Tacky gift registries from the bride

I'm just a little annoyed by this bride/groom, especially bride. They are registered at Macy's and Crate....and it seems like all of the gift that they've (she) registered for are greater than 100.00. I even saw they (she) registered for some gifts in the 300.00 price range. The groom makes over 100k/year, she makes around 60k and they have lived together for 2 years. She is in her mid 30's, he is early 40's. She's been on her own for 15 + years, and as far as I know, so has he. They do deserve gifts that they want, but...

Can't they buy their own mattress protector?? I would have bought it for them, actually, even though I think that it's tacky of them to ask for it. It was the only thing listed under 75.00 that wasn't already fulfilled. But when I clicked on the purchase tab, I got a note saying that this product is now unavailable. The next cheapest want item on their list that isn't fulfilled is bedding - originally 229.00, on sale for 139.00. I'm not spending that much, especially since I'm broke myself. I think I may stick 50.00 in a card and make that my gift. Even 50.00 is a lot to me at this point, I'd much prefer 35.000, but I don't want to be the tacky money giver. Sigh.

Are there any gifts that you've seen registered that annoy you?

Last edited by chicagocurly78; 09-27-2009 at 03:59 PM.
I had a friend like this, everything on the registry was ridiculously priced. I ended up just getting something else, not on the registry. I am not here to finance someone else's start in life and I was very irritated they treated the registry like that.

Oh, and same situation on being adults with their own households and being gainfully employed.
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If the couple doesn't include enough lower-priced items on their gift list, then I go off-list. That's the way it goes.
How about a Macy's giftcard for whatever amount you can afford?
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If the couple doesn't include enough lower-priced items on their gift list, then I go off-list. That's the way it goes.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
Either this or the gift card option.

The first thing the lady at the Macy's gift registry said to us after showing us how to use the scanner was that we needed to be sure to register for gifts at all price points. She didn't need to tell us twice, especially since my husband didn't even want to do a gift registry. I actually had some comments from guests that we didn't include enough items at the $100+ range. Oh well.
Same here -- if I don't like the price points, I go off the register.

I remember the first time I encountered this -- a co-worker had only incredibly expensive things listed. I ended up getting her one piece of her stemware. It looked kind of sad all alone in its box, but it was absurdly expensive to get more than one and I didn't know her all that well. I didn't know her well enough to know her taste to go off-register either. Looking back, I should have gone with the gift card.

Everyone in the office was talking about how expensive all her stuff was == made her look bad.
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She is in her mid 30's, he is early 40's. She's been on her own for 15 + years, and as far as I know, so has he. They do deserve gifts that they want, but...
Originally Posted by chicagocurly78
This kind of bothers me, too. I would think that most people in the 30-40 range already have the basic household necessities, and to me, any kind of gift that friends give should be something of their choice - just in celebration of the event.
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Last edited by cakj99; 04-26-2010 at 07:17 PM.
I think some people have expensive registries because they see this as a chance to get stuff they can't actually afford and that's kind of tacky. However, PLENTY of people just register for the stuff they like and would buy anyway and assume anyone not wanting to buy from the registry will give a gift card or just think of something else.

Also, if it's anything like baby registries, most places will give you a pretty hefty discount on anything you don't get, so people register for stuff they intend to buy for themselves at a discount. They may be thinking - hey, we need a mattress protector, sure would be nice to get it for 30% off!
I don't mind when people register for expensive stuff, as long as they include stuff at all price points, and REAL gifts at lower prices - not like a spatula. A lot of times the less expensive options can't stand alone so you end up having to get a few/several anyway.
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Is this their first marriage? just curious...
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And g/c would be a great idea...
does the bride have a favorite spa or a place she does yoga?

you could always take her out before her wedding as a gift to them -
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Umm, who cares?

No one is saying (or should) that you absolutely MUST buy off the registry. If its too rich for your blood, simply go another route.

Complain about anything these days.
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I typically don't buy off the registries anyway. Mostly because most of the items have been fulfilled, and/or because I can always find those same items(or comparable items) at substantially lower prices.

I luckily haven't encountered any registries where there were only expensive stuff, but even if there were, it doesn't mean I have to buy them.

Give a giftcard or just gift them something you can afford.
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I don't mind when people register for expensive stuff, as long as they include stuff at all price points, and REAL gifts at lower prices - not like a spatula. A lot of times the less expensive options can't stand alone so you end up having to get a few/several anyway.
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Yep.

I also try not to judge others on their registries/taste/financial situation because you really don't know the entire story. Plus, it's like what CG said, there's the discount on items you don't receive and that's incentive to add on- just in case.
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My friend who is getting married next month registered at Sephora!!! I had never heard of that before.
Can you and several friends go in on something together? If not, give a gift card for $35 or whatever you are comfortable w/. Marriage is not about bedding and food processors and dishes and all that ****. Wake up, people!
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Is this their first marriage? just curious...
Originally Posted by WileECoyote - Dissolving Bikini Wearer
My sister and her husband (her second marriage, his first) had a registry for their wedding and lots of the stuff on it was expensive. She seemed surprised when they received very little from their registry - most of his family gave them money (which may be a regional thing, he's from NJ orginally). They did go out and complete the registry themselves after the fact, with the discount.
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In this case, I'd probably go the gift card, or just cash route.

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