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View Poll Results: Do you have a booty call person?
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06-26-2006, 08:32 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2005
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Do you have a booty call person?
Another one of those questions that I can't ask IRL and I'm curious about! And why would you prefer that to just dating the person.
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06-26-2006, 08:35 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2003
Posts: 7,171
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I haven't but there were a couple of friends whose personality would have been very good for this.
I don't know if I could be disconnected enough to do this. If I weren't married that is.
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06-26-2006, 08:47 AM
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Join Date: Nov 2003
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I did once and it worked great for both of us, because we really didnt want each other as serious partners. The sex was great and we understood that this was what the "friendship" was about, no strings, no misunderstandings, no hurt feelings, jealousy. It ended well and we have remained friends minus the sex.
I wouldnt reccommend this type of situation for anyone who is overemotional, clingy, or reads too much into everything.
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06-26-2006, 10:36 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Posts: 4,150
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I did before I met my husband. I didn't want a boyfriend at all, but all the potential sex partners that I could come up with wanted to date me seriously. I didn't want to hurt any of them. So, I found a guy that didn't want to be tied down to a girlfriend, either.
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06-26-2006, 11:11 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2002
Posts: 9,368
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Yes I do. 
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06-26-2006, 11:12 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2001
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06-26-2006, 11:13 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2002
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06-26-2006, 11:19 AM
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Join Date: Jul 2003
Posts: 20,105
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This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!
No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
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06-26-2006, 11:22 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Posts: 632
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No --- but I wish I did! 
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06-26-2006, 12:05 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Posts: 770
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06-26-2006, 12:12 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2003
Posts: 1,188
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I do have a booty call person, and I am usually one of those people who doesn't work that way emotionally. But, it's worked out for more than a year so far, with both of us dating other people in between and no hard feelings.
ETA: I am not interested in dating him because he is a well-known ladies man. I couldn't trust him as far as I could throw him! But he is quite charming and personable so we have fun.
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06-26-2006, 12:45 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2003
Posts: 6,403
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Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
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06-26-2006, 12:49 PM
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Join Date: Jun 1999
Posts: 5,289
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I couldn't have a booty call person. I could have sex with a friend and not want to get serious, but I don't think I could do the total booty call. I cannot enjoy myself unless I like/love the person. It doesn't have to be romantic, but there has to be some type of emotion.
Sakkeh's situation sounds like something I could do.
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06-26-2006, 01:22 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 2,981
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Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
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06-26-2006, 01:32 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2003
Posts: 20,105
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Why?
I am aware that for many people the two are separate. For me, they're not.
Better I accept that and not try to lie to myself. I'm QUITE happy knowing I just don't work that way, and therefore being honest with myself and not getting into a situation where I'd get hurt. I would like to have the two separate for me, but they AREN'T. Never will be.
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The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
-Speckla
But at least the pews never attend yoga!
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06-26-2006, 01:32 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Posts: 9,949
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Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
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06-26-2006, 01:35 PM
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Join Date: Jun 1999
Posts: 5,289
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ITA.
For me they are the same thing, so I don't have sex with people I don't care about. I have (once) and I didn't enjoy it. I'm okay with that.
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06-26-2006, 01:37 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2003
Posts: 20,105
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Po and Pixie put it better than I did.
Thanks, ladies!
(So w/ what Sakkeh said-basically, just admitting that they aren't separate for me, then doing what they say is how to avoid unnecessary pain.)
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The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
-Speckla
But at least the pews never attend yoga!
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06-26-2006, 01:40 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2005
Posts: 17,605
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Agreed. I don't think people should have to learn to separate the two. Ideally, they should be part and parcel of the same experience. For many people, they are. And I think that's best.
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06-26-2006, 01:49 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2003
Posts: 6,403
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If you (general you) can do that, then cool. I can't and I'm cool with that. I'd rather wait for the love before I jump into bed with someone. That's what's best for me.
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