How does the baby get in there?

My 6 year old has been asking a lot about babies and how they are born. Finally asked me..."How does the baby get in there?"
I told him when mommy and daddy love each other and get married they can have a baby together.
2nd time ..."but how, how mommy, how does the baby get in there?"
I told him that mommies have an egg inside and daddy has a cell they get together inside the moms body and the baby grows.

So my question is...when is it appropriate to tell them the REAL way the dad's cell gets in there? Is he too young if he asks me again. What would you say?
Personally, I think that six years is old enough to provide a very basic explanation of intercourse and conception. Especially since some kid at school is going to give him a ridiculous explanation.
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My 6 year old has been asking a lot about babies and how they are born. Finally asked me..."How does the baby get in there?"
I told him when mommy and daddy love each other and get married they can have a baby together.
2nd time ..."but how, how mommy, how does the baby get in there?"
I told him that mommies have an egg inside and daddy has a cell they get together inside the moms body and the baby grows.

So my question is...when is it appropriate to tell them the REAL way the dad's cell gets in there? Is he too young if he asks me again. What would you say?
Originally Posted by violets
Men have penises. Penises go into vagina. Sperm comes out of man's penis, go up in mom and meet an egg. Baby grows. If there is no baby, she bleeds and it all comes out.

Simple really.

And 6 is about a good age to start.

Get a book with pictures. Not sex pictures but one of anatomy and physiology. There should be one for her age.

I gotta admit - I'm in my 30's and the whole birds and bees thing still confuses me. Which one is the sperm and which one is the egg, and how do they get in there? And does the stork live at the north pole with Santa Claus? That's why babies are a gifts right?
You know, they do sell books that parents can use to explain sex to young children.
I think what you said was good enough for now. My son is 6 and if I told him that a man has to put his penis into a woman's vagina, that's all he'd be talking about for weeks. But my sons are into bodily function-type humor though. So I guess what I'm saying is that not all 6 year olds are mature enough to handle how babies really get in there.
Try googling "tell children about sex."

You could say something like: When a grown-up man and a grown-up woman are in love, they want to be close to each other. When they're very close, the woman's vagina touches the man's penis. This lets the man's sperm go into her body. If the sperm meet her egg, a baby will grow in her.

It seems that a lot of books about explaining sex to children focus primarily on the man's role, without saying much about eggs or the fact that women also enjoy sex. So you might want to watch out for that, if you decide to go that route.

Last edited by Eilonwy; 03-13-2009 at 01:33 AM.
Maybe get the kid an electric guitar and a wah-wah pedal and let the kid figure it out.

Did Barry White do a children's album?

Ooops, almost forgot All his CD's are "children's albums".

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I'm a firm believer that children should have all their questions answered about sex. If you don't tell him, he'll find another way to find out. It's better if parents tell the truth. The explanations given above seem age-appropriate for a 6 year old.
My 6 year old has been asking a lot about babies and how they are born. Finally asked me..."How does the baby get in there?"
I told him when mommy and daddy love each other and get married they can have a baby together.
2nd time ..."but how, how mommy, how does the baby get in there?"
I told him that mommies have an egg inside and daddy has a cell they get together inside the moms body and the baby grows.

So my question is...when is it appropriate to tell them the REAL way the dad's cell gets in there? Is he too young if he asks me again. What would you say?
Originally Posted by violets
Sounds to me like he is asking for confirmation of something he's already heard from someone else. I would tell him about intercourse, in a brief somewhat clinical way. If he has more questions after that, I'd answer every one of them.

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You've gotten great responses here. I'd also suggest the parenting board here. I peek over there from time to time and those ladies are almost always on point with every answer.
I think six is a good age to explain the basic. My mother had book about animal reproduction. She started with rabits, moved on to cats, then dogs, and then people. I had a very solid basic knowledge of reproduction before my sister came along when I was seven. She never wanted me to learn that stuff anywhere else.
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you are just gonna have to tell him. I tried stopping at the penis goes into the vagina part but my then 6 yo WASNT HAVING IT, lol. So we did the clinical explanation of mommies and daddies falling in love and getting married FIRST and penis goes into vagina, sperm and egg, baby grows in mommy's baby pouch and out comes the baby. That part they knew because we watch The Baby Story on discovery health channel.

No more questions after that.
My 6 year old has been asking a lot about babies and how they are born. Finally asked me..."How does the baby get in there?"
I told him when mommy and daddy love each other and get married they can have a baby together.
2nd time ..."but how, how mommy, how does the baby get in there?"
I told him that mommies have an egg inside and daddy has a cell they get together inside the moms body and the baby grows.

So my question is...when is it appropriate to tell them the REAL way the dad's cell gets in there? Is he too young if he asks me again. What would you say?
Originally Posted by violets
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with how you handled the question. I believe that if kids are asking the question, they are ready to hear the answer. In most cases, I would say a 6 year old wouldn't require a more detailed answer than the one you gave, however, since he is asking for more detail, he needs to have the information. Better coming from you in the correct fashion than from peers, which may or may not be correct and appropriate.

In my case, my daughter was 6 when she asked where babies came from. My answer was generally like your response. When she was 9, then came the questions of exactly how does daddy's sperm get to mommy's egg? That question required a much more anatomically detailed answer.

I believe in a lifelong conversation when it comes to talking about sex with both my kids. I have a couple of books, and I am always available to answer questions and sometimes I initiate the conversations myself when I feel it's warranted. The conversations righ now with my 14 year old daughter are dealing more with boy/girl relationships, expectations of treatment by boys, birth control, sexually transmitted diseases, teenage pregnancy, etc.

I would much rather handle these topics myself rather than leaving it up to their peers and/or the public schools.

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