Is there an unspoken upper age limit... - Page 4

Lotsawaves · 09-18-2009, 02:15 PM

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If I saw someone over 45 at a club I'd probably laugh my a$$ off. Honestly, I would. There's nothing quite as tacky as a 50-something granny and her cackling old girlfriends trying to get it on with the 20-something men. I laugh equally hard when the old pervy bachelors (40+) go trolling clubs trying to look "cool" for the college girls. Ahahaha! I love it: "Can I buy you a drink, beautiful?" Hahaha, thanks grandpa...but NO.

Women in the 35-45 range I'd raise an eyebrow at or roll my eyes. I might think "go somewhere else" if they're being overly obnoxious as a group.

Ah, don't be too hard on TK everyone...she's only 20, and I did encourage brutal honesty and unpopular opinion. I felt the same way when I was your age, but, yes, now that I am twice your age, amazingly, I have found that I still feel like that 20 yr old on the inside, so I suspect your perspective may also be a little different when you are in your 40s.

Thank you, GP. Those getting upset took my post personally when really, they shouldn't have. I'm a "snot" apparently for stating my opinion, lol.

Honestly, it amuses me, lol.

No one is saying your life should stop at 35. By all means, get drunk and crazy if that's what you're into. However going to a club that is MEANT for a younger crowd will make you look ridiculous, and yeah, the 20+ crowd will probably laugh at you. If you have enough balls to wear that outfit you're too old for, to go to a club for people half your age, to dance with guys old enough to be your sons, then who really cares if you get laughs??? Do what makes you happy! You'll probably be the laugh of my evening, but why should you care if you're having a good time? You had enough balls to show up to the club so you should have enough balls to ignore/brush off what others think of you being there!

Do what makes you happy and be done with it!

Maybe these clubs should post a sign "NO ONE OVER 30 IS ALLOWED. THIS CLUB IS MEANT FOR 20 YEAR OLDS."

TK* · 09-18-2009, 02:27 PM

Hahaha! That would be mean, lotsa!

I have a question though...aren't there any clubs GEARED for the 35+ crowd? I thought there were??? If there aren't any, that's a real shame! There are clubs for 16-20yr olds! Why not for 35+?

Trenell · 09-18-2009, 02:43 PM

Mayhaps I have delusions of my own sexy, but I highly doubt I look silly or anyone laughing at me for being at a club. (I'm not talking about laughing at tacky behavior. I think that looks silly regardless of age) I really feel those those who are laughing at seasoned club goers are probably the type that are always waaaaaay too concern with what others think of THEM.

Lotsawaves · 09-18-2009, 02:43 PM

No, there really isn't any unless, as I've said, you like country, jazz, or want to do the twist, pony, and mashed potatoes.

I really like Brittney and Pink. Their music isn't played at the oldies hangouts. The establishments think we only want to listen to the oldies. I like the oldies, but I also like the new music. It's sad that we can't go to clubs with this new music and dance without being laughed at and looking at as pathetic.

I wish I had the money to open a club here. I'm sure I'm not the only one who is frustrated.

TK* · 09-18-2009, 03:02 PM

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No, there really isn't any unless, as I've said, you like country, jazz, or want to do the twist, pony, and mashed potatoes.

I really like Brittney and Pink. Their music isn't played at the oldies hangouts. The establishments think we only want to listen to the oldies. I like the oldies, but I also like the new music. It's sad that we can't go to clubs with this new music and dance without being laughed at and looking at as pathetic.

I wish I had the money to open a club here. I'm sure I'm not the only one who is frustrated.

*shock*

How SAD! So if you're over 45, I guess you're automatically lumped into the "senior citizen" BINGO-playing category??? I'm sure you aren't the only one frustrated...why aren't YOUR needs being met? There should be clubs where you feel comfortable. I'm confused as to WHY there wouldn't be a club for that if there is such a high demand for it.

Someone should totally jump on that idea! If there are clubs for high school students, there should definitely be clubs for 45+!!!

