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Old 03-12-2009, 01:28 PM   #1
 
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Default Sort of a spin off of the Tallulah Willis thread: Do you take into consideration...

Do you take into consideration what your kids would look like if you plan to get pregnant by someone?

It can be superficial or practical (as in hereditary diseases etc.) consideration.
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Um...I should have take it into consideration more than I did. I love my 2 older sons, but they are very much like their fathers (my ex husbands), personality wise. That's not always a good thing.
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I have found that you can't usually plan or predict these things because genetics is a funny thing.
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I didn't. Luckily, and maybe I'm biased my daughter is very pretty. Even with her father's features.


I was thinking the same thing yesterday. Demi is very pretty and Bruce Willis isn't bad either, but dang they made some fugly ass kids. It's mean and not their fault, poor girls.
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I have found that you can't usually plan or predict these things because genetics is a funny thing.

True. If someone didn't know us, they'd think my daughter belonged to my sister. They have the same exact attitude. NOT GOOD.
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I know someone who will not even date someone seriously if she thinks his immediate family is messed up in some way (like lazy, angry, criminal, do not value education). Her mom has a mental illness, I cannot understand how she can justify people dating her. LOL

I remember reading on this site someone wanted to divorce her husband because he had a 6th finger and she did not want her kids to inherit it.
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I have found that you can't usually plan or predict these things because genetics is a funny thing.
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Nope. Genetics is a crap shoot, your kids could either look exactly like one parent, a mix, or totally not like anyone. I just figure if the guy is good looking we will have pretty babies.....but I've seen pretty people have ugly babies....and vice versa!
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Do you take into consideration what your kids would look like if you plan to get pregnant by someone?

It can be superficial or practical (as in hereditary diseases etc.) consideration.
Not particularly interested in having kids by a white guy because they might look a little to Ďwhite.í
(if you ask me to elaborate or explain, I probably wonít. Feel free to ask but I donít have to give an answer. Itís self explanatory anyway.)

I have a fondness for red hair but I canít imagine having a redheaded child (literally). Will it be redhair with freckles? Red hair with medium brown skin or light brown skin? Will there be red in the skin tone? I do think redhair in general is pretty and unique, and black redheads are very unique. A lot of redhaired black people Ė the hair isnít from anyone in their immediate family; it goes way back. So it can show up anywhere.

Other than that, not really. Iím pretty sure my kids will have head full of hair at birth (and it wonít rub or fall out). They will big/full lips. They will have big round eyes. They will have various colors of brown skin. They will have various type of curly/nappy hair ranging from silky, spongy, woolly, 3c/4a/4b. They may be tall (especially if the father if above 5í10).

I say this because that what my other children look like, thatís what I look like, and thatís pretty much par for the course for most black people.

I do like big men like Heavy D or Sir Mix-a-lot but if youíre whole family (daddy, momma, sis and bros) is big or overweight Ė I might have a problem with that. Are they big because they all eat and donít exercise? Or is predisposition to be big? I am not taken aback that the whole family is big but Iím thinking there might be a lot of hypertension, diabetes, joint problems and the sort. I would definitely wanna know (in particular those diseases and others) what runs in his family.

I donít have a problem with 6 fingered person or 6 fingered kids. We can decide to keep the finger or have it removed.

Iíve never seen webbed toes Iím not sure about that. Doesnít sound appealing and if he got em, I wonder if thatís hereditary.

If a person has albinism, I donít think I would be interested. I do not want a child with albinism. But albinism is a crap shoot and has little to do with immediate genetics. Most people with albinism have parents and grands with color/melanin. Same goes for vitiligo.

And then ofcourse you know I want all the basics Ė healthy kids physically and intellectually, has everything itís suppose to have and everything is where itís suppose to be.

btw - I don't think there is anything wrong with the looks of the Demi/Bruce children. Rumer is actually pretty and Tallulah ain't bad looking. I think she will grow into her looks.
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I have found that you can't usually plan or predict these things because genetics is a funny thing.
This was going to be my response as well.

One thing I do hope my kids get is my husband's height...not ALL of it, but I do hope my son is at least 6 feet.
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I have found that you can't usually plan or predict these things because genetics is a funny thing.
This was going to be my response as well.

One thing I do hope my kids get is my husband's height...not ALL of it, but I do hope my son is at least 6 feet.
Yep and ditto about the height.
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I know I posted about Bruce Willis's all-powerful chin genes...But no, I think it would be silly to choose a mate based on your children's potential appearance. You just can't predict that kind of thing. I've seen very particular ads requesting egg donors, and I always wonder how many of the resulting children are at least 5'5 (if female), with blue eyes, 2100+ SAT scores, and basic musical talent.
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I agree.
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I wouldn't specifically be thinking about future children when I chose a mate, but the qualities I look for in a significant other (intelligent, tall, attractive) are good qualities that I would want for my kids. That's how my husband is, and luckily our boys turned out super cute and tall and brilliant.
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No. Looks don't matter squat. It's more important to find a mate with curly hair.
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I didn't think I specifically looked for good-looking-genes when choosing a mate, but if I think about it, I have to admit that I probably wouldn't have chosen a very short man, because 1) because I'm not attracted to short men and 2) I didn't want really short kids. I'm really short, so a "miniature family" would have been strange.
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What I have seen is that the 1st child usually looks more like the Dad & the 2nd more like the Mom. The 3rd is a crap shoot. I think it also applies to personalities.
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What I have seen is that the 1st child usually looks more like the Dad & the 2nd more like the Mom. The 3rd is a crap shoot. I think it also applies to personalities.

Genetics doesn't work like that. Eggs and sperm has no clue what birth order they are.

People can only get just-so-beautiful, just-so-tall, just-so-strong. You can mate perfect human specimens together for generations and they really won't get more and more and more good looking. There is something called "regression to mean" in genetics...meaning that everything wants to go back to average. I think that has happened in the Willis girls.

http://www.jcu.edu.au/cgc/RegMean.html
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What I have seen is that the 1st child usually looks more like the Dad & the 2nd more like the Mom. The 3rd is a crap shoot. I think it also applies to personalities.

Genetics doesn't work like that. Eggs and sperm has no clue what birth order they are.

People can only get just-so-beautiful, just-so-tall, just-so-strong. You can mate perfect human specimens together for generations and they really won't get more and more and more good looking. There is something called "regression to mean" in genetics...meaning that everything wants to go back to average. I think that has happened in the Willis girls.

http://www.jcu.edu.au/cgc/RegMean.html
This is what I have "personally" seen. I can't explain it. I just know that I look more like my Mom, and I am the 2nd born. My oldest daughter's 1st born is blonde like her but has her Dad's heighth & his face. My youngest's 1st looks just like the Dad & her 2nd looks just like her. I have seen this in my friend's children & grandchildren & also patients who come into my office with their children.
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I didn't really give it a lot of thought when I was dating because I tend to like quirky, nerdy boys (think Zach Braff or Adam Brody)...cute but not conventionally handsome. I ended up marrying a man who is very attractive, though (he's prettier than me...LOL). Our daughter ended up looking more like me, but she does have her daddy's eyes and she'll have his height, too. Lucky girl!
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