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Old 09-24-2009, 07:00 PM   #21
 
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While we've got all the short curlies here, I want to address this "issue" of appearing short. It seems to me it's just another one of those cookie-cutterish ideas that bothers me. I mean, if you're short you're short right? Is there anything really so wrong with that?
i'm short, and i wish i wasnt. i guess its just that simple. its the same thing as the girls who are curly but wish they had straight hair and vice versa, or girls with small boobs who wished they had big boobs and vice versa, etc etc etc. i wish i was at least 3 inches taller.

i could never be a stewardess, a radio city rockette, a model, etc. i will never be able to just stick my hand out the window to pay the car toll booth cause i cant reach- have to always throw the money. can't reach the top shelf in my closet without jumping or getting a chair. i couldnt even see Jupiter in my Astronomy class because the telescope was positioned to point directly to view Jupiter and i couldnt reach to see thru the eye part. clothes rarely fit right...

i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Oh yeah, totally get all the functional aspects of being short-- i guess i've gotten quite used to it though - What i meant was Does it really matter as far as the image goes? When we are concerned that something makes us look 'shorter' or just as short as we actually are, how much does that really matter?

I like that a lot of people already said things such as: "If you like it thats what matters"-- so i guess maybe I'm looking for more thoughts on this.
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i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Things us short girls have going for us which WE take for granted:

1. Looking feminine

2. Being able to wear heels without towering over people, finding flat formal shoes is tricky

3. You can take pants up us much as you want, but can only let them down a centimeter or two.

4. Dating, its very easy to find a man taller than you if you are only 5ft. A lot men don't want to date women who are taller.

These are the things my tall friends complain about. Just saying, the grass is always greener.
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While we've got all the short curlies here, I want to address this "issue" of appearing short. It seems to me it's just another one of those cookie-cutterish ideas that bothers me. I mean, if you're short you're short right? Is there anything really so wrong with that?
i'm short, and i wish i wasnt. i guess its just that simple. its the same thing as the girls who are curly but wish they had straight hair and vice versa, or girls with small boobs who wished they had big boobs and vice versa, etc etc etc. i wish i was at least 3 inches taller.

i could never be a stewardess, a radio city rockette, a model, etc. i will never be able to just stick my hand out the window to pay the car toll booth cause i cant reach- have to always throw the money. can't reach the top shelf in my closet without jumping or getting a chair. i couldnt even see Jupiter in my Astronomy class because the telescope was positioned to point directly to view Jupiter and i couldnt reach to see thru the eye part. clothes rarely fit right...

i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Oh yeah, totally get all the functional aspects of being short-- i guess i've gotten quite used to it though - What i meant was Does it really matter as far as the image goes? When we are concerned that something makes us look 'shorter' or just as short as we actually are, how much does that really matter?

I like that a lot of people already said things such as: "If you like it thats what matters"-- so i guess maybe I'm looking for more thoughts on this.
I agree with you, I personally am not self conscious about my height. It's not something I'm constantly thinking about and embarrassed of, it's just a huge inconvenience. What I really meant about the boots making me look shorter was my legs. My legs are proportionately short and I don't like the look of super short legs, so I do try to avoid things that accentuate that. I guess that is something I'm semi-self conscious about, but that's more about my body type, not my height.
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I think the reason for wanting to look taller is that it usually makes you look thinner. The appearance of your weight most likely won't change, but a person who looks 5'4" and 120lb will appear thinner than a person who looks/is 5'0" and 120lb.
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i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Things us short girls have going for us which WE take for granted:

1. Looking feminine

2. Being able to wear heels without towering over people, finding flat formal shoes is tricky

3. You can take pants up us much as you want, but can only let them down a centimeter or two.

4. Dating, its very easy to find a man taller than you if you are only 5ft. A lot men don't want to date women who are taller.

These are the things my tall friends complain about. Just saying, the grass is always greener.
Yep, it really doesn't matter your height (hair color, body type, etc) you always want something different.
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i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Things us short girls have going for us which WE take for granted:

1. Looking feminine

2. Being able to wear heels without towering over people, finding flat formal shoes is tricky

3. You can take pants up us much as you want, but can only let them down a centimeter or two.

4. Dating, its very easy to find a man taller than you if you are only 5ft. A lot men don't want to date women who are taller.

