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I know it's a month away, but...

I'm surprised there are people here who still think it's all about the costumes.

It's not about the costumes.
Originally Posted by Peppy

I totally agree.
I used to have a signature but it disappeared and I just couldn't be bothered writing another so please feel free to ingore this.
I'm surprised there are people here who still think it's all about the costumes.

It's not about the costumes.
Originally Posted by Peppy

I totally agree.
Originally Posted by CGE
I just don't think some people have read the whole thread. Or any other threads for that matter.
Can someone point me in the direction of these sexually explicit threads? My search hasnt turned any up.
Can someone point me in the direction of these sexually explicit threads? My search hasnt turned any up.
Originally Posted by smoke in your eyes
You could click on the user-id and the "show all posts" option. That'd give you an idea of what percentage is devoted to sex, though it has calmed down a little since being called on it.
I'm surprised there are people here who still think it's all about the costumes.

It's not about the costumes.
Originally Posted by Peppy

I totally agree.
Originally Posted by CGE
I just don't think some people have read the whole thread. Or any other threads for that matter.
Originally Posted by Peppy
For, me, it all intertwines. Style of dress, style of posts, topics etc all can relate. I only spoke to the sub-issue of dress in a young woman, but it just as easily be the same issues if I were discussing the average myspace page of the average young woman.
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It wasn't directed at you

But, thanks for the reply! More to the mix is good!

There are certain people, like Mariah Carey, who get on my nerves for the inability to cover up when needed. But, as a whole, I figure that if a woman want to dress like a skank 24/7, (not directed at anyone in particular) she may as well. No advice from me about how a man might treat her is going to do much good. Like it or not, in the US, women who dress more provacatively do seem to get more positive feedback from men. Perhaps less respect, but more positive feedback. I was just as bad in my twenties, and no one could tell me any differently. At 37, I know better now, but there are still tough societal issues to deal with. I can bet that at many Halloween parties frequented by young women, the costumes in the OP would be common and not shocking. Boring maybe since everyone does it, but not shocking. Young modest women just aren't as valued as young women who are willing to show some skin.

I am so glad not to be in my twenties anymore - partly because of this.

It's an issue that won't go away by lecturing those who do it though. it just goes too deeply.

I still think that women are harder on their own than guys are though. I am always far more on guard around other women than I am with men.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
Great post - I wanted to comment regarding the 'positive feedback' from men... I think a lot of girls see any attention from men as 'positive feedback', but having had LOTS of male friends, I can tell you that they all just shred to pieces the girls that dress like that regularly or use Halloween as an excuse to just put on slutty outfit and call it a costume. Of course it gets you attention from men, but for the most part they are just trying to get in your pants and then they will rip you apart behind your back to all their friends. I can't really understand why girls would want that kind of 'positive' feedback.
I haven't got the slightest idea how to change people, but I still keep a long list of prospective candidates just in case I should ever figure it out.
Great post - I wanted to comment regarding the 'positive feedback' from men... I think a lot of girls see any attention from men as 'positive feedback', but having had LOTS of male friends, I can tell you that they all just shred to pieces the girls that dress like that regularly or use Halloween as an excuse to just put on slutty outfit and call it a costume. Of course it gets you attention from men, but for the most part they are just trying to get in your pants and then they will rip you apart behind your back to all their friends. I can't really understand why girls would want that kind of 'positive' feedback.
Originally Posted by rileyb
Exactly.
I'm surprised there are people here who still think it's all about the costumes.

It's not about the costumes.
Originally Posted by Peppy

I totally agree.
Originally Posted by CGE
I just don't think some people have read the whole thread. Or any other threads for that matter.
Originally Posted by Peppy
For, me, it all intertwines. Style of dress, style of posts, topics etc all can relate. I only spoke to the sub-issue of dress in a young woman, but it just as easily be the same issues if I were discussing the average myspace page of the average young woman.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
This is what I have been trying to say as well.
I see A LOT of sex posts by a LOT of posters, at least they are to me, and I never thought I was a prude, but maybe I am (the horror!)
I see A LOT of sex posts by a LOT of posters, at least they are to me, and I never thought I was a prude, but maybe I am (the horror!)
Originally Posted by smoke in your eyes
LOL.

I thought the same thing...but I KNOW I am not a prude. I just don't need to advertise. LOL.
I don't see anything wrong with dressing a little sexy on halloween provided you are not under 21.
If there were more people on earth who desired their own happiness more than the unhappiness of others we would have a paradise ~ Bertrand Russell
I don't see anything wrong with dressing a little sexy on halloween provided you are not under 21.
Originally Posted by KatieCoolLady
I don't either. Add a bunch of other stuff to it though and it's a different story.
I see A LOT of sex posts by a LOT of posters, at least they are to me, and I never thought I was a prude, but maybe I am (the horror!)
Originally Posted by smoke in your eyes
LOL.