Trenell · 09-18-2009, 03:04 PM

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. It's sad that we can't go to clubs with this new music and dance without being laughed at and looking at as pathetic.
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Dude, care not what people think.

Lotsawaves · 09-18-2009, 03:07 PM

I agree. I think "they" think our needs are met with the oldies music. I like the old music and I think the younger generation likes it as well, but come on, we like the new music, too.

So now will you not laugh at the older people intruding into your territory?

Of course, if they insist on hooking up with the younger ones there, then I would also laugh at them and feel they are pathetic.

CanItBeChristine · 09-18-2009, 03:19 PM

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like most of us "youthful" looking older women, if you put her next to most 25 yr olds, you can immediately see the difference.

Yeah, I think a lot of people miss this. I look pretty good for 36, and in my head I look the same as when I was 25...but stand me next to real live 25 year old and you can see the difference. Hell, even if I look better I still look older.

Two nights ago I watch Seinfeld and then last night I watched The New Adventures of Old Christine. Julie Louis-Dryfus (mangled her name, sorry) looks AMAZING. AMAZING for any age. I think she's beautiful. She looks even better than she did on Seinfeld (this was an early episode, even) but side by side, you can see she's older.

Doesn't she look gorgeous?! I said the same thing to my mom recently when we were watching Old Christine. "She looks prettier and prettier as she ages!"

CGNYC · 09-18-2009, 03:20 PM

It's just bananas. She looks amazing.

Gemini13 · 09-18-2009, 03:25 PM

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Mayhaps I have delusions of my own sexy, but I highly doubt I look silly or anyone laughing at me for being at a club. (I'm not talking about laughing at tacky behavior. I think that looks silly regardless of age) I really feel those those who are laughing at seasoned club goers are probably the type that are always waaaaaay too concern with what others think of THEM.

I'd better party it up now- another 9 months and I'm going to be the old hag who gets laughed at...

LOL!

I guess I've just never witnessed much of this allegedly tacky behavior amongst older clubgoers. The 30+ set are not usually the ones I see grinding away, groping strangers, desperately trying to pick someone up... *shrug*

sinistral55 · 09-18-2009, 03:41 PM

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Mayhaps I have delusions of my own sexy, but I highly doubt I look silly or anyone laughing at me for being at a club. (I'm not talking about laughing at tacky behavior. I think that looks silly regardless of age) I really feel those those who are laughing at seasoned club goers are probably the type that are always waaaaaay too concern with what others think of THEM.

I'd better party it up now- another 9 months and I'm going to be the old hag who gets laughed at...

LOL!

I guess I've just never witnessed much of this allegedly tacky behavior amongst older clubgoers. The 30+ set are not usually the ones I see grinding away, groping strangers, desperately trying to pick someone up... *shrug*

Same here. I've never witnessed it either

If there were, I didn't even notice.

09-18-2009, 03:58 PM

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Hahaha! That would be mean, lotsa!

I have a question though...aren't there any clubs GEARED for the 35+ crowd? I thought there were??? If there aren't any, that's a real shame! There are clubs for 16-20yr olds! Why not for 35+?

Yeah the knitting club, crochetting club, future denture wearers of America, AARP....

~Ghost Poster~ · 09-18-2009, 05:46 PM

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...for clubbing, in your opinion? Do you have your own personal unspoken, unofficial clubbing age limit? I mean for nightclubs that are clearly frequented by the under 35 crowd.

Not an "age limit" as in: shouldn't be admitted into the club, but just that age where you quietly think to yourself: He/She looks too old to be here or pathetic.

Unpopular and brutally honest opinions encouraged.

This is just an "out of curiosity" question, BTW.

I don't think there's a limit, but there are different types of clubs. I don't know of any under-35 clubs - that's a huge range. At least where I live (and our drinking age is lower) there'll be clubs that are mostly the 18 or 19 up to 23 or 24-ish clubs, and yeah, a 40 y-o might look and feel out of place there. Then there are clubs for the older 20s-early 30s, and clubs that are more 30s and 40s, and people older than that who still club probably are thought of as pathetic and tend to go to more "sleazy" type lounge places. However the "specialty" clubs (ie. Black clubs or Latin clubs) tend to have a range of ages and you'll see teens to 50s there and it's not weird.