These are the things my tall friends complain about. Just saying, the grass is always greener.
Yep, it really doesn't matter your height (hair color, body type, etc) you always want something different.
Thanks for getting positive, MDRB
I have another good reason to be short--- (as a mom or aunt or what-have-you) you can get up in there with the kids on the park play equipment!!

Oh! and how about sometimes finding shoes in the kids section (if they're decent of course!)
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i don't mind being short, i just wish i could find tall boots to fit OVER my calves!
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i don't mind being short, i just wish i could find tall boots to fit OVER my calves!
http://www.duoboots.com/

Seriously worth the money- their shipping is excellent- as is their customer service and the boots- are. gorgeous.

I could never wear boots before I found these guys- you get ones to your exact measurements because they make them in lots of sizes- going up a couple of cm at a time!

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I'm 5'3" and I wear all sorts of boots. I have ankle boots, cowboy boots and knee-high boots. I think one should just wear what they like.

I don't wear pants tucked into boots, so my boots can be close-fitting which is helpful in keeping the look sleek. If they are too sloppy around the ankle they tend to make me look like a potted plant.
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Oh! and how about sometimes finding shoes in the kids section (if they're decent of course!)
I get ALL of my non-heels (flats, sneakers, etc.) from the kids' department. Usually at Target.

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i don't mind being short, i just wish i could find tall boots to fit OVER my calves!
I have the opposite problem. Apparently I have scrawny calves so my legs end up looking like toothpicks in buckets when I try to wear high boots.... so I've given up on wearing boots with skirts/dresses altogether.
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I wear boots. Love them. I'm 5'1. This year I had a ehll of a time finding kneww length with a slight heel that wasn't huge on the calf. I think this was the first year I had this problem.
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While we've got all the short curlies here, I want to address this "issue" of appearing short. It seems to me it's just another one of those cookie-cutterish ideas that bothers me. I mean, if you're short you're short right? Is there anything really so wrong with that?
I agree with you- I don't mind being short, or even think about it much for that matter (unless I can't see the stage during a concert, or I'm stuck in the middle of a crowd).

However- whatever your shape or size, certain things are going to be more flattering than others. If I'm wearing something that makes me look shorter, chances are it's because it's unflattering in some other way- say, it makes my waist look really thick. On the other hand, when something works well for my body type, I don't know if it actually makes me appear taller, but at least it won't make me look stubby.
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Oh, and I also have major problems with tall boots. Last year I brought a pair to the cobbler, and he couldn't even stretch them out enough for me. Once I got them back I had to slowly stretch them myself by wearing them around the house and gradually zip them up higher.

My calves really aren't big so I can't help but wonder who is supposed to be able to wear boots like that.
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While we've got all the short curlies here, I want to address this "issue" of appearing short. It seems to me it's just another one of those cookie-cutterish ideas that bothers me. I mean, if you're short you're short right? Is there anything really so wrong with that?
i'm short, and i wish i wasnt. i guess its just that simple. its the same thing as the girls who are curly but wish they had straight hair and vice versa, or girls with small boobs who wished they had big boobs and vice versa, etc etc etc. i wish i was at least 3 inches taller.

i could never be a stewardess, a radio city rockette, a model, etc. i will never be able to just stick my hand out the window to pay the car toll booth cause i cant reach- have to always throw the money. can't reach the top shelf in my closet without jumping or getting a chair. i couldnt even see Jupiter in my Astronomy class because the telescope was positioned to point directly to view Jupiter and i couldnt reach to see thru the eye part. clothes rarely fit right...

i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Oh yeah, totally get all the functional aspects of being short-- i guess i've gotten quite used to it though - What i meant was Does it really matter as far as the image goes? When we are concerned that something makes us look 'shorter' or just as short as we actually are, how much does that really matter?