I thought the same thing...but I KNOW I am not a prude. I just don't need to advertise. LOL.
Originally Posted by M2LR & Co.
Exactly!!!!!
Great post - I wanted to comment regarding the 'positive feedback' from men... I think a lot of girls see any attention from men as 'positive feedback', but having had LOTS of male friends, I can tell you that they all just shred to pieces the girls that dress like that regularly or use Halloween as an excuse to just put on slutty outfit and call it a costume. Of course it gets you attention from men, but for the most part they are just trying to get in your pants and then they will rip you apart behind your back to all their friends. I can't really understand why girls would want that kind of 'positive' feedback.
Originally Posted by rileyb
Exactly.
Originally Posted by internetchick
This is true too, but I don't think that some see that aspect. Or, even a positive feedback to your face with scathing remarks behind your back can be seen as better than being ignored all together. On a woman-to-woman competitive issue as well, some will go for the feedback just to get more male attention than other women. I guess that sometimes we just don't get beyond our biology.
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I get the feeling that some want the attention at all costs. Who cares if you lose your dignity, respect, self-worth, etc.

With age comes wisdom and with wisdom comes knowing that you don't have to show your goodies to get the guys attention. The last time I dressed up for Halloween (many moons ago) I went as a nurse, and not a naughty nurse, I had on full scrubs, stethescope, etc. and still got laid that night.
I used to have a signature but it disappeared and I just couldn't be bothered writing another so please feel free to ingore this.
The last time I dressed up for Halloween (many moons ago) I went as a nurse, and not a naughty nurse, I had on full scrubs, stethescope, etc. and still got laid that night.
Originally Posted by CGE
i should do that this year, a nurse :P
I get the feeling that some want the attention at all costs. Who cares if you lose your dignity, respect, self-worth, etc.

With age comes wisdom and with wisdom comes knowing that you don't have to show your goodies to get the guys attention. The last time I dressed up for Halloween (many moons ago) I went as a nurse, and not a naughty nurse, I had on full scrubs, stethescope, etc. and still got laid that night.
Originally Posted by CGE
See, I'm not going to get laid at all that night.
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I haven't dressed up in ages...
It wasn't directed at you

But, thanks for the reply! More to the mix is good!

There are certain people, like Mariah Carey, who get on my nerves for the inability to cover up when needed. But, as a whole, I figure that if a woman want to dress like a skank 24/7, (not directed at anyone in particular) she may as well. No advice from me about how a man might treat her is going to do much good. Like it or not, in the US, women who dress more provacatively do seem to get more positive feedback from men. Perhaps less respect, but more positive feedback. I was just as bad in my twenties, and no one could tell me any differently. At 37, I know better now, but there are still tough societal issues to deal with. I can bet that at many Halloween parties frequented by young women, the costumes in the OP would be common and not shocking. Boring maybe since everyone does it, but not shocking. Young modest women just aren't as valued as young women who are willing to show some skin.

I am so glad not to be in my twenties anymore - partly because of this.

It's an issue that won't go away by lecturing those who do it though. it just goes too deeply.

I still think that women are harder on their own than guys are though. I am always far more on guard around other women than I am with men.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
Great post - I wanted to comment regarding the 'positive feedback' from men... I think a lot of girls see any attention from men as 'positive feedback', but having had LOTS of male friends, I can tell you that they all just shred to pieces the girls that dress like that regularly or use Halloween as an excuse to just put on slutty outfit and call it a costume. Of course it gets you attention from men, but for the most part they are just trying to get in your pants and then they will rip you apart behind your back to all their friends. I can't really understand why girls would want that kind of 'positive' feedback.
Originally Posted by rileyb
This is a little OT, but why would you want friends like those guys? Someone that would make mean remarks about the girl yet sleep with her - sounds hypocritical and says a lot about his character. Women, no matter what they dress like, don't deserve that treatment. Why would you hang around men like that? I don't know any who would behave that way, and I'm in my 20's - well maybe I did in high school.

Yes, I think that women who wear the tight and revealing clothing look a little foolish, but I don't make judgments on their personal character based upon appearance. I actually haven't seen many women past their late teens/early 20's that dress this way. I wear form-fitting shirts and stretch jeans on occasion - I hope that means men aren't making scathing remarks behind my back, but if it does, they're just jerks whose opinions are meaningless. I see college-aged women in more revealing stuff than we were wearing to school just a few years ago, but part of it is pressure from society. They feel they have to dress like that for men - it's really still a very sexist society that we're living in. You're taught that the best way to get to the top is to entice the men at work, yet the women who do aren't treated seriously and often end up failing. I have enough integrity and respect to dress conservatively and act professionally, but many young women don't. I pity them, and they certainly don't deserve to be treated badly by anyone, especially men, who are really the ones behind the whole problem.
This is a little OT, but why would you want friends like those guys? Someone that would make mean remarks about the girl yet sleep with her - sounds hypocritical and says a lot about his character.
I agree. We seem to have lower standards for men then we do for our women friends.
If there were more people on earth who desired their own happiness more than the unhappiness of others we would have a paradise ~ Bertrand Russell

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