Impotence and older men

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How many of you have encountered men who were impotent or suffering from ED? What ages were these men?
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Men of any age can have ED, especially if it is medication related. Many men who are diabetic and/or who have heart disease, will have erectile challenges; and men whose testosterone is low will also. So this probably doesnt help you, because it can be a physical cause, or an emotional one (though this is rare, but anxiety and/or depression can certainly impact the libido). I would say if it is a health related problem, it is most likely to appear in men in their 50's or older.
^ Very true. Medication plays a large part, and it hits those with diabetes and heart problems more often. Beta Blockers are well known to cause ED and many are on them for high blood pressure. Some anti depressants do the same. Several people just experience temporary effects but those with conditions can often experience long term changes.

I do not know as much about the emotional side of things. I do know it happens. I know some men honestly do not care much for sex, for a number of reasons, and need help in that department while others simply can't do as they wish.
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For some reason my dad felt comfortable enough to tell me about his problems. Not in great detail. Just that beta blockers had initially caused the problem in his 40's and diabetes had taken away all chances of hope. Very strange conversation for him. He was not big on sex talks with his daughter in any shape, form or fashion. "If you get pregnant, don't come home", was all I had heard until that point. He was having a bad day and in the frame of mind that my mother should have left him a long time ago. I wanted nothing more than to

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But I decided to be an adult and lend my ear. Rather sad. It hit him young and could not be helped. My mom was aware of this.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Yah, ya know, he's your dad and all, but I would have had the same reaction - I basically think that sexual matters between parents and children - even adult children - are mostly off limits. Most of us think our parents never had sex, ever - despite the fact that we are here as evidence of their sexual activity, but no, we were immaculately conceived.
^ Exactly. I don't want to know. I want to awkwardly run away like Napoleon Dynamite.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I think that was very wrong of your father.
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For some reason my dad felt comfortable enough to tell me about his problems. Not in great detail. Just that beta blockers had initially caused the problem in his 40's and diabetes had taken away all chances of hope. Very strange conversation for him. He was not big on sex talks with his daughter in any shape, form or fashion. "If you get pregnant, don't come home", was all I had heard until that point. He was having a bad day and in the frame of mind that my mother should have left him a long time ago. I wanted nothing more than to

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But I decided to be an adult and lend my ear. Rather sad. It hit him young and could not be helped. My mom was aware of this.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
Awww that's sad. Was he married when all of this happened? Can the ability ever come back if he's able to get his health back in order?

So when youung and middle aged men develop ED due to medications, do they still have the psychological desire but no way to physically take the edge off? Or do they wind up having spontaneous wet dreams? Or does the horniness just go away?
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I think that was very wrong of your father.
Originally Posted by curlypearl
It was.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Awww, I feel bad for your father, Fifi. Was he married at the time this all happened?

So what happens when young or middle aged men develop ED die to medications? Do they still have the psychological desire but just can't crank it up? So they have no way to relieve that pressure? Or they just have spontanous wet dreams? They're horny but they can't take the edge off?
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Yes, he was. He and my mom married in their late 20's, he was diagnosed with high bp in his 20's and with diabetes in his early 30's. I don't know all the details (other than the fact that my mom apparently had a very high sex drive which made me think... so that's where I got it from. thank you, mom but I do think this happened in his early 40's. This being nothing. Nada. Urge there but the body would no longer function. Counter medications won't help in numerous situations like that either. It really messed with him, but several things did and he would not take care of himself as a result. He was very angry. My mom is the most laid back and calm woman you could meet. She is very considerate and understanding. From what I know she never made a big deal about it.
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So burning w/ desire but no way to relieve it? Like a person starving to death and no mouth to put food into? Seems like that would drive a person into madness...very quickly.
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I personally know someone who just turned 20 and he suffers from ED sometimes. He has diabetes. Been having it for about 9 yrs now. It can be any age, as said above, especially if theres an underlying illness. Men over 45-50 can start to get it naturally though due to aging, diet, health, etc.
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Not every man that gets old though, i wanted to add. Just some do and some dont.
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I recently dated an older man (80--I am 62). He was impotent--could not get or maintain an erection--but was still VERY interested in sex. He wanted to talk about it, look at Playboy, see me naked, touch me, etc. Somehow I had expected that since he couldn't "perform" he would not want to "go there". I was oh so wrong. In fact it was like being with a teenage boy who could not keep his hands to himself! He was more than willing to give me lots of attention in bed, but it was very awkward, and the age difference was a problem too.

Apparently, he could satisfy himself to some degree, but he said it was not the same as when he was younger. Very sad and frustrating for him.

I don't know what this adds to the discussion, but was just a recent experience. We are not seeing each other anymore. He wanted more of my time and attention than I was willing to give.
I recently dated an older man (80--I am 62). He was impotent--could not get or maintain an erection--but was still VERY interested in sex. He wanted to talk about it, look at Playboy, see me naked, touch me, etc. Somehow I had expected that since he couldn't "perform" he would not want to "go there". I was oh so wrong. In fact it was like being with a teenage boy who could not keep his hands to himself! He was more than willing to give me lots of attention in bed, but it was very awkward, and the age difference was a problem too.

Apparently, he could satisfy himself to some degree, but he said it was not the same as when he was younger. Very sad and frustrating for him.

I don't know what this adds to the discussion, but was just a recent experience. We are not seeing each other anymore. He wanted more of my time and attention than I was willing to give.
Originally Posted by JackieJoe
OMG! I guess this explains High Hefner wanting all those young, scantily-clad women around, even as he approaches 90 yrs of age! Same w/ the old, feeble centegenarian types who marry the likes of Anna Nicole Smith, etc.

Yeah, I would not have thought the average 80 y/o man would still be interested in all that...assumed they dated just for the nonsexual companionship.

I'm wondering, tho, when the average healthy married man starts to experience ED. And is it just an occasional, intermittent problem at first?
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You got me curious, spiderlashes5000. Googling the average age of onset of ED led me to this article on webmd:

Erectile Dysfunction Common With Age

I had no idea that it was such a widespread problem. Guess my husband and I have been lucky so far!!
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You got me curious, spiderlashes5000. Googling the average age of onset of ED led me to this article on webmd:

Erectile Dysfunction Common With Age

I had no idea that it was such a widespread problem. Guess my husband and I have been lucky so far!!
Originally Posted by 2poodles
Yes!

Do you think sex would be the same for you if you knew he had to take Viagra beforehand? Hypothetically. Would it seem less fun? More?
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Good question. I've never really thought about it. It would take some advance planning and we'd sacrifice some spontaneity....But, as long as I didn't feel like the impotence was due to a lack of interest/attraction, I suppose I'd be okay with it. I'd probably have to wrap my head around that a bit first.
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A few weeks ago I was having a conversation with a colleague who lives with her son and his young family, she was telling me (why, I don't know) that things are not good at home, that her son and his wife have not had sex since their daughter was conceived (she'll be four in May) and he had recently been to the dr as he now had erectile problems, in a 'use it or lose it' way. I think he's about 40.
More than anything I was quite taken aback that she has conversations like that with her son, I felt quite uncomfortable, but maybe that's the prude in me. And ot here.
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