I was actually quite offended and upset that he had a problem with it..the last 2 serious guys I've been with didn't even expect a name change(I'm used to more liberal feminist dudes). I wonder if he would change to a hyphenated name though if I did..(not that I will but just wondering since to me that's a real compromise).
Ok thanks, so your name is his business since he placed so some importance on you having his name. I guess you are the more flexible openminded one.