Official Facebook thread

[Nallia]

Originally Posted by medussa

Very good point! I shouldn't have used BIL's example because I totally meant to hide him.

But yes, I've hidden Farmville, Petville, Cafe World, etc... <-----sorry if I got the names wrong. But when I see one of those games/memes, I hide them, not the friend.

Me too. I have all of those games hidden and I have the applications blocked so people can't send me invitations for them anymore. I got so sick of them taking up my entire home page.

[Josephine]

Facebook really is the devil..just saw that my bf's best friend and wife are facebook friends with his ex so she's seen all our pics and all..and her profile is public (with bitter posts about love)...i know she wants to get back with him too..urgh! And I hate that her hair is just like mine! And I hate that I am reading her page! Dammit!

[reeni]

Thank-you all for all the tips. I checked my settings and had to change a lot of them. I thought I had already changed them, but I didn't go deep enough. You've been a big help.

[medussa]

Originally Posted by sew and sew

I've noticed that if I'm on a friend's profile and view a comment they posted to a friend...even if their friend is not a contact of mine, I can see their friend's status update to which my friend commented. However that same friend of theirs has their settings on 'friends only' as far as who can view their stuff.

Are you sure about this? I did a little digging around and it appears the people whose info you can see have it set to "friends of friends," not "friends only."

[wavycurly40+]

Originally Posted by medussa

Are you sure about this? I did a little digging around and it appears the people whose info you can see have it set to "friends of friends," not "friends only."

Yes, I think you may be right. I thought there was something wrong with MY privacy settings when one of my friends was reading what I wrote on somebody else's wall. But my privacy settings are not the issue -- it's my friends' privacy settings. But you do have to think twice about what you post. There are some things that I wouldn't want some friends to see, and even if they are not friends with one of my other friends, they might read what I post to that friend.

[medussa]

Originally Posted by wavycurly40+

Yes, I think you may be right. I thought there was something wrong with MY privacy settings when one of my friends was reading what I wrote on somebody else's wall. But my privacy settings are not the issue -- it's my friends' privacy settings. But you do have to think twice about what you post. There are some things that I wouldn't want some friends to see, and even if they are not friends with one of my other friends, they might read what I post to that friend.

So if your friend's privacy setting is set to "friends of friends," it overrides your "friends only," setting? All of her friends see your comments on her wall, even if they're not your friends? I guess that makes sense. Your comments are on her wall, which is her property, so to speak.

I use Facebook sort of like a message board. I primarily read people's status updates and comment. I rarely post my own status updates (because really, who cares what I ate for breakfast) and I rarely write on people's walls. I prefer to send private messages.

[Josephine]

Originally Posted by sew and sew

I've noticed that if I'm on a friend's profile and view a comment they posted to a friend...even if their friend is not a contact of mine, I can see their friend's status update to which my friend commented. However that same friend of theirs has their settings on 'friends only' as far as who can view their stuff.

Are you sure the status update didn't originate on your friend's wall?

[wild~hair]

Originally Posted by medussa

I rarely post my own status updates (because really, who cares what I ate for breakfast) and I rarely write on people's walls. I prefer to send private messages.

It's interesting — this is such a common perception of status updates. If any of my friends actually did anything like this with regularity, I would quickly have them on mute.

Status updates, at least amongst the people I know, are kind of like threads on this board: introducing a topic for discussion. So of course they can be about something simple like food. The most popular are the ones where the author thought ahead of time: "is this something people want to read about and then discuss?"

[medussa]

Originally Posted by wild~hair

It's interesting — this is such a common perception of status updates. If any of my friends actually did anything like this with regularity, I would quickly have them on mute.

I was being funny. I don't say a lot about myself, via status updates, on Facebook, and I'd rather not bore people with the more mundane things in my life.

I much prefer message boards for discussing topics and I also appreciate the anonymity of them.

[medussa]

Originally Posted by Josephine

Are you sure the status update didn't originate on your friend's wall?

I did a little test with my sister. I posted a status update and she responded. Then she had her friends (who I'm not FBF with) check her wall. There's not even a reference to her having replied to my status update. It's like I'm not even there. My privacy setting is "only friends."

[Spiralli]

Originally Posted by Nallia

On the top right, next to your name, click on Settings and then Privacy Settings. Then click on Profile Information. You can change it all in there. I have every setting set so only my friends can see.

What if I don't even want my friends to know what I'm a fan of? Is that an option? Seriously.

[Nallia]

Originally Posted by curls2grow

What if I don't even want my friends to know what I'm a fan of? Is that an option? Seriously.

