hipchick

I recently received a rude email from a coworker because he was stressed out and didn't want to do extra work. The work was essential and I might need to go over his head to the boss since he is so uncooperative. I am thinking of ccing the email to the boss when I make my request for the extra work to be done.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? What did you do?

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melloweer

If this is the first time he's done it, I'd let it slide with the knowing he's stressed. If instead this is becoming a habit....I'd copy it to the boss.

Depending of course how rude it was....if it was so rude that your eyeballs bugged out and you wanted to make him back his bus up.....straight to the boss.

I had someone snap at me in front of other's when I was doing the job I was suppose to be doing (this woman's just nutty)....and I went straight to the boss...

So yea...I guess it depends.

hipchick

Basically the coworker is lazy and tries to intimidate me with nasty emails so I don;t ask him to do extra work. In general, he has a bad attitude. I am wondering if forwarding the rude email to the boss will make the situation better or worse when I respond to it and ask the boss to intervene so the coworker does the extra work.

ltribbl2

The only word that bothers me here is EXTRA work, but anyway it is a good idea to keep the email as evidence. this situation is a delicate one because if you do go straight to your boss he may think that YOU are unable to handle things on your own (depending on how your boss feels about this trouble maker) i suggest re-explaing what needs to be done and why it is so important to the individual and if that does not work seek support from your boss. best of luck!

MichelleBFT

I have a coworker who will ask others (people who have seniority over her and are not her subordinates) to do menial little tasks, claiming she is So Busy she couldn't possibly take the time to do it herself. If you ask her to do something that's actually her job, she'll give you 1487256120497 billion reasons why she couldn't possibly take the time to do it, and then give you attitude for even bothering to ask.

As such, everyone who deals with her CCs their emails to her (she's in another branch) also to our mutual supervisor. It's cut way, way down on her being a deadbeat.

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cympreni

The part that bothers me about that is the bolded. It sounds like he has a habit of bullying and it's working for him. That is something that shouldn't be tolerated.

My suggestion would be the same though, unless that has been tried before.

hipchick

Thanks everyone for your feedback. I think I am going to try to work this out with my coworker. It is a shame though that I have to work so closely with a bully. One day I am going to have to put him in his place.