4a 4b toddler hair HELP!!!

lovingmycurls01 · 11-30-2008, 04:08 PM

Alright ladies let me just get down to business. LOL I need to figure out what to do with my sons hair and fast. He used to have beautiful curls. I mean people used to say man look at his curls. Now it just looks nappy and feels really dry. I am not sure what to put into his hair. He is 2 years old. I just starting using Suave shampoo for his hair. I was not sure if I was able to co wash his hair and with what. I tried putting a little bit of castor oil in his hair and some KBB hair milk but his hair feels soft afterwards for a short while and then it feels extreamly dry again. What am I to do. He is all boy so he rolls and flips and just beats up his hair and because of this I don't know if I want to waste my good hair products on his hair. Or should I? I don't know ladies help with any info you can give, products, routines, anything. LOL Alright thanks a bunch in advance.

Fleurzty · 11-30-2008, 09:54 PM

I understand what you mean about not wasting your products on his hair LOL. If his hair is rebelling to Suave or other cheaper products, you might have to try using yours and see. IMO, you definitely have to keep his routine simple, maybe a leave-in and a hair butter. See how well that works for him. Winter is particularly drying, so that might also be a contributor to his hair changes. I use BWC leave-in for my son, but he barely has any hair

. It's $8 at Whole Foods. I would also suggest you not use a shampoo unless absolutely necessary. Try just co-washing and see if you get any results from that.

subbrock · 11-30-2008, 10:48 PM

personally, i would use the good stuff on him. try your routine out on him and see how his hair repsonds.
and try a satin pillowcase! my little girl looks like

when she sleeps over at her grand parents house because she sleeps on regular old cotten sheets and pillow over there. it really dries her hair out.
and can you do a dt on him? put it on his hair right before her gets in the tub and then rinse his hair out right before he gets out. that might help add some moisture.

lovingmycurls01 · 12-01-2008, 08:43 AM

Thanks so much for your advice. I will start using some of my products on him. I love the satin pillow case idea. Thanks bunches.

hairy situation · 02-01-2009, 12:26 PM

Suave coconut conditioner is great for co-washing. I started using it on my DD's hair (4A) after finding this site when she was one, and I'm still using it now that she's seven. It really lathers and cleans nicely, then I slather more on as a leave in. Her hair is super long and very moisturized. It's cheap but works really well for us, and doesn't leave buildup. Might be worth a try before you go for the $$$$ products

rainshower · 02-04-2009, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by lovingmycurls01

Alright ladies let me just get down to business. LOL I need to figure out what to do with my sons hair and fast. He used to have beautiful curls. I mean people used to say man look at his curls. Now it just looks nappy and feels really dry. I am not sure what to put into his hair. He is 2 years old. I just starting using Suave shampoo for his hair. I was not sure if I was able to co wash his hair and with what. I tried putting a little bit of castor oil in his hair and some KBB hair milk but his hair feels soft afterwards for a short while and then it feels extreamly dry again. What am I to do. He is all boy so he rolls and flips and just beats up his hair and because of this I don't know if I want to waste my good hair products on his hair. Or should I? I don't know ladies help with any info you can give, products, routines, anything. LOL Alright thanks a bunch in advance.

there is a great possibility that his hair texture will change over the next year or two before you see what you'll be working with for a while. i'm sure his hair is beautiful even without the visible curls people used to notice.

to me, he's still rather young to be putting straight castor oil on his hair. castor oil is a humectant like glycerin. it draws moisture from whatever it's next too. on a humid day, the oil would draw moisture to your son's hair. but in a dry environment, it would likely draw moisture from your son's hair, which is probably why his hair seemed dry after the products sank in.

personally, i would avoid heavy creams, leave-ins, protein treatments, and co-washing. if he's really active and rolls about, his scalp and hair need a mild cleanser to cut the perspiration, natural oils, and dirt. conditioners are formulated to withstand rinsing in order to coat hair and impart whatever properties it's supposed to have. which means that if you use a conditioner to "wash" his hair, residue will be left on his scalp and hair, which will likely contribute to lint and debris being more easily drawn to his hair and build up occurring.

we used california baby sensitive shampoo/bath wash on our babies and followed with sweet almond oil on their ends as a natural leave-in conditioner.

Suburbanbushbabe · 02-04-2009, 02:27 PM

He may never get back the curls. It could have been his baby hair. But I would use more moisturizing products on it and washing it with a less harsh shampoo or soap, or just condition wash with a shampoo as needed.

madhuri_dixit_fan · 02-07-2009, 03:57 PM

The satin pillowcase just about saved our lives, lol. My children hated satin caps, many brands never stayed on overnight anyway, and I'm sure one brand started to aggravate their hairlines and thin the hair due to the elastic.

I spray my sons hair with distilled water + aloe vera juice/gel, made fresh daily, kept in fridge for the day, and made in small amount, 2-4oz. After moistening his hair, in sections, I apply a light layer of Camellia Seed Oil and then a light layer of a natural hair gel like Aubrey Organic's, and a tiny touch of shea butter blend on the ends, and I smooth that into his hair, twirl the curls in the very frizzy section, and then let it airdry. My son gets super frizzy hair on his crown, the curls there EXPLODE and become very dry. And, for now, that method has helped.

However, I'm not sure you'd want to use gel with a 2 year old, as it'd have to be one super extra natural gel like KCCC and that's expensive. I can't see that 16oz $25 jar lasting more than a week in my house, lol, but with the $7 shipping this month it might be worth a try. And, shea butter can be very heavy. I use it in whipped form, and like a dime size amount or else my son's hair gets greasy look or feeling which his father hates. Too much of the oil + gel + shea butter would equally a lint and dirt collecting nightmare.

Maybe try Camellia Oil after you apply your light leave in or whatever. It's not heavy, a little goes a long way, and it made my kids hair so soft and helped retain moisture so well. I hope it's not a humectant like Castor Oil, in that it draws moisture from hair in dry climates, but it's been working well for us even in the dry winter.