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Old 04-13-2009, 12:03 PM   #21
 
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I’ve been to Chicago, Toronto, and Quebec City alone. I know someone who went to Paris alone when she was 24.

You may never see the places you want to see if you wait for friends or family to have the time or money to travel with you.

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Old 04-13-2009, 12:08 PM   #22
 
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If this is true, then it's probably "unsafe" for a woman to live alone as well, something I've been doing for the last 7 or so years.

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I traveled to Europe alone while still in my teens, and then again in my mid-20s. I never felt unsafe. People often went out of their way to be kind and helpful, and I learned so much about independence, not to mention the rest of the (European) world.

However, whichever poster above (I think it was rainshower) recommended that you leave an agenda with someone, or have company at night or when venturing into out of the way places, gave good advice. You should feel free to travel alone, but do it with intelligence and a modicum of caution.

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Old 04-13-2009, 02:42 PM   #24
 
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I lived alone for 7 years too...never was a problem for me. I think as long as you use a little bit of common sense, you will be just as safe as being at home. There's no 100 percent guarantees, whether you're at home, at work, on vacation, or wherever. But you can decrease the chances of something horrible happen by taking a few precautions.
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Old 04-13-2009, 06:29 PM   #25
 
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I have traveled all over the world, never had a problem. I have been taught to always be aware of my surroundings (not just when traveling) and I have also been through military police training which taught many self defense skills. I know I am not immune to horrible things, but feel I am a bit more prepared than I was previous to all of the things I have learned.
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Old 04-13-2009, 06:31 PM   #26
 
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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
Its only unsafe if you go into the trip ignorant about the environment around you. She is going to be nervous either way because she is your mother, thats never going to change. As long as you have researched the area thorougly, know the emergency numbers, know not to wander alone at night or super early in the morning, know where all of the hostels/shelters are just in case you ever get lost than you should be fine.
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Old 04-13-2009, 06:51 PM   #27
 
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Why draw the line at just trips? If a weekned trip an hour away is not safe, then so is driving 45 minutes to the mall or Costco. It takes me over an hour to get to work every day. I think I will tell my boss that I habve to work from home full-time because coming to work is too dangerous.
And of course, driving to any of these places is probably the most dangerous part of your day. EVERY day.

Sure women face real dangers, but life is full of danger; are we going to stop living?
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Old 04-13-2009, 07:11 PM   #28
 
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Has your mom not seen Forensic Files? Probably better if she hasn't...

My point...most of the murders that take place on FF are by people the victim knew. A lot of the victims are attacked at home (some living w/other people), on the way home or leaving home.

So as others have stated, as long as you have common sense, traveling alone should be fine.
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I feel the same way everybody here feels. I wish she would as well. I travel to work alone on the train, I go into the city alone to do shopping. I don't know why to her that's not the same thing. I should be use to her way of thinking/feeling by now. In High School it wasn't til Junior year if I'm not mistaken that I actually got to go home on the train by myself. I would get picked up by my father everyday and no not in the car, since I went to school in one of the busiest locations of NYC he would come on the train and stand in front of my school waiting for me for us to take the train back home. Humiliation at its finest.

I have a feeling that she feels the same way about me living alone. A lot of times when I mention moving out she says that you need two incomes to survive. (Umm so nobody in this world lives alone?? Yeah ok, whatever you say.) And she says, really you want to move out? Why do you want to move out so much? I'm 26 and not getting any younger. Sometimes I think I probably wanted to move out the day I was born.

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Old 04-13-2009, 08:50 PM   #30
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one thing about women who ive known that travels alone often. they are well prepared, have good common sense and high maturity level. no this doesnt mean if you're not any of these you shouldnt travel alone. is is what ive noticed throughout my travels.

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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
It's all her...trust me! My mother is the same way - paranoid about anything I do ALONE! WHen I moved out on my own, she about near died of an anxiety attack thinking all the bad things in life would happen to ME....when I travel alone for an HOUR back and forth to the city, she swears up and down I am putting myself in danger...I recently have traveled cross country alone and THAT set her off in a tizzy also.

I've given up listening to her rants. Yes, I know she means well and cares, but I am an adult and I do not allow things to SCARE me out of life - as mom does. She is one of those women that cant drive 30 mins away from home on her own for fear of getting lost! So as foryour mom, again, it's HER issue and you know she is overreacting.
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I travel alone all the time too. I think you need to be careful and have a communication plan but otherwise, it's not so different from living alone.
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I agree. I've traveled alone quite a bit, it's not a big deal as long as you have a safety plan and have done your research about what the area is like.

I've also lived alone for the past 13 years, and again, as long as you're careful and take your precautions, it's not a problem.
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Old 04-14-2009, 02:23 PM   #33
 
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It depends where you go. I would be nervous to go to certain places in South America alone. They have a whole industry practically of women stolen and forced to live like prostitutes.
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