I thought the point of dating was to be in a long term comitted relationship eventually, married or not I don't see it matters one way or the other. The reason you don't have sex is to find out if the guy wants the sex or to get to know you. If you just want to sleep with this guy because he is cute etc.. go for it. If you want him to stay around, wait, if he bails, you win both ways a.You didn't sleep with him so you don't have to go through the self loathing and depression followed by why doesn't he like me? whats wrong with me? eat a pint of Ben & Jerry's or, B.You didn't waste your time and your body on some jerk who wanted to just sleep with you.
If you wait, get to know him and he sticks around, win , win, you get to sleep with him and get to know him. Plus in 40 days you might think he is a jerk, or has sweaty hands or can't kiss or is cheap or has stinky BO. This isn't a game playing episode, it's a plan to get to know someone and make a decision about them before you become too emotionally attached. Once you have sex with him you have this incredible hormone surge that clouds your thinking. And if it doesn't work out you feel bad. I don't wan't to feel bad, sad, stupid, why did I do that, my feelings are hurt now, I want to cry. This is just advice from a woman who has been around the block many times and finally learned and ended up with a guy who worships me and would have waited a year to have sex with me. Because these guy's are all about you, all about what you want, because they make the call, and they keep calling, because they are into you!!
So before you say to yourself that's silly and old fashioned, I would challenge all of you that read this to try it out the next time and see what happens. I think you will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome. You can let me know. I know so many women who don't think they are worth the wait, you are worth the wait for any guy who is serious.