Parental Confessional

I have two daughters and they are both my favorites for different reasons.

My oldest daughter is my favorite because we have a lot in common: books, movies, personality(which can sometimes lead to trouble), natural hair, this forum. My oldest is now an adult so I do not have to use much "parental censorship" around her. I can actually speak to her adult to adult about most things. I had my oldest daughter when I was 20 yo. She helped/made me grow up. I was once a shy young woman but then I turned into woman ready to care for and protect this gift from God.

My youngest is my favorite because she has a beautiful personality that I do not see in most 14 year olds. The child just brightens my day when she walks into the room. She always smiles and she always turns a negative situation into a positive one. We call her "our Mary Poppins." The other day I was not in the greatest mood. She was cleaning the kitchen after dinner. She asked me to come to the kitchen. She took time out of cleaning the kitchen to make me a pot of coffee. She does things like this all the time.

I couldn't choose a favorite if my life depended on it. The are both so special and different.
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I really don't belong here since I only have ONE child who obviously is my favorite.

But I wanted to share with you my Dads angle on the FAV thing.
I am the middle child of the three of us and I am my Dads
FAV SECOND CHILD!!!!!!
And so one for the other two.
It works great for all of us even when we were little ones.
Originally Posted by IamDonna
Cute.

I tell Bailey, she's my favorite 5 year old, that she'll always be special because she was my first... that sort of thing.

And then Bella is my favorite 2 year old, and she's special bc she's the baby, etc.
First to Jess--wow. Your story really moved me. Thank you for sharing.

I have a favorite. My daughter. I try never to show it.

When I was pregnant with my son we went to Disneyland. I had lost a twin pregnancy about 22 weeks before I got pregnant with him and I was devastated. I wasn't even trying to get pregnant with him. Anyway I was up in this treehouse thing at Disneyland with my daughter and I was about 4 1/2 months pregnant with my son when I had this incredible sense that somethign was dreadfully wrong. Like a gut punch.

When we got back to San Diego I called and made an appt with the dr. Long story short 1 mo. later they said he had a chromosome deletion. He had major heart defects and they did not think they were compatible with life. They told me he was brain dead and would never walk, talk, etc. We picked out a plot and got a prescription for morphine. I cannot begin to even understand the dark days until he was born (this was February) in June. They are a complete blur. I think we had 17 people in the room when he was born.

I often think I did not fully bond with him while he was inside me...and endless hospital visits, therapies, dr's later there was/is always this thing inside me thinking/knowing that the future is uncertain. A couple of years ago he was diagnosed with a ton of things--among which is Autism. So his level of empathisizing with someone else and connecting is not there either.

I should be clear I don't love him less--I think I love him more for all that he has accomplished and for how hard he has fought. During this time my daughter has been his rock. She alone can handle him when he completely freaks out. She's the one, when he was in the hospital, who would talk to him and play with him and get him to smile. She has the deepest bond with him--if he is sick she will get a cold washcloth and comfort him, when he's angry she tries to calm him down, when he is sad she hugs him and tells him it is going to be allright. These are all things he allows her to do but really no one else. She is fiercly protective of him. For all she does for him and for who she is--well she is definitely my favorite. That's all.

I dearly love both my kids. I'm not the most demonstrative mom but I try to show them every day how much they mean to me.

I can say growing up my sister was the favorite of nearly everyone. She was the golden haired child--literally. Blond/white straight hair,blue eyes, great grades, head cheerleader, great boyfriends, always helping my parents, blah blah blah. Meanwhile I was the unruly curly head, a little chubby, drank, smoked, rebel, dated whoever I wanted, changed my religion completely, moved away. etc etc etc. I dearly love them but favorite was very clear.
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Alex, what a moving, honest story to entrust us with. You must be a great mother; your kids are blessed to have you.
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Thanks Rudee.

I should add that he is doing so much better than what they ever predicted! He is in 4th grade and he can read anything you put in front of him (he loves manga), he walks, runs, tells jokes (he has a very strange sense of humor), he can do basic math and we're working on multiplication right now. He plays lots of video games with us (this is how we got him to talk!) and when he grows up he wants to get married, go to college, and have 4 kids (2 boys, 2 girls and he's got names already ). If you didn't know better and you met him on the street or in Target you might not even know about his history.

And yeah I totally take him back to those same Doctor's and geneticists REGULARLY so they can see how great he is doing. Love seeing their faces!
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My mom had a favorite.
-My brother was the favorite because he was the youngest and the only boy.
-I had the typical middle child syndrome.
-My sister caused the most trouble but got everything she wanted.

Those dynamics changed when my uncle C. died in July. While my brother and I helped my mom out and made sure she was coping well (since she was missing meals and sleep), all my sister did was complain and think about herself. I noticed now my mom treats me like she treats my brother while my sister is the least favorite.

I have to admit my brother is my favorite sibling.
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Last edited by TwoMoons; 09-28-2009 at 09:18 AM.
Do you have a favorite? Yes, both depending on the circumstance and situation.
If so, why?
-My first and eldest son is autistic. Because of this and him being my first I really feel a close bond to him and put so much energy into helping him suceed and make special arrangements to ensure he will be okay in whatever the situation we put him in.
-My youngest and athletic son. He's fun. He's easy. He is smart and talented. He wastes it though so when I have the chance I am constantly trying ot be involved and show him whatever I can to get him strive to be better. I spend more money on him because of the talent and his desire and personality to try new things all the time.
And have you ever admitted it to anyone? My mom can see it time to time. My wife and I both do it.
Do they know they are the fave? They both think the other is the favorite.
How do the others feel? Again they both feel they are getting the short end of the stick. The elder thinks I like the younger more because when baseball starts for example and we get catching gear and spend every day at practice and games while the other just does homework... The younger feels we don't spend as much effort helping him out because the elder is always the one getting the assistance and so he goes on his own quite often or I think doesn't try so he will get the help his brother does.


I was the eldest of 3 boys and I would say my parents did a good job at not having a favorite. Each got time and each had things "special" for them but no one got "more".
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Thanks Rudee.

I should add that he is doing so much better than what they ever predicted! He is in 4th grade and he can read anything you put in front of him (he loves manga), he walks, runs, tells jokes (he has a very strange sense of humor), he can do basic math and we're working on multiplication right now. He plays lots of video games with us (this is how we got him to talk!) and when he grows up he wants to get married, go to college, and have 4 kids (2 boys, 2 girls and he's got names already ). If you didn't know better and you met him on the street or in Target you might not even know about his history.

And yeah I totally take him back to those same Doctor's and geneticists REGULARLY so they can see how great he is doing. Love seeing their faces!
Originally Posted by Alexjoujou
Gd works in mysterious ways. Love heals. That is amazing
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