My neighbor threatened to press charges against my 6 year old! Long...

I love ya PI, but IMO, you and your hubby are being petty. It's none of your biz about why this lady would have her door unlocked, but the alarm on. It's her house, she can do as she pleases. Or like others have said, maybe it was an accident, maybe one of her kids unlocked it. Had the alarm not sounded, maybe your son would have seen her having sex, or worse, maybe your son would have hurt himself accidently by playing with a firearm that they didn't have locked up. Maybe (even if they didn't have an alarm), your son could have been attacked by their dog, or, maybe their dog could have ran outside and still be missing. Your son was wrong. You owe them the measly 12 bux for their hearts beating 150 BPM after hearing the alarm sound, seeing the door wide open...etc. No excuses. If your son didn't know better, than he should not be unsupervised.
Originally Posted by chicagocurly78
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We are going to just pay it and move on. Its not worth it. Even though I don't think my little boy did anything wrong the whole situation is just silly. His friend admitted he was the one who opened the door but whatever. They have both learned a good lesson.
I love ya PI, but IMO, you and your hubby are being petty. It's none of your biz about why this lady would have her door unlocked, but the alarm on. It's her house, she can do as she pleases. Or like others have said, maybe it was an accident, maybe one of her kids unlocked it. Had the alarm not sounded, maybe your son would have seen her having sex, or worse, maybe your son would have hurt himself accidently by playing with a firearm that they didn't have locked up. Maybe (even if they didn't have an alarm), your son could have been attacked by their dog, or, maybe their dog could have ran outside and still be missing. Your son was wrong. You owe them the measly 12 bux for their hearts beating 150 BPM after hearing the alarm sound, seeing the door wide open...etc. No excuses. If your son didn't know better, than he should not be unsupervised.
Originally Posted by chicagocurly78
Somebody loves me on here! Thank you!

We are going to just pay it and move on. Its not worth it. Even though I don't think my little boy did anything wrong the whole situation is just silly. His friend admitted he was the one who opened the door but whatever. They have both learned a good lesson.
Originally Posted by poisonivy
My parents would have said I did wrong in a) not discouraging the other kid / going along with him doing something wrong, and b) running away when the alarm went off and not telling an adult what happened. I know 6 is young, but it's not too young to have some awareness of the above, or at least to be told now what he should have done so he'll know for next time. It sounds like you have used it as a learning experience so that's good. It also sounds to me like both of those kids are bad news for your boy. It's easy for a 6-y-o to be led astray by an 8-y-0 - there's a big age difference there and this 8-y-o should know better than he does.
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I love ya PI, but IMO, you and your hubby are being petty. It's none of your biz about why this lady would have her door unlocked, but the alarm on. It's her house, she can do as she pleases. Or like others have said, maybe it was an accident, maybe one of her kids unlocked it. Had the alarm not sounded, maybe your son would have seen her having sex, or worse, maybe your son would have hurt himself accidently by playing with a firearm that they didn't have locked up. Maybe (even if they didn't have an alarm), your son could have been attacked by their dog, or, maybe their dog could have ran outside and still be missing. Your son was wrong. You owe them the measly 12 bux for their hearts beating 150 BPM after hearing the alarm sound, seeing the door wide open...etc. No excuses. If your son didn't know better, than he should not be unsupervised.
Originally Posted by chicagocurly78
Somebody loves me on here! Thank you!

We are going to just pay it and move on. Its not worth it. Even though I don't think my little boy did anything wrong the whole situation is just silly. His friend admitted he was the one who opened the door but whatever. They have both learned a good lesson.
Originally Posted by poisonivy
My parents would have said I did wrong in a) not discouraging the other kid / going along with him doing something wrong, and b) running away when the alarm went off and not telling an adult what happened. I know 6 is young, but it's not too young to have some awareness of the above, or at least to be told now what he should have done so he'll know for next time. It sounds like you have used it as a learning experience so that's good. It also sounds to me like both of those kids are bad news for your boy. It's easy for a 6-y-o to be led astray by an 8-y-0 - there's a big age difference there and this 8-y-o should know better than he does.
Originally Posted by Amneris
Actually they ran right home and told a my husband what had happened. His 8 year old friend is a good kid but he just wasn't thinking. I don't know if it has anything to do with Indian culture but his mother has walked in my house numerous times. She's even walked in my bedroom at 8 a.m. when I'm still sleeping! Strange neighborhood I live in.
She's even walked in my bedroom at 8 a.m. when I'm still sleeping!
That would only happen once in my house.

Um, so...why was your door open when you were sleeping (and I guess no one else was home)?
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The first thing I do when I come in through my front door, is turn around close it and lock it.

This neighbors coming in while I am sleeping junk would NEVER happen in my house.
DH's fault. He leaves for work and forgets to lock the door behind him. She's harmless really but sometimes lacks an understanding of personal space and social boundaries. Ever talk to someone who is too close to your face during a conversation?
@M2 - Well, true, it wouldn't happen in my house at all most likely.
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The first thing I do when I come in through my front door, is turn around close it and lock it.

