I may be a really cruel person but I don't find this very sad... I mean... it is sad in a way, to a point, but maybe God had tried to give her the 3 children she was meant to have and she thought she knew better? I don't mean that rudely....one of my aunts has had 3 or 4 abortions. I think she used abortion as contraception in her 20s. When she got married at 30 she tried and tried to conceive and couldn't. V sad. I remember her saying, "I don't understand it. I was aborting and aborting in college, so clearly I can get pregnant."
I mean... I dunno -- my brother and sister in law tried for six years to conceive. It's heartbreaking to see others have no trouble and then just, essentially, "kill" it... And I do believe in God, and I'm not trying to push my beliefs onto anyone else, but I think if you get pregnant, you were meant to, especially if you're using birth control and still get pregnant. I could never "play God" like that, to decide when it was best for me to have a child.
My cousin got pregnant while she was in college, no job, lived with her mom who was fresh out of a job, her boyfriend and her were fighting really bad and about to break up (again!), she wasn't totally sure who the baby belonged to because she thought at first she got pregnant while they were broken up but turned out she was not as far along as she was afraid she was... She was a financial, emotional wreck and had just turned 20 the month before she found out. I heard several comments that she should probably have an abortion, and they made sense considering her situation. Luckily she didn't, because now, that child is 2 years old and touches everyone she meets.. I love her more than anything in the world! She's the smartest, sweetest, cutest little girl, and her, mom and dad now live in a nice house. They have good jobs, they got married, and all is well. Just because a situation seems bad doesn't mean it won't be fixed. So I guess I agree with those (spider?) about praying, trying to be a better person and usually it DOES work out. And for those who don't have a God to believe in, I dunno for them. That's just my way of looking at it too.
JMO though. I just can't imagine my life without that little darling now! It's awful to think she could have been just another abortion....