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Old 06-26-2006, 08:32 AM   #1
 
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Another one of those questions that I can't ask IRL and I'm curious about! And why would you prefer that to just dating the person.
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I haven't but there were a couple of friends whose personality would have been very good for this.

I don't know if I could be disconnected enough to do this. If I weren't married that is.
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Old 06-26-2006, 08:47 AM   #3
 
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I did once and it worked great for both of us, because we really didnt want each other as serious partners. The sex was great and we understood that this was what the "friendship" was about, no strings, no misunderstandings, no hurt feelings, jealousy. It ended well and we have remained friends minus the sex.

I wouldnt reccommend this type of situation for anyone who is overemotional, clingy, or reads too much into everything.
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I did before I met my husband. I didn't want a boyfriend at all, but all the potential sex partners that I could come up with wanted to date me seriously. I didn't want to hurt any of them. So, I found a guy that didn't want to be tied down to a girlfriend, either.
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Yes I do.
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Old 06-26-2006, 11:19 AM   #8
 
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This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
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No --- but I wish I did!
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No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
Same with me here.
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Old 06-26-2006, 12:12 PM   #11
 
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I do have a booty call person, and I am usually one of those people who doesn't work that way emotionally. But, it's worked out for more than a year so far, with both of us dating other people in between and no hard feelings.

ETA: I am not interested in dating him because he is a well-known ladies man. I couldn't trust him as far as I could throw him! But he is quite charming and personable so we have fun.
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Old 06-26-2006, 12:45 PM   #12
 
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No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
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Old 06-26-2006, 12:49 PM   #13
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I couldn't have a booty call person. I could have sex with a friend and not want to get serious, but I don't think I could do the total booty call. I cannot enjoy myself unless I like/love the person. It doesn't have to be romantic, but there has to be some type of emotion.

Sakkeh's situation sounds like something I could do.
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This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
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This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Why?

I am aware that for many people the two are separate. For me, they're not.

Better I accept that and not try to lie to myself. I'm QUITE happy knowing I just don't work that way, and therefore being honest with myself and not getting into a situation where I'd get hurt. I would like to have the two separate for me, but they AREN'T. Never will be.
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Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
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Old 06-26-2006, 01:35 PM   #17
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Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
ITA.

For me they are the same thing, so I don't have sex with people I don't care about. I have (once) and I didn't enjoy it. I'm okay with that.
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Po and Pixie put it better than I did.

Thanks, ladies!


(So w/ what Sakkeh said-basically, just admitting that they aren't separate for me, then doing what they say is how to avoid unnecessary pain.)
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Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
Agreed. I don't think people should have to learn to separate the two. Ideally, they should be part and parcel of the same experience. For many people, they are. And I think that's best.
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This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring arenít the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
If you (general you) can do that, then cool. I can't and I'm cool with that. I'd rather wait for the love before I jump into bed with someone. That's what's best for me.
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