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Old 04-07-2009, 01:24 AM   #1
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do your guess take your shoes off when they enter your house? do you ask?

my family's asian relatives and friends always take off whatever's on their feet when they come in the house. its a custom and instinctive. we dont ask our other guess if they can take off their shoes but most do anyways when they see the 30 pair of shoes/sandals near the front door .
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I have always taken my shoes off when entering someones home, as do all of my friends.

Its just polite, as shoes will potentially track in mud and such.
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We generally remove our shoes in our home, especially the kids. It keeps the floors cleaner longer. My kids also know to take off their shoes when visiting their friends homes, as a courtesy.
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Old 04-07-2009, 05:45 AM   #4
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We've had a thread or two on this topic in the past. It was interesting that it seemed to stir up some strong opinions. In the US it seems to be a regional thing as well as cultural -- in snowy areas and in areas with that mud that stains everything red, people tend to remove their shoes in the house. In other areas they keep their shoes on.
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Old 04-07-2009, 06:17 AM   #5
 
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We take our shoes off in the house. We have a mat in the garage with this line of shoes on it so I think when guests show up - they see them and take their shoes off too. We don't ask but I do like it when they do because I hate sand/crap on my floors. I get enough of that with the dog and his furry feet that are like a swiffer outside and bring everything inside.
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We've had a thread or two on this topic in the past. It was interesting that it seemed to stir up some strong opinions. In the US it seems to be a regional thing as well as cultural -- in snowy areas and in areas with that mud that stains everything red, people tend to remove their shoes in the house. In other areas they keep their shoes on.

That's an interesting point. Here in Virginia, we do have red clay soil. I grew up in Seattle, and we never took off our shoes inside.
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Old 04-07-2009, 06:25 AM   #7
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People rarely take their shoes off here in Colombia (unless requested).

People do ask you to wipe the soles of your shoes on the doormat before entering their house.


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I always take my shoes off when visiting friends/relatives. Personally I think it is impolite not to remove your shoes, JMO.

I prefer people to do the same when they visit me although I would never specifically ask or require an adult do so (kids with dirty shoes are a different subject). It really is a non-issue as 99% of friends/family that visit hubby and I remove their shoes at the door.
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We take off our shoes at home since there is carpeting throughout most of the house, but we never ask guests to do so, though some do.
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No, I would never ask a guest to do that. And I don't do that at anyone else's home either. It's just not the custom here. This area is very east-coast-formal. My kids' piano teacher makes everyone take their shoes off upon entering, but he's a strange dude anyway. I hate being barefoot there...he keeps his house like an icebox, even in summer, and my feet freeze.
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One of my ABA clients is Asian and I take my shoes off there. It's actually kind of annoying because I wear sandals a lot don't like going barefoot in other peoples' homes. I always try to remember to wear shoes with socks the days I work there.
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We don't take our shoes off... though our friend who was born and raised in China always takes her shoes off when she comes over. I always have to bite my tongue when wanting to tell her to leave them on.

I won't walk around my house barefoot.... I just don't like that yucky feeling... plus it's much better for your back to not walk on hard tile barefoot. I always wear at least flip flops or slippers around the house.
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i almost always take them off when i go to someone's house. the only time i don't is if i'm picking them up, and i'm just waiting on the mat in the foyer.

i don't wear shoes around my place either, but at my apartment, no matter how many times i clean it's still gross, so i usually wear house shoes here (my old ballet slippers).
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I live in a cold/snowy area and everyone around here takes their shoes off during the winter - and most wear slippers. It's not even really weird to bring your slippers to friends' homes when you visit. When it's nice out people sometimes leave their shoes on. We'd prefer they take them off, but don't ask unless it's wet/snowy/muddy out (but we've never actually had to ask because everyone offers).

The only time I think it's rude/wrong to expect guests to take their shoes off is for a party. When it's a party, the shoes are part of the outfit and should be kept on unless the guest wants to take them off. We have a Christmas party every year and everyone just wipes their feet really well when they come in.
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I'd much prefer it if my guests took of their shoes, but I wouldn't ask them to (unless they're wet or dirty, in which case I certainly hope they'd take them off without having to be asked!). When I go to someone else's home I follow their lead.
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I take my shoes off the second I walk in the house. I love to be barefoot (or wear my fuzzy slippers in the winter). I take them off at other people's houses too.
I never ask people to remove their shoes, tho most do. I bought carpet the color of dirt so I wouldn't have to worry about it.
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I don't take my shoes off unless told or if it's obvious. I live in so cal. Most people I know don't take shoes off. I take my shoes off at my moms new place but because she has white carpets... She never seemed to care before.

I'll admit that I'm surprised so many people responded that they take their shoes off. Then again, I've never been back east. I've only been to Mexico and my family there wears shoes inside.

I guess I'll consider this point more...
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The only time I think it's rude/wrong to expect guests to take their shoes off is for a party. When it's a party, the shoes are part of the outfit and should be kept on unless the guest wants to take them off. We have a Christmas party every year and everyone just wipes their feet really well when they come in.
I take my cue from my hosts, so if they are without shoes I take them off.

PC - this reminded me of the Sex and the City episode where Carrie's old friend makes her take her shoes off in the apartment for her party. At the end of the night, someone's stolen Carrie's shoes!!!
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Old 04-07-2009, 02:33 PM   #19
 
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I'm Asian so I've only kept my shoes on at the homes of my non-Asian friends.

My SO had to deal with this bit of a learning curve once we started to living together.
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we dont ask our other guess if they can take off their shoes but most do anyways when they see the 30 pair of shoes/sandals near the front door .
Yup. When in Rome..

Now, I take my shoes off the second I get home. NOt b/c of dirt. Just to be comfy

Funny, I would feel kinda rude if I upped a took my shoes off at someones house. Even at a friend's house, if we are kicking back I always ask "Do you mind if I take these off"

If I was coming in out of the rain, or mud or what not, I would say that to the host. Maybe it is regional. I am either in my own house, my car, or my indoor destination. I am only outside long enough to get to one of those places..
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