Help with my son's curly hair

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He is 20 and lazy so I need to find the easiest way to care for it and the best products that macho man might use. If I start busting out a bunch of product he will tune out and not follow through. But left alone it will mat like a cocker spaniel in the back from sleeping and we have to shave it all off and start over. I want to define the curls and soften the texture. Make it easier to comb and wash. It's almost impossible to even get his hair wet, it's like a water dog. Washing it is really difficult and rinsing even more so. When we shave his hair off you can see how bad the build up is of dried shampoo and such on his scalp, looks like dandruff. It's nasty. HELP!!
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What products has he been currently using? It'd also be great if you could tell us about his hair... are the strands thick, thin or medium? It sounds like he has low /normal porosity? Does it take a long time to both wet and dry?
I agree, it would help to know what he's using. Does he use conditioner? He could use some, then put a bit of the same conditioner back in his hair as a leave-in. That could help with tangles. So would a satin pillow case. Also, most hair matting can be gently pulled apart by saturating it with water and conditioner, then using your fingers/a wide tooth comb to pull it out. He really needs to be scrubbing his scalp when he showers. He has thick hair, so he needs to be digging his fingers in there, rubbing up and down his scalp, then thoroughly rinsing. Follow that up with conditioner which he also rinses out. While the conditioner is in his hair, he can detangle with a wide tooth comb. He should only detangle while conditioner is in his wet hair. Don't do it when it's dry, because that just makes curly hair frizzy and I feel like it tangles up right after you comb it. Adding conditioner to his routine should make his hair softer and easier to work with.

I don't think shampooing, conditioning, and combing are that bad product wise. I'm envisioning a routine like this: He shampoos at the beginning of his shower, rinses that out, runs conditioner through while finger detangling/combing it in, then washes the rest of his body to give the conditioner time to work. He rinses the conditioner out completely, then he adds a dime/nickle size amount back into his hair to make it feel a bit slick. He uses a towel or cloth to scrunch water out of his hair. With this routine, I'm assuming that he likes the way it curls so he isn't going to be using styling products to manipulate it.

Tresseme Naturals and Yes to Carrots/Cucumbers have pretty gender neutral packaging and smells. You could try Suave Naturals too, but they're not as moisturizing as the other two. He's 20 though, so I don't really get why he would be worried about how manly he looks. Like, I don't know how he is, but me and my brother are 22. My brother pretty much just uses whatever's in the shower. It doesn't have to be macho or anything, because 20 year olds aren't trying to put up a false bravado in the same way insecure high school kids would.
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Fine Texture, Normal Porosity, Normal Elasticity. Dyed to brown a few months ago.
Lowpoo:
Trader Joe's TTT Shampoo
Rinse Out:
Yes to Carrots, AOHR, Aubrey Organics Rosemary Peppermint
LI: Yes to Carrots
Stylers: Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie, LA Looks Sports, Suave Professionals Captivating Curls Whipped Mousse

Last edited by rainboe; 04-02-2013 at 10:58 PM.
My fiancée Steven is very similar, he hates doing too much to his hair but also hates when it gets itchy because of build up/dandruff/dirt etc. I found that if I can get him to Cowash every few days with suave coconut and really scrub his scalp and detangle thats the only thing he really needs to do, just rinse that out and maybe put a little back in as a leave in. If I get really lucky I can get him to do a rinse out conditioner but since his hair is mid length and has a pretty strong curl pattern he doesn't need to have styling products to speak of. HTH
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2a no product/2b-c styled
Low Porosity, Fine
No poo-SM
Co wash-VO5 kiwi lime*
Rinse out- ION EC
Leave in - Giovanni Direct then SM smoothie (ends only)
Stylers-SM souffle topped with BRHG*

Hair hates: glycerin (high dews here in TX)
Hair likes: Coconut Oil*, protein

*=HG
+1-ing Rainboe and just adding: his hair looks beautiful. I mean frizzy, yes, but it's really nice. And it's great that he's not afraid to grow it out a bit and be a curly man. So maybe if you tell him random ladies think his hair looks cool, he'll take better care of it?

Who knows, maybe he might like co-washing (as long as he really gets down to the scalp) because it's just one product, no shampoo to fuss around with?
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Hair: curlybob, fine, dense, low-po, big waves/ringlets (2C/3A)
Co-Wash: Nature's Gate Herbal Conditioner
RO: YTC Carrot, Aubrey Organics GPB
LI: BS Shea Soft Styling Cream (HG)
Styling: KCCC, Garnier P&C Gel
1xWeek: low-poo, gelatin PT or Joico K-Pak
Hair Likes: aloe, coconut oil, humidity, protein, long walks on the beach
+1-ing Rainboe and just adding: his hair looks beautiful. I mean frizzy, yes, but it's really nice. And it's great that he's not afraid to grow it out a bit and be a curly man. So maybe if you tell him random ladies think his hair looks cool, he'll take better care of it?

Who knows, maybe he might like co-washing (as long as he really gets down to the scalp) because it's just one product, no shampoo to fuss around with?
Originally Posted by bosanbo
Yeah, I agree with all this. His hair is really nice looking. And co-washing might be a good solution because if he's only using a cone-free conditioner that would be pretty easy to do.
Fine Texture, Normal Porosity, Normal Elasticity. Dyed to brown a few months ago.
Lowpoo:
Trader Joe's TTT Shampoo
Rinse Out:
Yes to Carrots, AOHR, Aubrey Organics Rosemary Peppermint
LI: Yes to Carrots
Stylers: Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie, LA Looks Sports, Suave Professionals Captivating Curls Whipped Mousse
Thank you guys for the input. I will try your suggestions. I will get him a satin pillowcase as well, i always knew I needed to do that honestly. A lot of the problem is motivating a young man to take better care of himself and try a little harder. I'm hoping if he follows these suggestions, especially the picking it out in the shower with some conditioner, I think that sounds like a great idea. I didn't realize we could possibly get the mats out with water and conditioner and patience. He knows the ladies love his hair, haha.My hope also is that if he does take better care of it and make it always look as beautiful as it can be then maybe more employers will not turn him down.

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