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Old 04-12-2009, 08:48 PM   #1
 
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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?
I hope she's not right. I go places all alone all the time.
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Old 04-12-2009, 09:00 PM   #3
 
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I lived in Guatemala for 2 months by myself. I always felt safe.
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I travel alone all the time. Internationally, locally, and within the US. I've never felt especially unsafe just because I was a woman.
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I do all the time. I've never felt unsafe.
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I've traveled alone too. The thing about it is, I'm fully aware of the dangers I face in most situations because that's just reality, it's the world we live in. I'm cautious when I'm alone at ANY time, not just when I'm traveling. However, the possibility of danger doesn't stop me from living my life. If I let it, I wouldn't go anywhere or do anything.
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I travel alone all the time too. I think you need to be careful and have a communication plan but otherwise, it's not so different from living alone.
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Thank you guys, I knew the answer to my question before asking it but I guess I just needed that reaffirmation. lol.
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I would travel alone, but I believe it is very important to do your research on the area you are traveling to...thoroughly

I don't like traveling (when I'm out of town) alone at night, but that's just me....
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OK...I'll be the lone ranger here. I won't say it's unsafe, but it might be imprudent. The world is getting crazier all the time.
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I travel alone for business all the time, and I don't see any difference between doing that and traveling for pleasure. Maybe I should tell work that I can't travel alone because I'm a woman.
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Ha. There is a business trip that I'm leaving for today and I reeeeally do not want to go. I would love to use the woman excuse.
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I travel alone all the time too. I think you need to be careful and have a communication plan but otherwise, it's not so different from living alone.
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Ha. There is a business trip that I'm leaving for today and I reeeeally do not want to go. I would love to use the woman excuse.
Ha, give it a shot! Let me know how it goes, I'm sure you won't lose any credibility...
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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
Why draw the line at just trips? If a weekned trip an hour away is not safe, then so is driving 45 minutes to the mall or Costco. It takes me over an hour to get to work every day. I think I will tell my boss that I habve to work from home full-time because coming to work is too dangerous.
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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
Why draw the line at just trips? If a weekned trip an hour away is not safe, then so is driving 45 minutes to the mall or Costco. It takes me over an hour to get to work every day. I think I will tell my boss that I habve to work from home full-time because coming to work is too dangerous.
LOL, seriously.
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i think that your mother is probably watching the news and is letting all of the missing people reports cause her to worry for you. i think anyone can be victimized at any time, whether traveling alone or in a group, close to their home or across the globe.

i think if you travel alone, especially if you are going to a place with which you are not familiar, you should exercise common sense and caution at all times: not hiking alone or venturing off the scheduled itinerary that the tour group may be on, not traveling at night alone when you don't know the local crime stats, not donning yourself in your costly bling, not forming inappropriate intimate relationships with locals and going off with them, not drinking to excess at clubs or bars or doing drugs so that you can be taken advantage of. if you must see sights that aren't on the agenda, see if a couple of other tourists would mind going with you, and leave information with your tour guide/hotel manager/family at home, etc., about where you will be going, who you are with, their descriptions, and so on. it sounds excessive, but in these days when people seem to be more aggressive and confident about kidnapping and victimizing travelers, if you don't take the care to protect yourself, who will?
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I lived in Guatemala for 2 months by myself. I always felt safe.
me too! in antigua. never had a problem.

i've traveled by myself all around the world. never encountered anything that i couldn't handle. did i get hit on and hassled? sure. but you can encounter that right at home.
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I've traveled by myself domestically and internationally - always felt safe. Never worried too much about being alone.
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My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
Its only unsafe if you go into the trip ignorant about the environment around you. She is going to be nervous either way because she is your mother, thats never going to change. As long as you have researched the area thorougly, know the emergency numbers, know not to wander alone at night or super early in the morning, know where all of the hostels/shelters are just in case you ever get lost than you should be fine.

Travelling is something I've always wanted to do, with or without a companion. I've been to Europe 3 times buts its always been week long trips that were planned ahead. I want to go without an itinerary and just explore on my own and do things in my own time and not be herded around by tour guides like cattle.
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