View Poll Results: Do you have a booty call person?
yes 15 31.91%
no 32 68.09%
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Do you have a booty call person?

only when my bf pisses me off.
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Can you believe I am trying to get one and not having any luck?

Technically I could have easily had a booty call dude by now but I am stuck on trying to nail this one guy. Why bother if it's not going to be someone I'm really turned on by, right?
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i always have spare booty on hand. and when i dont im a very cranky girl.
Hell no!
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Agreed. I don't think people should have to learn to separate the two. Ideally, they should be part and parcel of the same experience. For many people, they are. And I think that's best.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
I donít believe people should HAVE to per se. Iím just saying if you find yourself in a situation where you are attracted to someone and you end up being intimate with them, just donít go off thinking that they necessarily feel the way you do or want a long term commitment. It happens to a lot of people, so I really donít think Iím saying anything strange here.

Ideally, they should be part and parcel of the same experience.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
But it isnt always ideal and every one's concept of whats perfect is different. A brief fling might very well be ideal for alot of people, and not for others.
This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
Originally Posted by NetG
Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
Originally Posted by curlylaura
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
If you (general you) can do that, then cool. I can't and I'm cool with that. I'd rather wait for the love before I jump into bed with someone. That's what's best for me.
Originally Posted by curlylaura
Curly, if you notice, I said 'general you'. I wasnít trying to convince you that you should ďjump into bedĒ with anyone. And being intimate with someone doesnít always mean you are ďjumping into bedĒ with them. In my case, I didnít ďjump into bedĒ with the person. We had a friendship for well over a year before anything happened.
I also think that every woman is different. Some women can have casual sex and love it, others can't. Some women need to feel emotionally connected to a man in order to go to bed with him. Some women can separate sex from love. Everybody is different.
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Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
Why?

.
Originally Posted by NetG
I am not sure if I understand this question?
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
My point was basically, why do you have to learn to separate the two to be better off emotionally?

I think it's all about accepting your own personal makeup, and if you can't separate the two, accept that and don't behave as if you can. But if you can....have fun!
Originally Posted by NetG
Net, I think you misunderstood me. I wasnít saying that women should separate their feelings from sex as a general rule. What I mean was (I think I have said it in maybe two other posts)Öif you decide to be intimate with someone, donít always assume that it will turn into anything serious, or this will end up being a happily ever after situation. I see a number of women being hurt this way, because they misread the situation.

I think it's all about accepting your own personal makeup, and if you can't separate the two, accept that and don't behave as if you can. But if you can....have fun!
Originally Posted by NetG
I dont think we are disagreeing at all on that Net. This is what I am saying too. Maybe I just didnt word it properly before.
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
ITA.

For me they are the same thing, so I don't have sex with people I don't care about. I have (once) and I didn't enjoy it. I'm okay with that.
Originally Posted by Po
I agree with Pixie curl, -----Po, just to clarify, to not be in love with someone does not necessarily mean that you donít care about them at all. I'm sure we all know there are varying degrees of emotional attachment.
As for my situation, we were friends as I said, and we do care about each other. I would never be with someone I felt absolutely nothing for. Thats cold.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
I know. That's why I said that your situation is one that I've been in and could continue to be in. Read, woman, READ!!!
3c/4a
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
ITA.

For me they are the same thing, so I don't have sex with people I don't care about. I have (once) and I didn't enjoy it. I'm okay with that.
Originally Posted by Po
I agree with Pixie curl, -----Po, just to clarify, to not be in love with someone does not necessarily mean that you donít care about them at all. I'm sure we all know there are varying degrees of emotional attachment.
As for my situation, we were friends as I said, and we do care about each other. I would never be with someone I felt absolutely nothing for. Thats cold.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
I know. That's why I said that your situation is one that I've been in and could continue to be in. Read, woman, READ!!!
Originally Posted by Po
Chile, forgive me...my sinuses are giving me hell and I cant even see straight right now!!!!!!

Oh, and sorry about the double posts guys.
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
ITA.

For me they are the same thing, so I don't have sex with people I don't care about. I have (once) and I didn't enjoy it. I'm okay with that.
Originally Posted by Po
I agree with Pixie curl, -----Po, just to clarify, to not be in love with someone does not necessarily mean that you donít care about them at all. I'm sure we all know there are varying degrees of emotional attachment.
As for my situation, we were friends as I said, and we do care about each other. I would never be with someone I felt absolutely nothing for. Thats cold.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
I know. That's why I said that your situation is one that I've been in and could continue to be in. Read, woman, READ!!!
Originally Posted by Po
Chile, forgive me...my sinuses are giving me hell and I cant even see straight right now!!!!!!

Oh, and sorry about the double posts guys.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
I hope you feel better! Sinus troubles make you want to cut off your own head. I have a bad head cold and I haven't been able to taste or smell for 5 days.
3c/4a
Here is what I got from Sakkeh:

Don't assume someone loves you just because they are having sex with you.

I agree. Love and sex are two different things. Some people can separate them, some can't. If it's love you are after, then make sure you have love before you have sex.

I am married now, but I have had a booty call person, or rahter friends with benefits. I could not just go and get it on with someone I have no feelings for, but I've had friends with whom there was mutual attraction and also a mutual lack of desire for a romantic relationship. It was fun fun fun.
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I pray none of you ever has to live in a communist state.

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Here is what I got from Sakkeh:

Don't assume someone loves you just because they are having sex with you.

I agree. Love and sex are two different things. Some people can separate them, some can't. If it's love you are after, then make sure you have love before you have sex.
Originally Posted by geeky
ITA-both with what I think Sakkeh was saying after more posts from her, and in my agreement with that!
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I hope you feel better! Sinus troubles make you want to cut off your own head.
Originally Posted by Po
Thatís EXACTLY how I feel right now. I wanna bang my head up against a wall or something, seriously!!!
I hope you feel better! Sinus troubles make you want to cut off your own head.
Originally Posted by Po
Thatís EXACTLY how I feel right now. I wanna bang my head up against a wall or something, seriously!!!
Kind of. I have this one guy who I'm good friends with - I don't actually call him up when I'm bored/feeling frisky/etc., but we have the same group of friends and therefore go to a lot of the same parties, and we usually end up spending the night together. We've had discussions about it and figured out that we're both attracted to each other, but we don't want a relationship, and we also both have the same viewpoints on sex. So it works out well.

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