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Old 10-07-2009, 02:27 PM   #1
 
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I need some opinions- Im student living in a house with 3 other people. Our landlord sent us an email saying do we want the TV License this year- if yes to each send him our share of the money £26.

Trouble is- my finances are in serious trouble- its not a huge amount of money but the thought of it makes me feel a bit queasy - I cant really afford it this yr. I rarely, rarely watch the TV- I usually just do catch up online- so I could live without the TV for 9 months- but is it really fair for my flat-mates not too/or have to pay more just because Im in a difficult situation?

One girl doesn't really care (and would rather not pay) but the other girl likes to have it on in evenings as background- they are home a lot too so I reckon they watch it during the day. And the boy this yr had also got a TV in his room (he didnt last yr). I think they will be pissed if I say I cant really excuse the money and a big part of me feels it is only fair that I pay up too, for all of us.

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I'm not sure, I think the technically 'fair' thing to do is to pay less since you'd be watching less TV (if you normally watch a lot less TV). But when you live with other people, to me that can be tacky/petty. And is this for basic TV or cable/extra channels? If it's for basic, then I'm not sure, I mean it's kind of a basic cost to me, whether you use much of it or not.
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I don't see why you can't explain your situation to your roommates. If you can't afford the license then don't pay. Television is not a necessity and if they really want the license let them pay for it themselves.
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I don't see why you can't explain your situation to your roommates. If you can't afford the license then don't pay. Television is not a necessity and if they really want the license let them pay for it themselves.

This. Really, it isn't fair for you to have to pay for something you don't want, need, and can't afford. So if we're talking about fair, it's better for you to politely say no.
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It may be worth it to keep the peace amongst roommates... Perhaps you could pay a little at a time?
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Was this issue discussed at all prior to agreeing to move in together? Seems like some arrangement would have been made early on -- "we will split the annual tv license and all of the monthly utility bills" or something to that effect?

If it was discussed at all, you really need to honor what was said.

If it was not discussed, feel free to do what you like.

In the US we don't have that fee. But we do have to pay for "cable," i.e., all the channels beyond the basic 4 or 5. When I was in school and had roommates, I wanted cable one year...and I paid for it myself, and only my tv got it. It would have been nice to go in jointly on it and share the service among several tv sets but a few didn't want it/couldn't afford it...and I wouldn't dream of trying to force anyone to pay for something like that.

Or you could ask your landlord if he/she would be willing to help out a few poor, struggling college students and pick up half of the cost. I am a landlord now and I will occasionally do little extras to be nice. Just don't count on it!
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My roommate and I had a similar issue. I've never had cable and don't care to have it. He wanted it. I pretty much don't watch TV and I am happy to just watch network TV. He said he'd pay for it himself since he recognized that I would hardly watch. Still, I didn't want to be in a situation where I might find myself watching TV and feel wrong that I wasn't contributing. So, we agreed that I'd give him something like a third of my half of the cost.
He didn't end up getting it though because it turned out to be more expensive than the company had told him.
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I don't see why you can't explain your situation to your roommates. If you can't afford the license then don't pay. Television is not a necessity and if they really want the license let them pay for it themselves.
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We pay all the bills equally. This is an extra on top if we want it. We did last year (it is so we can have TV at all- well we could still have the TV on but it would be illegal without a license), then we moved out for 3 months over the summer and now we are moved back in for our second year and the landlord has asked us if we want to pay for the tv license again this year.

It would be easier to just pay, I know that. I don't want arguments/upset (we had some issue last yr- people not contributing/wanting to pay less of the gas and electric bills etc).

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It would be easier to just pay, I know that. I don't want arguments/upset (we had some issue last yr- people not contributing/wanting to pay less of the gas and electric bills etc).
Honestly, if you have the money and can cut back somewhere else temporarily, I'd probably just pay it, especially given the bolded. If you say you don't want TV, and then EVER watch it - even if you're in the room doing something else while a roommate watches TV and you glance over, they may see it as you watching when you didn't pay. And it opens up everyone to more of what you encountered last year, because some roommates may use it as an excuse to try to pay less for other utilities that they don't use as much.
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Old 10-08-2009, 11:46 AM   #14
 
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^ Yeah. You are right. I shall just pay it- anything for less stress lol0 final yr at uni is already proving to be stressful as it is- only been back a week
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It would be easier to just pay, I know that. I don't want arguments/upset (we had some issue last yr- people not contributing/wanting to pay less of the gas and electric bills etc).
Honestly, if you have the money and can cut back somewhere else temporarily, I'd probably just pay it, especially given the bolded. If you say you don't want TV, and then EVER watch it - even if you're in the room doing something else while a roommate watches TV and you glance over, they may see it as you watching when you didn't pay. And it opens up everyone to more of what you encountered last year, because some roommates may use it as an excuse to try to pay less for other utilities that they don't use as much.
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