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Old 04-09-2009, 08:52 AM   #1
 
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Default Do You Friend/Accept Friend Requests From Strangers On Facebook?

I have not, but the other day a friend of a friend sent me a private message about quad skating (he'd seen my post on his friend's page) and after a brief correspondence he friended me and I accepted.

Ugh, what a mistake. He's SUCH a prolific poster that he fills up the feed page and I miss what the people I ACTUALLY care about are doing. Whenever he'd see me online he'd try to chat with me. And yesterday on his feed he posted a porno video.

So I de-friended him and I've learned my lesson.

Will you friend/accept friend requests from strangers on Facebook?
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:00 AM   #2
 
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No, I won't. There's a few people I know that I won't accept...I don't feel comfortable accepting someone I don't know. Why would someone want me as a Facebook friend if they don't know me? I would question that.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:01 AM   #3
 
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No, I won't. There's a few people I know that I won't accept...I don't feel comfortable accepting someone I don't know. Why would someone want me as a Facebook friend if they don't know me? I would question that.
I think some people are "friend collectors." Like the more friends they have the more important they feel, which is why they friend everyone they know.
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I don't. I also delete people when I notice that my number of friends is getting too high (strange, I know ). It's only the people I don't really talk to though.

You can choose to "hide" updates from people you don't care about, just click the upper right side of the update on your home page.
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Nope. I've gotten requests with "I'm a friend of so-and-so" messages attached. I'm like yeah and so what? I ignore them. Hell, there are even folks from hs which have sent request and I've ignored. If in 4 years of school we never even said hello, I'm not really interested in a friendship 20 years later. Yes, I can be bi+chy sometimes.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:07 AM   #6
 
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Nope.. I have "friended" a couple of people who I couldn't figure out who they were but they were friends with a lot of my older hs and elementary school friends. They both ended up being people that I went to school with but wasn't necessarily friends with. I "defriended" both
I only want people on my friend list that I was really close with and haven't seen in ages, family, or friends I see in life outside of facebook.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:08 AM   #7
 
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Nope. If you don't know me in person, I won't accept your friend request.
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Nope. I had one person send me a friend request because he wanted to discuss the subject of one of my fan pages. I sent him back a message that said I'd be willing to answer questions on the subject (the first message made it sound like he was doing research of some kind). He never replied back, big shock. So I just declined the request.

I've got plenty of friends whose status updates and things don't run on my main page, because they're people I knew a bazillion years ago and I don't really care. No sense in unfriending them, but I don't need to know about their hourly status updates. So they're hidden, but I can seek them out if I want.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:29 AM   #9
 
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No. I need to do some spring cleaning with my friends though..a lot of people from hs have added me and some of them I don't remember or barely talked to.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:33 AM   #10
 
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Only one. I checked his friends and saw we knew a lot of the same people, so I thought he was an online friend. It turns out we only know one person in common. He's still a friend, though, because he seems nice and doesn't misbehave.
I'm on TBD and get some friend requests from guys. I check out their page first to make sure they're not creepy. I want to see who they're friends with and what groups they belong to before I outright refuse.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:34 AM   #11
 
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depends on who our common friend is and if we have something in common. i don't like having people on my page that i don't talk to at all or that aren't real friends if we don't have things in common. like the twitter convo, some people use fb to market their business or they go through your friend list and add friends. i've had that happen. one guy just added me then wrote about his business on my wall..wtf!! no sir, delete comment, delete friend. i wish i could figure out how to hide my friend list. i have made friends with a couple of people that were friends of friends but we had something in common, fitness and we talk and correspond now.

i agree with the comment about "friend collectors"...i had a threshold of 200 and i'm over that. time to clean house. i had an interesting story, a lady that i used to work with added me as a friend when i was new to fb. then over time i noticed some really weird behaviors by her and when i'd see her in the building she would not speak to me...i noticed it several times, she'd walk by my office with her head down so she wouldn't have to speak to me....so after that and something she had on her page that i felt was racist i un-friended her..i felt better although i felt a twinge of guilt over un-friending her.
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I check friends first. If I have no idea then I deny the request.
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No, I won't. There's a few people I know that I won't accept...I don't feel comfortable accepting someone I don't know. Why would someone want me as a Facebook friend if they don't know me? I would question that.
I think some people are "friend collectors." Like the more friends they have the more important they feel, which is why they friend everyone they know.
I agree--but I call them hoarders. If I don't know you from any time or place (including message boards) in my life, then I ignore the request. I realize some people use facebook for networking, but I would likely set up a new, "serious" profile for that purpose.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:58 AM   #14
 
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No. If I don't know you in real life I will not be your fb friend.
I have quite a few people from HS as facebook friends that I was not close to in HS, but have had some nice facebook bonding with. That I don't mind.
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Old 04-09-2009, 09:59 AM   #15
 
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No. But I do have a few people who are a friend of a friend. But if they were annoying, I would delete them.
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Nope. I've gotten requests with "I'm a friend of so-and-so" messages attached. I'm like yeah and so what?
I got one from "This is A___, wife of B____, (your husband's) classmate."

My husband, B and I all went to the same college. I was a year behind B and my husband. I knew both of them. I sent her a message saying "Hi, were you at the reunion, have we met?" No response. I mean if you're going to be bold enough to send a request, at least stand by it. I gave it a few days and ignored her request. Not long after that, B sends me a request to define our relationship by saying I knew him through my husband (not true)

I have never written on this guy's wall and vice versa. I think his wife was being insecure. The whole thing makes me laugh. My husband has plenty of female FB friends I don't know, but I don't go sending them requests saying "Hi, this is G___, wife of A____"
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Old 04-09-2009, 10:04 AM   #17
 
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I don't think so. There are a couple friends of friends, I've thought about contacting. They are people I've met, liked, and wanted to know better. I wasn't sure about the etiquette though.

I sometimes feel a little unpopular because of my paltry number of friends, but then I see DH's page (he has business contacts and accepts all friend requests), and I would be annoyed with the people who post the inane details of their day.
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No. If I don't know you in real life I will not be your fb friend.
I have quite a few people from HS as facebook friends that I was not close to in HS, but have had some nice facebook bonding with. That I don't mind.
This. I get random FB requests from time to time and I just ignore them.
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Old 04-09-2009, 11:45 AM   #19
 
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I did once, by accident. We knew one person in common, but he really wasn't someone I needed to friend.
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Old 04-09-2009, 11:49 AM   #20
 
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Strangers? No. But they need to be at least aqauintances for me to friend them.
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