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Old 04-09-2009, 12:01 PM   #21
 
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somewhat ot, but you can change your settings so you don't see many or any of someone's updates so they don't flood your page.


still though... i don't friend people i don't know.
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Old 04-09-2009, 01:11 PM   #22
 
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I had an old friend who I moved away from, so we were 3000 miles apart. We kept in touch via email and IM, but it fell off for a few years.

When Facebook came to be, I asked him to be my friend. He said, "Send me an email, tell me what you've been up to" like it was a test or something? I never did it. I thought that was dumb. We can catch up on email, we can catch up on FB, what's the diff? And I'm not a friend collector I only have about 50, and it's stayed there for months. And at the time this was going on, I only had about 20 friends.

He was always a little weird like that persnickety so maybe it was for the best.

I do need to actually know or have known someone IRL to be their Facebook friend. I have no problem rekindling old friendships, though. In fact, my "best friend" from school just got back in touch with me via Facebook, I haven't connected with her since we were about 20. So that's cool. She lives in Texas, so we're not going to be hanging out any time soon, but if we can catch up, stay in touch, I think that's a great thing.
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Only if he's a hottie.
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Old 04-09-2009, 01:28 PM   #24
 
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*guano alert*

CocoaCoily got me thinking

Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.

I first noticed him because his comments [that I can see via her posted items] are often funny. And he has his profile open to friends of friends, so I've been able to check him out. He's cute! And actually single.

Hmmmm I've been thinking about sending him a friendly little email. I could ask her to arrange an introduction, but she's the road trip friend [mentioned in an earlier thread] and she and I are keeping a cordial distance right now.
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Will you friend/accept friend requests from strangers on Facebook?
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CocoaCoily got me thinking

Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.

I first noticed him because his comments [that I can see via her posted items] are often funny. And he has his profile open to friends of friends, so I've been able to check him out. He's cute! And actually single.

Hmmmm I've been thinking about sending him a friendly little email. I could ask her to arrange an introduction, but she's the road trip friend [mentioned in an earlier thread] and she and I are keeping a cordial distance right now.
i met a guy that is into fitness via another friend and i sent him a friend request because i was able to see that he'd just completed that marathon and he had a nonprofit to bring fitness to children and he was single. he accepted my friend request and we talked in real life and have a few times. it didn't lead to a love connection but hey, he's a friend now, go figure

i say do it...

i did read an article that one of the ways to protect yourself on fb was to not list your status. maybe this is tricky if you're married but i took single off mine and i would never put "in a relationship" and link in someone elses profile....but anyway...just a thought to consider too....some guys may be more likely to try to friend you if they see you are single...that can be good or bad.
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Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.

I have a friend getting married to someone in May that he met on facebook. They met because they were both a fan of some author or something. Anyway they've dated for about 5 years and will be getting married in May.

Good Luck and be careful!!!
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Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.

I have a friend getting married to someone in May that he met on facebook. They met because they were both a fan of some author or something. Anyway they've dated for about 5 years and will be getting married in May.

Good Luck and be careful!!!
great story! i saw a story of a couple that met on myspace (they had no common friends). i believe it can happen and i'm a big believer in just meeting people for friendship, even if that guy isn't "the one" he may have some cool friends and your "one" might be in that group...
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Haha, I think I just might do this!
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Old 04-09-2009, 08:03 PM   #30
 
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Heavens no. I have enough trouble with the people I know. There are several that I would now like to defriend, but I don't want to hurt their feelings. One is a fringe relative who is, as it turns out, kind of creepy! Ew.
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No. I befriended someone from here once, but I freaked myself out that there was a "stranger" on my friend's list, so I explained, apologized & deleted.
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Old 04-09-2009, 08:37 PM   #32
 
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I do but only because I'm on the executive board of a student group and sometimes I can't remember if I met them or not so I accept the request. I look at their pics and if they don't look familiar then I de-friend them.
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un-friending is cathartic!
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Old 04-09-2009, 11:40 PM   #34
 
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No I don't. I do have some friends that I made through another message board and will probably never meet IRL due to distance.

Do people know if you defriend them? I have a few from HS that I just don't care to have as friends, but didn't want to hurt feelings!
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Old 04-10-2009, 12:36 AM   #35
 
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Nope. It's hard enough for me to keep up with the people I know. I can't imagine trying to keep up with the ones I don't. I usually just ignore their requests.
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No way!

My friend is so stupid and naive on fb. She be-friends any old stranger who asks her. One guy asked her and he obviously caught her attention, they began dating straight away (when I say date I mean sleeping together, although I think it was serious for her) and turns out he's married. Didn't stop him contacting her for months on end after it ended though. Oh and did I mention she's only 19? Then she met the next guy as a stranger on fb! They've been dating for over year now (although I dont like him but its her life). Things like that are just waaayyy to dangerous. I get suspicious of random strangers asking to 'be my friend'. Um no, go out and meet people.

I dont get the whole 'must have 200+ "friends" on fb to look cool' thing either. I have 43 close friends and thats it.
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No I don't. I do have some friends that I made through another message board and will probably never meet IRL due to distance.

Do people know if you defriend them? I have a few from HS that I just don't care to have as friends, but didn't want to hurt feelings!
people won't get a message that you un-friended them but if/when they try to look at your page they will see they no longer have access (assuming you have your page set to friends only)....just go to your friend list and click that "x" and confirm...un-friended!

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No way!

My friend is so stupid and naive on fb. She be-friends any old stranger who asks her. One guy asked her and he obviously caught her attention, they began dating straight away (when I say date I mean sleeping together, although I think it was serious for her) and turns out he's married. Didn't stop him contacting her for months on end after it ended though. Oh and did I mention she's only 19? Then she met the next guy as a stranger on fb! They've been dating for over year now (although I dont like him but its her life). Things like that are just waaayyy to dangerous. I get suspicious of random strangers asking to 'be my friend'. Um no, go out and meet people.

I dont get the whole 'must have 200+ "friends" on fb to look cool' thing either. I have 43 close friends and thats it.
wow when i first read that i thought, wow...calling your friend stupid is harsh but it certainly doesn't sound smart....

i think like ANYTHING fb can be used for good or evil...that goes for the internet in general, cell phones, anything.

i do think some people "collect" friends as stated earlier. i never intended or thought i'd get to the 200 mark but i live in a big city, went to big college not far from here, teach at the gym, work in a big company, etc so in some cases it's easy to "know" lots of folks and the numbers can creep up...just a thought.
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I'm glad you posted this. How do you block someone without un-friending them? I have someone who is part of a professional group I belong to, but he constantly posts stupid crap, and I can't see anything about anyone I'm actually interested in. I glanced over "settings" this morning, but I didn't see how to block feeds or updates.

Never random strangers, but I do have some "friends" whom I have never met through the professional group I belong to.
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i'm a big believer in just meeting people for friendship, even if that guy isn't "the one" he may have some cool friends and your "one" might be in that group...
I think you have the right idea. Having more friends in your life is never a bad thing and if it leads to meeting someone you connect with, even better!
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It depends on who we have in common. If I'm close to a person and one of their friends sends me a request, I'll accept or not depending on how closely they know the person. But I never just accept strangers... There has to be some connection.
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