I'm a straight with a curly daughter...

mandi828 · 04-20-2011, 10:47 AM

Hi all!! I am new to this, so stay with me please...

Ok... So I have a 5 year old daughter from what I can tell, she is a 3b underneath, 2c in the middle, 3c on the sides and 4a up top. Her 3b curls are gorgeous, but those sit underneath the rest of her hair, which is my problem. She is biracial, so we don't wash every day, and I have recently started cowashing, and a moisture treatment after, with a full wash once a week. Her hair is dry, and it's coarse in the 2c and 3c areas, and of course she has fly-aways. Ladies... I have tried everything (at least it feels that way), I have an entire shelf of products that have done nothing for her hair. I need a regimen that will help me get her beautiful curls all over, so she doesn't have to wear her hair up all the time.

I just purchased the Argan Oil line from Sally's. The shampoo, conditioner, hydrating mask, curl cream and styling cream, and oil treatment. So far, results have been less than the last product line I purchased, which was the Silk Elements Mixed Silk line and the SE MegaSilk Moisture Treatment. I was also using Cantu's Shea Leave-in. There is a list a mile long of things I tried before those, so we'll just leave it at that..

I have considered ordering the Mixed Chicks line, but with not so great results from the generic version, I'm not to eager to any more, maybe I'm wrong? I did just order the Curl Perfection Starter Kit from Carol's Daughter with the Hair Milk Shampoo, Conditioner, Original, Lite and Healthy Hair butter. I also threw in "Some of Marguerites Magic". The reviews I read before I ordered it were great, now that I ordered it, I'm seeing nothing but negative feedback... Any suggestions? I have to comb her hair every day, her hair is more like mine, I am hispanic, just lacks the moisture like her SD's. Also, when her hair dries, it poofs straight out like a lion mane, there is no weight to her hair at all, so any suggestions for that is welcomed!

So I'm looking for some help on a routine, do I use gel or hairspray to set it, how to keep it at night, how to keep it moisturized and how to get her curls poppin!!

Any help is appreciated!!!

KandyLandKurls · 04-24-2011, 09:39 PM

It seems as though you have tried several products which are pretty good, Mixed Chicks sells samples for 99 cents so I would try that first before ordering. Do you seal the moisturizers with an oil? ex.coconut,olive etc? This will help keep the moisture in her hair. To avoid her hair poofing out, do you braid or twist it at night, and then have her wear her hair out?

Here is my daughters current routine:
-Wash once a week with a sulfate free shampoo and have a protein treatment as needed.
- Always use a conditioner after every wash.
- Use a moistuizer daily, then seal with coconut oil.
- At night, put hair into 4 braids to stop the tangling. Then have her sleep with a sleeping cap.
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Saila · 04-24-2011, 09:57 PM

Wait. How are you combing her hair? what kind of brush or comb? Wet or dry?

amandak23k · 04-27-2011, 09:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mandi828

Hi all!! I am new to this, so stay with me please...

Ok... So I have a 5 year old daughter from what I can tell, she is a 3b underneath, 2c in the middle, 3c on the sides and 4a up top. Her 3b curls are gorgeous, but those sit underneath the rest of her hair, which is my problem. She is biracial, so we don't wash every day, and I have recently started cowashing, and a moisture treatment after, with a full wash once a week. Her hair is dry, and it's coarse in the 2c and 3c areas, and of course she has fly-aways. Ladies... I have tried everything (at least it feels that way), I have an entire shelf of products that have done nothing for her hair. I need a regimen that will help me get her beautiful curls all over, so she doesn't have to wear her hair up all the time.

I just purchased the Argan Oil line from Sally's. The shampoo, conditioner, hydrating mask, curl cream and styling cream, and oil treatment. So far, results have been less than the last product line I purchased, which was the Silk Elements Mixed Silk line and the SE MegaSilk Moisture Treatment. I was also using Cantu's Shea Leave-in. There is a list a mile long of things I tried before those, so we'll just leave it at that..

I have considered ordering the Mixed Chicks line, but with not so great results from the generic version, I'm not to eager to any more, maybe I'm wrong? I did just order the Curl Perfection Starter Kit from Carol's Daughter with the Hair Milk Shampoo, Conditioner, Original, Lite and Healthy Hair butter. I also threw in "Some of Marguerites Magic". The reviews I read before I ordered it were great, now that I ordered it, I'm seeing nothing but negative feedback... Any suggestions? I have to comb her hair every day, her hair is more like mine, I am hispanic, just lacks the moisture like her SD's. Also, when her hair dries, it poofs straight out like a lion mane, there is no weight to her hair at all, so any suggestions for that is welcomed!