But personally I really don't care - do what you want. The main thing that curtailed my clubbing was having a baby, otherwise I'd probably go more.

I love your posts, girl, but you don't have to take everything so literally all the time! I wasn't calling them "under-35 clubs"; it was just a somewhat arbitrary age when it seems many people start looking "too old" to be in "young clubs."

Oddly enough, I started clubbing more after my son was born--when my son was a toddler. He would be at home asleep, with his dad "babysitting." Some of the best clubbing times of my life were between ages 29 and 33.

PixieCurl · 09-18-2009, 08:44 PM

FOR ME, I feel too old / out of place in a club and I'm only 27.... not because of my age but because I'm married with a kid. Again, I said FOR ME because I'm not saying others should feel the same way or avoid clubs if they're married or have children. I never understood when people said they just love to go out dancing with their girlfriends - clubs to me always seem like people trying to dance with the opposite sex, meet people of the opposite sex, hook up, etc. I think even if I were a single mom I would be more comfortable (provided I had reliable childcare and didn't go out ALL THE TIME), but I just feel weird being married and out at a club.

Josephine · 09-22-2009, 07:41 AM

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Guano- NU UH Josephine!!! la Rhumba was EXACTLY what i was talking about. me and my cousin have gone with my aunt and her husband because, seriously, where else can we go!!!! and i met a cutie who wasnt drinking... i just thought he was the DD and wasnt drinking! lol. my cousin dances salsa ( i really dont

) so she heres about salsa nights, and we just go. some spots have latin nights a day out the month... crazy i know. we actually went to Primal this Sat. their outside section played spanish music and when we wanted some hip hop, we just went inside. so that was convenient. i like places like that where i can do both. i cant do all spanish or all english. i need VARIETY. PM me if u wanna talk some more!! i'm still relatively new to the A so i dont always know where to go. but we can def meet up if ur down.

I just saw this! I'll PM you later today. Opera also has a latin room(where I met my man

) but both clubs(opera and primal) are kinda commercial and get boring after a while. And I had a feeling you were talking about La Rumba. There are some others but they are not so nice and 18 up. Loca Luna is cool too and has some variety but more Spanish. It's hard to find variety in one place here..Atlanta's clubbing scene is ehhh

~Ghost Poster~ · 09-22-2009, 02:16 PM

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FOR ME, I feel too old / out of place in a club and I'm only 27.... not because of my age but because I'm married with a kid. Again, I said FOR ME because I'm not saying others should feel the same way or avoid clubs if they're married or have children. I never understood when people said they just love to go out dancing with their girlfriends - clubs to me always seem like people trying to dance with the opposite sex, meet people of the opposite sex, hook up, etc. I think even if I were a single mom I would be more comfortable (provided I had reliable childcare and didn't go out ALL THE TIME), but I just feel weird being married and out at a club.

I agree with much of what you have said here. Also, it seems like clubbing has taken on a new life of its own--VIP sections, long lines, being turned away, bottle service, and whatever other "cool" "exclusivities" I don't really know about or particularly like. It's different from the way it was when I was doing it--or maybe just where I was clubbing. I'm not married, but I am in a long-term, committed relationship, so I, too, would feel uncomfortable in that atmosphere. I'm not interested in dancing with girlfriends or any other girls, period. My guy doesn't like to go clubbing or dancing, so there would be no point in someone like me going to a club like that, and I'm fine with that.

Someone in the pot smokers thread referenced noticing a "trend" toward people thinking life should end after 35 (or something to that effect)...I certainly didn't mean to imply that, if that's an interpretation of anything I've said. I just think after 35 or so, your taste in entertainment often changes...becomes more mature, and I'm surprised when I find people over 40 who want to hang out in the same circles/places as the under-35-ish crowd.