I like that a lot of people already said things such as: "If you like it thats what matters"-- so i guess maybe I'm looking for more thoughts on this.
as far as fashion, i'm usually a couple steps behind anyways, but i still like to be fashionable. but if something is recommended for shorter girls- a specific cut or style that makes u appear taller, i will take it to consideration. i usually just try to mimic shorter celebrities just because i see the clothes look good on them so they it could look good on me. but regular everyday stuff, i dont bother. jeans are jeans, cotton shirts are cotton shirts. i guess i try harder for work.

as far as functionality... i really wanted to be a Rockette when i saw them for the Christmas Show . i'm not a professional dancer so i probably couldnt be one anyways!!!! but still, just the thought that my height was working against me SUCKED!

i dont wanna be a giant!!! just like, 2 inches taller. so people dont tease me about being borderline midget! they're just joking, but u know. it gets old. i like being cute and petite. but 2 inches would be awesome!
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so people dont tease me about being borderline midget! they're just joking, but u know. it gets old.

I hear you there. But think of it this way...they could be just teasing you because they are jealous of the fact you are cute and petite!

Like Gemini, I also don't really think about my height either unless a situation presents itself where I feel I'm singled out because of it. It's just part of who I am.

And I know many tall women out there have just as many issues with clothing as shorter women. After watching many an episode of What Not to Wear, it seems like many women have problems with any clothing (or shoes to stay on topic) off the rack.
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This website has been mentioned here before, but I suggest you check it out:

www.myshape.com

You enter your measurements and they'll tell you what your body type is and what kind of clothes will work for you. They do offer some tips, within each different type, for petites. But they feel (as I do) that as long as you dress for your body type, your height doesn't make that much of a difference.
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i don't mind being short, i just wish i could find tall boots to fit OVER my calves!
http://www.duoboots.com/

Seriously worth the money- their shipping is excellent- as is their customer service and the boots- are. gorgeous.

I could never wear boots before I found these guys- you get ones to your exact measurements because they make them in lots of sizes- going up a couple of cm at a time!

I concur. I recently purchased some knee highs from there and am thrilled with them. They fit my calves perfectly, look really nice and are so comfortable. I found the shoe part to be decently sized too.
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so people dont tease me about being borderline midget! they're just joking, but u know. it gets old.

I hear you there. But think of it this way...they could be just teasing you because they are jealous of the fact you are cute and petite!

Like Gemini, I also don't really think about my height either unless a situation presents itself where I feel I'm singled out because of it. It's just part of who I am.

And I know many tall women out there have just as many issues with clothing as shorter women. After watching many an episode of What Not to Wear, it seems like many women have problems with any clothing (or shoes to stay on topic) off the rack.
Yea, it could be worst... ALL STORE COULD STOP MAKING SHORT SIZES!!!!!!!!!!!!

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This website has been mentioned here before, but I suggest you check it out:

www.myshape.com

You enter your measurements and they'll tell you what your body type is and what kind of clothes will work for you. They do offer some tips, within each different type, for petites. But they feel (as I do) that as long as you dress for your body type, your height doesn't make that much of a difference.
never seen the link before but seems fun!!
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i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Things us short girls have going for us which WE take for granted:

1. Looking feminine

2. Being able to wear heels without towering over people, finding flat formal shoes is tricky

3. You can take pants up us much as you want, but can only let them down a centimeter or two.

4. Dating, its very easy to find a man taller than you if you are only 5ft. A lot men don't want to date women who are taller.

These are the things my tall friends complain about. Just saying, the grass is always greener.
Looking feminine? I've never once considered short women to be more feminine.
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i mean, for taller girls, these are things that u dont think about. it's not that there is anything 'really wrong with that'. but things would be a tad easier with just a couple inches more.
Things us short girls have going for us which WE take for granted:

1. Looking feminine

2. Being able to wear heels without towering over people, finding flat formal shoes is tricky

3. You can take pants up us much as you want, but can only let them down a centimeter or two.

4. Dating, its very easy to find a man taller than you if you are only 5ft. A lot men don't want to date women who are taller.

These are the things my tall friends complain about. Just saying, the grass is always greener.
Looking feminine? I've never once considered short women to be more feminine.
seems to be something my tall friends complain about. That I'm all 'petite and feminine' and they are 'built like football players' I personally I would love to be taller and I think my friends look great, but these are the sorts of things I hear.
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