This neighbors coming in while I am sleeping junk would NEVER happen in my house.
Originally Posted by M2LR
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Hubby sometimes does that w/ the back door, tho we usually have [I do] our back gate locked.....if one makes this a habit it's all that need to happen.....
i dunno, anyone walking in my house unannounced is liable to catch a skillet to the head or worse.

though we don't leave our doors unlocked here. it's a recession and people are stealing!
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i dunno, anyone walking in my house unannounced is liable to catch a skillet to the head or worse.

though we don't leave our doors unlocked here. it's a recession and people are stealing!
Originally Posted by empressri
WERD! And I don't care where the heck I'm living; I'm from Brooklyn. We lock our doors.
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I grew up in the middle of nowhere and we never locked our doors. Therefore, I forget to lock mine sometimes, especially when I'm in a rush. I would pay the alarm fee, or have the kids pay it, but keep this neighbour at arm's length from now on.
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yeah i know, some places you can do that....NOT IN NEW YAWK!!!! i'm telling ya, even the most peaceful of neighborhoods they're breaking into houses now.
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plus i'd talk to your son and let him know in this case nothing happened BUT what if he went in the house of some nut or walked in on a crime or something else...basically what i'm saying is don't miss this opportunity to tell your child for his safety that he should never ever attempt to go inside someone's home (and i know he didn't and the other kid was the one that turned the knob but you get my point). your son didn't do anything wrong, i'm totally not saying that, but i just see this as a valuable teaching oppotunity. so many kids are being abducted and then held without a trace you just have to warn your child.
Originally Posted by luvmylocs
just quoting myself because i feel like this is the most important thing from this whole situation....not all the ways you can "get back at the crazy family"
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plus i'd talk to your son and let him know in this case nothing happened BUT what if he went in the house of some nut or walked in on a crime or something else...basically what i'm saying is don't miss this opportunity to tell your child for his safety that he should never ever attempt to go inside someone's home (and i know he didn't and the other kid was the one that turned the knob but you get my point). your son didn't do anything wrong, i'm totally not saying that, but i just see this as a valuable teaching oppotunity. so many kids are being abducted and then held without a trace you just have to warn your child.
Originally Posted by luvmylocs
just quoting myself because i feel like this is the most important thing from this whole situation....not all the ways you can "get back at the crazy family"
Originally Posted by luvmylocs
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We are going to just pay it and move on. Its not worth it. Even though I don't think my little boy did anything wrong the whole situation is just silly. His friend admitted he was the one who opened the door but whatever. They have both learned a good lesson.
Originally Posted by poisonivy
My parents would have said I did wrong in a) not discouraging the other kid / going along with him doing something wrong, and b) running away when the alarm went off and not telling an adult what happened. I know 6 is young, but it's not too young to have some awareness of the above, or at least to be told now what he should have done so he'll know for next time. It sounds like you have used it as a learning experience so that's good. It also sounds to me like both of those kids are bad news for your boy. It's easy for a 6-y-o to be led astray by an 8-y-0 - there's a big age difference there and this 8-y-o should know better than he does.
Originally Posted by Amneris
Actually they ran right home and told a my husband what had happened. His 8 year old friend is a good kid but he just wasn't thinking. I don't know if it has anything to do with Indian culture but his mother has walked in my house numerous times. She's even walked in my bedroom at 8 a.m. when I'm still sleeping! Strange neighborhood I live in.
Originally Posted by poisonivy
That's good that they did that.

I don't know about Indian culture specifically, but there are definitely parts of the world where you "just drop in" like that ... but that is changing due to safety and crime concerns. Some families also have an open-door policy within the family - mine was like that. We knew it didn't extend to other peoples' families, though. And... why has your door been open numerous times? It would not be acceptable to me to have my husband "forget" to lock the door numerous times.. he is not a child. I would definitely talk to that family about not doing that, for safety concerns for their child if nothing else. And if your son is going to continue to play with their son, he needs to know that even if the other kid wants to open other peoples' doors, it is a very bad idea.
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I would pay the fine and distance myself from them. The boys shouldn't have opened the door either, good lesson especially if the other kid doesn't know about boundaries. The money part and suing the kids is way over the top and just plain petty.
Update. My neighbor called me today about an unrelated matter and eventually got around to asking me if I had talked to DH about the bill. I told her I had and that he was going to call her husband and get a copy of the bill and we would just take care of it. Her response, "thats the thing, there is no bill". I'm like, how can you pay a fee without a bill, that makes no sense? She said her husband had this slip (isn't that sort of a bill) and that he had probably already taken care of it and just wants reimbursed. I told her again, I'll have Jimmy call Scott and and the two of them can work it out. Her response, "I'm pretty sure Scott won't want to talk to Jimmy about it, he just want reimbursed". Whats going on here? Before she hung up on me (yes she hung up on me) I asked her if she had discussed this at all with my son's friend's parents and she said no, I just figured you could work it out with them? WTF?
I think I wouldn't have anything more to do with those people.
I wonder if it's just her being a biatch and not the husband.
I wonder if it's just her being a biatch and not the husband.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I was thinking the same thing. I'm still going to have my husband call Scott and find out whats really going on here.

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