I wouldn't choose a mate specifically because of what our children would look like (or be like), but like a few other people have said, the qualities I find attractive in a man are qualities that I would not mind my children having, either.
That said, I have thought a few times about what my children with my boyfriend would look and be like. It's fun to think about!
I'm tall, blue eyed, natural 20/20 vision, naturally straight teeth, and ivy league educated.
Now if only all that crap gave me some self esteem it would be awesome
You are joking about the self esteem issue, right? I see the little smiley there, but I don't think you'd mention it if it wasn't at least partially true.
You're what they call 'standard american beauty' - why would you have self-esteem issues?
Courtney Love, is that you?
Not really in jest, so much.
In all honesty, I think I'm pretty average looking. I don't think that walking down the street, someone would notice me and think I was either gorgeous or hideous.
I do sound mighty nice on paper though :P
As far as self esteem goes, I was a shy, nerdy, sheltered teenager. This did not combine well with being 6 feet tall with giant frizzy hair. Feeling physically conspicuous like that was miserable for me. The combination of being shy and feeling awkward turned into some nasty social anxiety. Which made it hard for me to find friends or boyfriends. Which in turn led to lower self esteem because I was lonely.
It takes some change of perception to think of myself and think "hey, I have good qualities" instead of thinking "OMG I can't believe I put my foot in my mouth again I'm such a loser". I'm working on it
i wouldnt necessarily say, "take into consideration," but in the past when ive dated someone i cant help but to wonder what our kids would look like. i can think of at least 1 boyfriend who i never wanted to procreate with because our offspring would be super fugly.
but genetics is a crapshoot. i never would have thought my daughter would look the way she does. and i like the excitement of wondering what any future children would look like.
vagabond davotchka- the features you described earlier arent really "par for the course" when it comes to black people. i guess you see what you want to see, but thats really not the case.