So I'm looking for some help on a routine, do I use gel or hairspray to set it, how to keep it at night, how to keep it moisturized and how to get her curls poppin!!

Any help is appreciated!!!

I'm in the same boat as you are. I have tried several different products to but hair is still frizzy. Check out tightlycurly.com I have tried this method with my daughters a couple times with good results. I have never had any luck with gel or hairspray in my girls hair.

curlsinbloom · 04-28-2011, 08:52 AM

I would use gel instead of hairspray. I really like Kinky Curly Knot Today. It really dentangles the hair out. Plus, I would use natural oils in her hair like coconut oil, shea butter, etc. Comb those products in the hair.

Hair spray might work from some but hairspray usually leaves my hair coated and tangled.

RingletTeenLove · 04-29-2011, 11:07 AM

Im a curly teen. I have a niece who has the similar hair and we bought a book call Kinky,Curly,Wavy. O my gosh. After reading the book we learnd so much. I sugest you purchase it. It can be found at your local barnes and noble and its truly for children of color and biracial children. I use thee products when i do my neices hair
Poo: Just For Me hair milk (found most placess) makes her hair so soft and manageable no tangle
Condish:Just for Me hair milk condish i use it as a deep condishioner and let her walk around for about 25 min with a plastic cap on
CO WASH: its very important to co wash in between washes. I use Root Stimulator Olive Oil Deep Condish
Style: I spray her hair with Aussie Sprunch and then I put in Kinky-Curly Curling Custard. Her hair has to be soaked. Now just scrunch lightly and us a diffuser if nessacary
HOPE I HELPED

Shrill · 05-17-2011, 12:51 PM

My daughter's hair doesn't sound much like what you are dealing with (she has about 3 or 4 different types of hair: straight at the back underneath, loose curls on top of that at the back and then 3b? ringlets at the front and sides).

But my best advice to you as someone who isn't curly yourself is to take her in for a haircut at a curly salon. That's what I did. The haircut made a HUGE difference to the ease of looking after the hair and the stylist gave me ideas of products/ routine especially for my daughter. It cost maybe $10 more than a kid's salon but I didn't need to take her back for 6 months and I think it was worth it.

Our routine:
Nightly baths are part of going to bed, so each night we rinse her hair and apply a leave in conditioner. The first conditioner we used was Kinky Kurly Knot Today which worked wonderfully but then we ran out and I wasn't near the salon so now we are using Ouidad Krly Kids. It is good too especially as we get into spring. I think the Knot Today was better for her in the dry winter air. 2x a week we wash with a very small amount of shampoo from the hair salon that we are STILL using a whole year later (with a ton still in the tiny bottle). I can't recall the kind but it is organic and an adult shampoo...the bottle kind of looks like a wine bottle.

After her bath, we towel dry and run our fingers through her hair and scrunch a tiny bit. We let it air dry and it is very fine so usually is pretty much dry when she gets into bed about 45 minutes later. When she wakes up in the morning/ after a nap, she generally has lots of tangles: we spray with a detangler that we made using her leave in conditioner just mixed with tap water (stylist's idea). Then again use our fingers to remove tangles/ scrunch. We never use a brush or comb on her.

Hope that helps.

generosityt · 05-19-2011, 10:40 PM

I kind of disagree with the previous post. You don't have to cut her hair to make it look good or to make caring for it easier. Also usually regular hair stylists will advice you with products full of silicones and chemicals.
I think limiting the shampoo and moisturizing regularly will make a big difference on her hair. I also second the braids idea, they will protect her hair and make it look awesome in the morning when you un-braid it.

subbrock · 05-20-2011, 01:32 AM

And now I'm going to disagree with the previous post

You don't HAVE to cut her hair to make it easier to deal with, but sometimes that really is all you need. I find that I do the most struggling with my DD's hair when it reaches waist length stretched. After she gets it cut to mid back length things are so much easier.

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KandyLandKurls · 05-25-2011, 08:38 PM

And now Im going to disagree with the previous poster!

Im joking LOL
but I have heard that when some people get their hair trimmed, it does help with detangling. But it isn't necessary, a good balance of moisture and protein will make a difference in the overall health in your hair.