A couple of weeks ago, the unthinkable happened. My daughter, age 7, told me that one of her friends on the bus saw me hugging and her and thought I was her grandmother
. I was crushed. I assumed it was because I'd been lazy and hadn't put my contacts in before walking my kids to the bus. My glasses are several years old and don't flatter me at all.
A week or so later, I tried straightening my hair. The results haven't been perfect, maybe because I need a better flat iron and/or I just don't have the technique down yet, but I was happy enough to keep doing it. I've been straightening it for the past several days.
This morning, I was again feeling lazy about my contacts and saying I needed to go put them in to avoid the "grandma" comments. My daughter said, "It's ok, mom, now that your hair looks normal!"
Maybe I'm letting seven-year-olds run my life, but I have to admit that I instantly feel younger and less dated without my curls and the frizz that inevitably creeps in, particularly when there is high humidity. (I live in the south, and high humidity is pretty much a given.)
The other benefit to straightening is that I don't get bedhead the way I do when I let my hair curl. Even when I'm having a great hair day with curls, sleeping inevitably destroys them. I wake up with frizz and horrible bedhead. Now, even though my hair doesn't look perfect after I sleep on it, it's not frizzy when I wake up, and it can look passable with a quick combing. I don't feel I have to shower and re-do my hair to be seen in public. That is the "normal" kind of hair I've always wished for!
I feel a bit guilty about not embracing my curls, but for all the time I've spent here and all the money I've spent on hair products and haircuts, my hair still looked like crap 90% of the time.
Maybe I'll go curly again when I really am
Or maybe not. Even my mother-in-law, who is 75, thinks my hair looks better when it's straight.