Dating After 40......

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I think you're right, DSG; why not have it on your terms? If you can get it, go for it!
i hate being single. but i've never had a relationship make it to the 2-year mark, so there's got to be something awfully wrong with me. it's the only explanation i can come up with...
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i hate being single. but i've never had a relationship make it to the 2-year mark, so there's got to be something awfully wrong with me. it's the only explanation i can come up with...
Originally Posted by rouquinne
I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I find I start losing interest around the 2 year mark. I don't feel I change so much as the men I am seeing do. It's like their true selves come out. I hate that I have to waste 2 years on Mr Wrong, because he is trying to act like Mr Right.
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I do agree that things get duller, whether at two years or five. Supposedly this marks the transition from "romantic" love to "companionable" love.

I think it takes work to keep things interesting, and, well.....work is work. It's hard! I think we also expect more than previous generations of women, in mostly good ways, but perhaps some that are less good? I wonder sometimes how realistic modern expectations of love are, and I certainly include my own in that description.

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I haven't had the problem of the relationship getting past the sex to the comfort zone in 2 years. The problem I have had is with the man thinking at this point he can tell me what to do. If I want to spend time with my friends then he needs to be accepting of that. How I spend my money is my own business. If I wake up on a Sunday morning & want to drink a beer with my breakfast, then it's my business. If I want to spend a weekend without him, it doesn't mean I don't care about him. Bossy, clingy just doesn't appeal to me. At my age, sex is not on the top of my priority list, but my having my own identity is.
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AI'd prefer someone who is already a grandfather or wanting to be one. I just don't want to date someone in his 70's.
Originally Posted by g-stringranny
i am married to a 72 yr old and there certainly are issues, but one nice thing is that i never feel insecure about getting older (i am 5 and i am his "trophy wife" (this is pretty funny since i am always in the woods and dress accordingly). we love each other very much and i am a "virgin grandmother" with 5 stepgrandkids. so i would not date just any 70 yr old but it all depends on the guy.
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I know a 73 yr old man who is being very persistant. If he had money I might go out with him. I would feel too much that I was dating my Dad. My Mom is 76. I don't want to be a "trophy wife."
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I know a 73 yr old man who is being very persistant. If he had money I might go out with him. I would feel too much that I was dating my Dad. My Mom is 76. I don't want to be a "trophy wife."
Originally Posted by g-stringranny
well i hope you realize i am a bit tongue in cheek about the trophy wife thing. i love my husband and he loves me, we're married 16 yrs now. if a guy is being real persistent despite your clear signals to back off, this is trouble. sometimes women are indirect bc they do not want to be rude but this is a mistake. most men don't "get it" till you hit them over the head with a 2X4.
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I'm sorry if I came off as criticizing you. I feel I've been pretty direct with the older gentleman. I told him I wished my Mom lived out here, so they could go out. He said he wished he had never told me his age, like I couldn't tell.
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