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Old 10-15-2009, 10:59 PM   #1
 
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So, you recommend Plenty of Fish for online dating or what? Is it time consuming and a PITA like eharmony? Is it oriented towards hook ups like Match? or is there any hope of just relatively hassle free prospects of casual dating for possibly a decent relationship.

Thoughts are welcome. (and reference to "dregs" is because of something BekkaPoo posted on another thread, not meaning to be offensive but basically coming across that way; mostly like a "smug married" or someone happily coupled and a bit disdainful or pitying of the rest of us..)
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Old 10-16-2009, 01:34 AM   #2
 
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erm, I used to be on there... But I dont use them for dating so much as I use them for a social tool, so I cant say 100% how effective it is for the ol love life... I didnt dislike it. Like most of these things you fill out a few questionaires and it finds you your ideal matches, and you in turn pop up as the ideal match on similar profiles, but at the end of the day I think most people still just scroll down the page and look for the best photo or funniest profile. Since its free, its worth bunging a few words on it, but I tend to operate a number of these accounts at any one time, and I reccommend anyone else to do the same ;o) after all, its not really the profile that works the miracle in the end is it... its about being in the place HE is at the time he is there... so having several hooks in the sea is always better than one ;o)
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Old 10-16-2009, 06:57 AM   #3
 
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+1 on this question. I didn't have a lot of luck with eharmony so if I can give online dating another shot for free that would be cool.

If most of the responses are just looking for hookups then I'm not interested.
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Old 10-16-2009, 07:39 AM   #4
 
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My SIL is on Plenty of Fish. She's nearly 50 but gets too many responses from guys in their early 20's or over 60. She thinks it's because she's overweight and they're interested in "hooking up with the fat girl with low self-esteem (her words, not mine)." I read her profile and it could have been written to be a bit more flattering. I think the last sentence was something along the lines of "what you see is what you get." That said, I know of women who met their SO's through online dating sites, but not Plenty of Fish.
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It was just okay. I met one dullard, and one kook that way.

Some people really swear by online dating, though.
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Old 10-16-2009, 07:41 AM   #6
 
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I married someone I met on match.com and so did two of my friends. I haven't been on there lately but I would not dismiss that site as just a hook up place at all. I met lots of nice guys there who were genuinely looking for a relationship. Most recently I was on BlackPeopleMeet and I also had very good experiences there.

I think it comes down to your personal attitude and how discerning you are when you read the profiles and communicate w/ these men.

I don't have any experience w/ eharmony but I've heard from several people that it sucks. I have a friend who joined yahoopersonals last month and she said it has been pretty slow for her.

But you really can't go by what other people say (except in the case of eharmony b/c the format is totally different). And you should probably try to gear yourself up a little more b/c you haven't even joined and you already sound fed up and annoyed.
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Old 10-16-2009, 08:59 AM   #7
 
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My best friend is married to a man she met on Match.com and is still friends with some of the other men she met.

She went out on a lot of dates. The 1st one she went on, a lunch date, I went with her. Her date brought his cousin along, as well. My friend and her date didn't work out, but the cousin and I dated for 3 years.

I've been on Match, but didn't have much luck. The men my age look so OLD and I don't want to date younger men.

I recently registered at e-Harmony. I liked the fact that I was given my matches a little at a time. It wasn't so overwhelming. I did notice that 2 of my matches had the same profile, but different names. It made me suspicious, so I cancelled. I felt the company was just trying to get me to join and spend the $60.

A friend of mine likes to check out Classmates.com. One day she got an email from them saying that this guy was wanted to correspond with her. She ended up paying to join, so she could talk with him. He was an x-bf. Thru their conversations she found out that he hadn't tried to contact her. He had also gotten the same email from Classmates telling him she was wanting to contact him. I guess this was their way of getting them both to pay the money to join.
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Old 10-16-2009, 11:45 AM   #8
 
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Also check out OKCupid. Free, fun, and I have managed to avoid the crazies pretty well.
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I recently signed up on match (having not heard it was a hook up site). Sure, I've had to weed through a fair amount of weirdos via the site, but the two men that I've actually met have been very nice, and definitely not just looking to hook up.
I did POF a couple of years ago and ended up canceling my membership because some weirdo wouldn't leave me alone. All of those sites are going to have some wackadoos in the mix.
...just my $.02
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Old 10-16-2009, 01:40 PM   #10
 
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i never tried online dating but the thread title has me because i remember the original posting.
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Old 10-16-2009, 02:54 PM   #11
 
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I just joined okcupid and got winked at by my grandpa. I'll give it a week.
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I just joined okcupid and got winked at by my grandpa. I'll give it a week.
If all you give it is a week, then you aren't really giving it a chance. So what if some old man winked at you, ignore and move on. I get winked at by all kinds of people on there, doesn't bother me.
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Old 10-16-2009, 03:10 PM   #13
 
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Everything I've heard about Plenty of Fish (and I've heard a lot) leads me to believe that it actually is the dregs of the online dating world. There's no screening for emotional stability, and there's no fee. So, you get a ton of crazies who would be rejected by other dating sites.
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Old 10-16-2009, 03:32 PM   #14
 
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I saw the title of this thread and just assumed it was about lawyers.
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I just joined okcupid and got winked at by my grandpa. I'll give it a week.
If all you give it is a week, then you aren't really giving it a chance. So what if some old man winked at you, ignore and move on. I get winked at by all kinds of people on there, doesn't bother me.
You're right. I'm just not expecting much. I'll give it a month.

Go to my age group and let me know what you think.
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I don't know anybody that used plenty of fish, but I truly know at least a dozen people in real life who met and married people from match.com. My one friend who got married this past summer met her guy on Yahoo personals. These are all attractive, smart, cool people- not a bunch of weirdos (although YES they are there online--just as they are in every day life)
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Ha! Love this thread title.

I've given up on Yahoo and Match. I'm going to work on myself some right now. I'll try some of these other sites when I'm ready to jump back on the dating horse again.
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And you should probably try to gear yourself up a little more b/c you haven't even joined and you already sound fed up and annoyed.
You're right, I probably should put on the happy hat. But you're wrong that I don't have experience with these sites. I did match a while back and have done eharmony in a couple of cities. I've tried expensive services and even done speed dating a couple of times. Although I've met some men through all of these places, and some of them decent, nothing lasting has come of it. Eharmony is particularly frustrating because it can eat a lot of time going through all the stages of Q&A and then.... well, its a crapshoot.

Thanks everyone for all the great replies and input! Sounds like POF is iffy, and OkCupid might be ok. I really do think I must force myself to attend events and try to meet someone face-to-face. It forces me away from this computer and makes me mix it up a little. If that goes anywhere, I'll start another thread.
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Old 10-16-2009, 11:29 PM   #19
 
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my coworker uses match.
he goes out with the women he meets on match about 3 times a week.
he mostly has sex with them.
he's in his mid 20's, blonde haired, blue eyed and fairly good looking.
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