If you go into the Profile Information section in Security Settings you will see Personal Info. If you open the drop down list you can select Customize and change it to "Only Me." That should hide your info tab from everyone.

ETA: Sorry, I just did a search in FB Help because I wasn't sure that would hide fan pages. I know it will hide any groups you are a member of. This is what FB has to say:

Can I hide the Pages I'm a fan of from my profile?

We currently do not allow users to hide the pages they are fans of from their friends. However, we plan to provide more robust privacy controls for Pages in the future.



http://www.facebook.com/editapps.php...elp/?faq=14900

[Josephine]

Originally Posted by medussa

I did a little test with my sister. I posted a status update and she responded. Then she had her friends (who I'm not FBF with) check her wall. There's not even a reference to her having replied to my status update. It's like I'm not even there. My privacy setting is "only friends."

Yea if someone comments on your wall it will not show up on his/her wall.

[sew and sew]

Originally Posted by medussa

I did a little test with my sister. I posted a status update and she responded. Then she had her friends (who I'm not FBF with) check her wall. There's not even a reference to her having replied to my status update. It's like I'm not even there. My privacy setting is "only friends."

Josephine- Yeah. The status update was from a person I'm not friends with.

Medusa - Interesting. I didn't know that if you are active on someone's wall that may not be reflected to everyone who has access to your wall. So if we were friends and I commented on your status, it wouldn't show up on my wall? That would be a link to you, and since your settings are "only friends," my friends that aren't your friends would be protected from seeing any action related to you. I will see that I responded to you, and if we had mutual friends, they would too.

It may be that my friend's friend had his privacy settings set to "friends of friends." All I know is that when I went to his page independently, it said he only shares some of his info with friends. His wall wasn't independently accessible.

[Spiralli]

Thank you, Nallia! I got all excited that it might be able to be done and saw that it doesn't. I will wait patiently and hope that this might get covered in their next round of privacy improvements.

[medussa]

Originally Posted by sew and sew

Josephine- Yeah. The status update was from a person I'm not friends with.

Medusa - Interesting. I didn't know that if you are active on someone's wall that may not be reflected to everyone who has access to your wall. So if we were friends and I commented on your status, it wouldn't show up on my wall? That would be a link to you, and since your settings are "only friends," my friends that aren't your friends would be protected from seeing any action related to you. I will see that I responded to you, and if we had mutual friends, they would too.

It may be that my friend's friend had his privacy settings set to "friends of friends." All I know is that when I went to his page independently, it said he only shares some of his info with friends. His wall wasn't independently accessible.

Yes, it would show up. But because I have my settings to "only friends," none of your friends would see what I wrote. The link would be to my limited profile page, not my wall.

I think this is the most likely explanation.

[Josephine]

Originally Posted by sew and sew

Josephine- Yeah. The status update was from a person I'm not friends with.

Medusa - Interesting. I didn't know that if you are active on someone's wall that may not be reflected to everyone who has access to your wall. So if we were friends and I commented on your status, it wouldn't show up on my wall? That would be a link to you, and since your settings are "only friends," my friends that aren't your friends would be protected from seeing any action related to you. I will see that I responded to you, and if we had mutual friends, they would too.

It may be that my friend's friend had his privacy settings set to "friends of friends." All I know is that when I went to his page independently, it said he only shares some of his info with friends. His wall wasn't independently accessible.

This is probably it or it's a bug and facebook is buggy so I don't trust it completely. Anything super confidiental is never put on facebook for me.

[wild~hair]

Originally Posted by Josephine

This is probably it or it's a bug and facebook is buggy so I don't trust it completely. Anything super confidiental is never put on facebook for me.

+1

Facebook is way buggy, people. Do not be relying on it to actually honor your privacy settings.

[afrosheenqueen]

Is there a way to approve photos before they are posted on FB? Just in case some posts a revenge photo of you that's posted for 8 hours while your at work. By the time you get to untag yourself the damage is done.

[murrrcat]

Originally Posted by afrosheenqueen

Is there a way to approve photos before they are posted on FB? Just in case some posts a revenge photo of you that's posted for 8 hours while your at work. By the time you get to untag yourself the damage is done.

no i wish there was. I hate cameras for this reason alone. I swear thats all my roommate does is take pictures of me at my worst so she can post them and embarrass me. Its like I already have enough self conscious issues and I can't even stand looking in the mirror sometimes and I only have like 2 photos i actually like on face book and then you tag me in a million ugly ones!